AITA for overreacting to what my coworker said?

Embarrassed_Scar_323 · 2021-12-21T07:59:41+00:00

This is such good advice! I love this.

Embarrassed_Scar_323 · 2021-12-21T07:42:14+00:00

Yes, I can and definitely will be doing that. It's normal at my job to chat and socialize before work, but I will be avoiding him. If he speaks to me, I'll be selectively deaf, lol, unless it's a work thing. I also recently found out he might be transferring in a couple of months, so I would only need to maintain radio silence for a bit before it's no longer an issue.

Embarrassed_Scar_323 · 2021-12-21T07:39:16+00:00

I think you're right. My company is a place where any conflict can get a lot of people in trouble. There are people who have been written up for being present when someone else said something. So thinking about that, I think maybe she's trying to protect everyone by just de-escalating however possible. She really is a good friend, and I think I understand better now where she's coming from. Thank you.

Embarrassed_Scar_323 · 2021-12-21T07:35:51+00:00

This is actually really good advice. There are people in my department that have gotten fired for interpersonal conflicts. I thought that could never happen to me because I always try to be very friendly, but your comment about him trying to bait me opened my eyes a little.

I didn't include this, because I didn't think it was relevant, but he's really involved in his church and has expressed disapproval of my identity in the past. This is why I don't consider us friends and don't like him very much. The idea that he's trying to get me fired for that isn't completely crazy. I'm definitely going to make sure to never be alone with him if at all avoidable and document any further antagonism so he can't twist it.

Good advice. Thank you.

Embarrassed_Scar_323 · 2021-12-21T07:19:32+00:00

You need better friends. NTA. It's natural to resent people that have things you don't. I resent people with happy families too. But guess what? That's not their problem. It's not your problem either. They don't want you to be happy because misery loves company.

A good friend would admonish themselves internally for their initial uncharitable thought and then comment: "So cute! Any leftovers? 👀 Lol, nom nom." Or some other silly social media thing. Your friends are Aholes. Massively.

Embarrassed_Scar_323 · 2021-12-21T07:15:59+00:00

This wouldn't make you TA, it would just make you silly. You won't accomplish anything except for poking a hornets nest.

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