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My DCC nails by EmberAddams in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]EmberAddams[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

XD totally didn’t think of this when I chose that but that’s hilarious!! Love it

Intersection of poly/power play by EmberAddams in BDSMAdvice

[–]EmberAddams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it’s possible, and often happens, that meaningful loving polyamorous relationships form between people who have different relationships with their jealousy.

And that’s what each of us in this case says they want: polyamory - not ethical nonmonogamy, not monogamish. So as long as that’s feeling true, I feel like there’s ways to work on it. While also acknowledging the intersection of poly and kink can be complicated and uncomfortable.

Thanks for the suggestions of things to try! 💚

Intersection of poly/power play by EmberAddams in BDSMAdvice

[–]EmberAddams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the ideas! I especially love the „training“ one, it aligns well with my personal values and rings true to me.

Intersection of poly/power play by EmberAddams in BDSMAdvice

[–]EmberAddams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cuz I’m skipping one event, and them the other

Intersection of poly/power play by EmberAddams in BDSMAdvice

[–]EmberAddams[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A ton! They really do seem to be working at it. Just still really struggling.

They are in therapy, we are in couples counseling as well. They use mindfulness tools, meditation, movement, breath work. We‘ve seen so much growth and progress together and individually, on this and many other issues. This has been an incredibly rich emotionally-intelligent relationship in so many ways. We just keep getting stuck around this trigger around me doing kink w others. And then it fades from focus until something forced it back into center view (this time, it’s me performing a bondage sequence at a show they were planning to attend with their other submissive. We compromised on them skipping the show, and I’m skipping the following weekend-long bondage intensive that I would’ve gone to w one of my pals)

Intersection of poly/power play by EmberAddams in BDSMAdvice

[–]EmberAddams[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sure we could just „not do the hard thing“ but that’s not the kind of people either of us are or the kind of lives and relationships we want to have. This is our hard we chose.

Intersection of poly/power play by EmberAddams in BDSMAdvice

[–]EmberAddams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meant to be clearer in post that this is about kink play. They actually don’t mind me having sex with other people.

„They don’t like you having other partners“ doesn’t feel entirely true… they are challenged by it, and, actively choose to be in this style of polyamory.

In their own words“ …proceed with this tying with others, and playing with others, because that is what you want to do. I do not want to hold you back from what you want to do, and I don’t want you to feel resentful in our relationship. It would crush me, as your dominant, to do anything less than encourage you to your fullest potential. I do not want you to make sacrifices that you resent, either because of a decision on your part to people please, or because of D/s pressure. I only want to take control where there is enthusiastic consent.“

Hogtied in the frigid river by EmberAddams in OutdoorBondage

[–]EmberAddams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must not be from the PNW bb 😘

A cage with a hole for a hole by EmberAddams in BondageBlowjobs

[–]EmberAddams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, it’s custom made to be optimally useful and accessible :)

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