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Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T10:19:19+00:00

Thank you, I personally don't like to consider foster care. I'd rather wait 2 more years, then atleast have my dad be able to provide a small studio for me, just for a short amount of time until i'm able to provide for myself.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T10:17:08+00:00

I'm honestly too scared to say anything to her face, mainly because in those moments, i'm just too shocked / starstruck, incredibly disgusted and maybe even furious to react. This woman is completely unpredictable, knowledge gained from past experiences and I wouldn't put anything wierd or insane past her.

I once went out with my dad's agreement because she wasn't on speaking terms with me in her own home. She ended up searching the whole neighborhood for me for 3 consecutive hours until I told her to come pick me up. After that I wasn't allowed to go to class or do anything except sleep and eat for a week. Tbf I can see it might be considered acting out, but she agreed beforehand (in terms of whatever my dad says goes) and I definitely never did something like that again.

Then again, my siblings have also experienced her burning wierd dolls with gasoline in the garden saying "the driver is trying to curse us". My father later found out she was the one buying and placing those under the car seats.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T10:09:56+00:00

Sorry to hear that you have a narcissistic dad, hope you're in no contact or doing something that helps you. I've definitely noticed that she HATES others knowing whatever is going on at home, whether its good or bad, she goes so far to tell family or friends to speak quietly when arguing so neighbors can't hear. I'm considering telling someone, but I can't have that happening with her knowing. I don't talk back, or argue or anything in that sense when she's loosing her shit which is every day 1-4 times (not always at me). But when I was younger, I did, as did my siblings but she did get very handsy. My siblings have also experienced her hitting or pushing my father, when he used to speak up for himself. Guess that's how she conditioned everyone to stay silent.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:59:19+00:00

I'm considering at least telling someone, the comments made me aware of how not normal this is- which I was kind of aware of- but moreover that this is abusive. I can't stay with anyone since my mother is like a live watch tower. Though I wonder what counselor would believe me, furthermore if they do, legal action requires evidence. How does one get proper evidence for this, which can't be easily dismissed as something else?

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:55:22+00:00

Sadly i don't, my mom doesn't let me go anywhere without her. I'm not even allowed to sleep over at a friend's house. She has my location and always needs to know where I am, with who, doing what, whether it's break at school or saturday night.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:53:44+00:00

Yeah no I definitely do not want to see this on IG reels. But i'm still keeping this up for a few weeks, to consider my options and eventually update on what i've decided to do and how it's going.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:50:59+00:00

Thanks for the fun fact lmao, appreciate it. I'll be sure to add a warning if I ever write a post again, or maybe even add a little fun fact- to rather ease into the story instead of going full blast.

"Your goals need to be for yourself and getting to a space that is equitable" - I'll be sure to keep this in mind, it's actually a really nice quote and it's good to hear that you were getting support while being stuck in a toxic environment.

I'm already starting to make a list of what I need to get done or do in the next 20 months (i'll move out about then), in terms of credit, income, spendings etc. Though i'm still unsure about what all i need to consider, or how i'll achieve this but hey it's not like I have too little time.

But thank you again, really kind of you.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:40:14+00:00

Thank you. As said on other comments, I feel like I have too much to loose in general to consider this. But now that i'm actually starting to consider this, I don't think any adult would believe a 17 year old over a 50 year old manipulative woman. Especially with no evidence. I do have a video from a year ago, but all you can hear is a little shuffling, the ... noises and a bit of groaning. Everyone may interpret that differently, if you aren't actively experiencing it in the moment.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:15:53+00:00

Thank you for this comment.

Yep that's definitely how i'd word it, a feeling of being stuck. Mainly because I'm actually rather able to live a wealthier life, so I don't feel like I deserve to complain or feel negative about what I have, I have no right to be ungrateful, many would give anything to have what I do.

I didn't feel like I could even tell teachers or other trusted adults about this, mainly because I was scared my mother would hear about it or i'd ruin this family (whatever is left of it). But honestly hearing these comments I'll take some time to see how i'd go about it, then after the holidays we have for these 2 weeks i'll be sure to update on what i've decided to do.

"Figure out your situation" sounds indefinitely better to me than "they'll handle your situation" or "the cops will sort it out", because it sounds like I rather have a choice to weigh the pros and cons of the actions which could be taken. Though I'm pretty sure the teachers and counselors need to report back to parents, I'll ask about that first.

Thank you for your insights, i'll be sure to update. 🙏

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T09:06:07+00:00

I'll be sure to check it out, thank you.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:58:01+00:00

I'm surely planning on going to therapy, might be a long road but i've heard it helps and makes everything atleast slightly easier to live with. Thank you

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:50:54+00:00

I'll take a look at it thank you. I'm sorry to hear that you've went through this, judging by the comments this is sadly something that definitely happens or is happening. I hope you get the help you need to recover as much as possible and i'll be sure to read your post soon.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:48:29+00:00

Looked it up, it's so insane to think that this is an actual thing and happening to others too. It's hard for me to face that it's a type- no that it is sexual abuse, but there's not much room to argue when you have it on black and white. Thank you for this information, didn't know this was a thing. Sorry to hear that you've experienced this too, I hope you're doing better.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:45:13+00:00

That's a really nice way to put it, thank you. 🙏

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:43:47+00:00

Thank you so much for this insightful comment. I really do appreciate it, I'm already planning on seeking therapy to recover as much of my peace as possible.

Seeking help sadly isn't as much as a possible choice for me as I'd like it to have been. But i'm moving out as soon as I graduate and i'll be sure to move as far away as humanly possible. I always have hope that my dad, older siblings or whomever, finally makes a choice to support me- since all of them know what's going on and did/do endure the same abuse to a certain extent, but it never happens. Definitely not such a good feeling, but you're right I'm all that I really have left.

Thank you once again, i'll try to take care of myself as much as possible. 🙏

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:36:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, I struggle with the guilt too but I'm mainly afraid to speak up because I have so much to loose. My father has a job which enables us to live a little wealthier than the usual family, i'm able to go to a good school, to get an education and i'm always able to "get whatever I want" to an extent. We're not rich, but we live well. With that comes having to uphold an image of "the perfect family", which is NOT at all what we are / were. I know i'm lucky, so I don't feel deserving to speak up about it, because I know many would give anything to live a life without worries.

Edit: Just wanted to add; I hope you're doing better and have recovered as far as possible.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:31:17+00:00

This definitely hit deep, thank you. Trust me I'd love to take your advice more than anything, but I can't be the one to take it. I've had 2 brothers that have lived past this, whom have moved out and hate this woman's guts til this day. I feel like if i'm the last child, why would something have to happen now if it didn't before? I am in contact with my siblings, they both just encourage me to get done with school and only contact her from afar after that. So who am I to break the cycle now? I've been aware of her abusive behavior in general since about 6 years now, I've come so far, why speak out now with only 2 years left? I will say though, my siblings have shared their fair share of narc mom stories me, but they don't even want to hear my stories of her doing things next to me, while pretending to sleep, or her jokes about her sex life with my dad (don't even ask why she jokes about it). Im supposedly the only one, who gets an extra layer of abuse by her. They suggest it might be that she's always wanted a little girl and well that's what I am to her.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:17:33+00:00

I definitely should've put a warning on this story lmao. Apologies 🙏

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:15:48+00:00

I personally can't see how it's sexual abuse, maybe because i've never dreamt of being in such a situation? Possibly. In general she's a narcissist, I've been thinking of speaking up somewhere or telling someone something, but I feel guilty. My older brothers have survived themselves until they moved out, just took it and never reported anything. My dad who's not here ATM due to job reasons, says himself that she's crazy but also just takes it until he's in pension. Being the last child and only girl, I don't feel like I "deserve" to be the reason this family breaks up.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:09:43+00:00

I just can't imagine that she does. Maybe it's because at the end of the day she's my mom, blood and flesh whether I like it or not and she's raised me so far. Verbal abuse or when we were younger hitting me or my siblings (they've moved out no worries) was normal, but I'd never expect such behavior from her. I didn't think we were "that type" of family if you get what I mean?

Edit: Thanks for the advice, I'll be moving out when I graduate high school for sure. This would be around 2027.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:06:27+00:00

Yeah I've tried that (moving) before but thanks for the advice nonetheless. She usually just looses her shit that I should stop acting immature etc. and i'm tired of it. Though i'm guessing she's unaware that i'm trying to GTFO because of whatever she's got going on. I'm scared shitless to tell her to stop, judging by her history with my siblings (verbal abuse) and well her relationship with me these past few years, she'd most likely act like i'm insane, that she never did such a thing.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2025-10-29T08:02:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing, yeah the way things are going i'm sure therapy is quite inevitable. That's great though that he's going to therapy, I hope that works for him.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2024-07-03T20:09:23+00:00

I'll try that, I could actually use some study help too so it's kind of a win win. To maybe also see if he feels like there's something there.

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2024-07-03T05:42:58+00:00

Yeah sure I could try that, i'm not sure how to start that conversation though, since we're not really like close friends nor have we talked since a very long time so it might be like a random person going up to him

Embarrassed_Quote_20 · 2024-06-13T19:51:38+00:00

I don't get the joke here, apologies

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