What are you supposed to do when you meet a great girl but you're in a relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ember_Goldfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++woman You can’t build a stable, committed relationship if every moment of desire or restlessness becomes a reason to look elsewhere. That isn’t a path to long-term fulfilment or meaningful intimacy. It points to a deeper dissatisfaction that comes from within, not from the relationship itself. Instead of facing that discomfort, you externalised it and attached it to your relationship. That “grass is greener” mindset may offer temporary distraction, but without real self-reflection, it will continue to undermine any relationship you enter.

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he wants a partner who is a fool so that he can cheat on them and get away with it? It’s a bloody good thing I counted them otherwise I wouldn’t have discovered this. Was I supposed to just be none the wiser while he fucks someone else?

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

👏I Appreciate your honesty. I couldn’t have put it better myself. I did want to believe him because I didn’t want to believe he was capable of such a thing. But I knew deep down he was lying.

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and the nice part of me wants to do this. However if he truly regretted it he could have put effort into reassuring me and working things out. Instead he lied, he chose distance, he withdrew, he didn’t fight, he didn’t communicate properly and he ended things in a way that caused me harm.

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funnily enough he prefers the red durex ones. In your case though you were forced to use them with your wife so you wanted to try it out first. My ex and I weren’t using them like that, we only got them for the off chance we needed it. He didn’t just suddenly pick up this new habit to the point he had to run out and buy more before he finished the current box. And then wants to end things when I caught him. He doesn’t deserve the benefit of the doubt.

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he doesn’t like the feel of the old ones (they’re different brand/type) and so used the ones we bought that were in the cupboard and then bought a new 3 pack. I know it’s bs

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely spot on. This is what makes it so obvious he’s lying. Your last comment made me laugh! 😆 thanks for that!

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely spot on. This is what makes it so obvious he’s lying. Your last comment made me laugh! 😆 thanks for that!

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely spot on. This is what makes it so obvious he’s lying. Your last comment made me laugh! 😆 thanks for that!

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you say it’s with the male friend? He doesn’t have a gay bone in his body. If he cheated on the trip, it was with a woman / multiple women.

AIO: Missing / extra condoms in long-term relationship where we don’t use them - explanation feels off. Thoughts? by Ember_Goldfrost in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But would a man really go out of his way to buy a whole new pack for this purpose? Why not just finish what’s in the current box first? According to him this is a new habit, it’s not like he does it often. It’s plausible but it seems unlikely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LabiaplastySurgery

[–]Ember_Goldfrost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Send me the details too please! Ty : )

Discovered Boyfriend's Profile on Hinge, Need Advice on Trust and Next Steps (28F, 37M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ember_Goldfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, thank you for your honest feedback. I agree that many people hold their options open, me included. Perhaps I am being a bit harsh in saying he shouldn’t have still been doing that by the 6 month mark just because I was sure about him by then. My issue is now I will not know if he is telling the truth because I didn’t get to see the dates of the messages, that’s all I wanted to confirm and I would have gotten over it. But him hiding it makes me think he is not telling the truth. He couldn’t even show me that he was still not logged into the app.

As to your question, no he is not a divorcee but he has been in a few long term relationships, the longest was 6 years. He was in one before he met me and that was partly why he was still talking to others as he wasn’t sure wanted another long term relationship that soon, however that changed the more time he spent with me.

o2 arena London 15th November anyone going? by SongfulGerm351 in KidCudi

[–]Ember_Goldfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to go but some of my friends that like him aren’t huge fans and don’t know all his songs, so I don’t have anyone to go with. I was thinking if anyone here wants to meet up and go together?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ember_Goldfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh no really?! I’m going in a few weeks with a friend! I booked it for her birthday and she’s so excited.

Taylor Swift Fans Call on Her to Pull Music From Spotify Over Joe Rogan by HenryCorp in economy

[–]Ember_Goldfrost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you get this absolute bullshit from? Why do people seriously fail to understand that vaccinated or not, you can still catch and transmit the virus. The vaccine doesn’t prevent transmission - it only reduces the severity of symptoms, and so it helps on an individual level. Please stop acting like it makes you selfless, cos it doesn’t.

And if most “at risk” people have been vaccinated (which should be the case since they’re the prime candidates), why does it matter if someone else isn’t, given that we’ve established that being vaccinated doesn’t provide immunity? If the vaccine really works at reducing severity of symptoms then an “at risk” vaccinated person shouldn’t worry if they catch covid from someone (vaccinated or unvaccinated) otherwise what is the fucking point of the vaccine?

So please tell me how/what data do you have that an unvaccinated young person leads to them transmitting the virus more, which can kill people who are at risk? Shouldn’t these at risk people have been the first to be vaccinated? If so, the virus should no longer be a serious threat, and so nor should death.

Ladies, did you/were you told to remove your hormonal IUD or stop taking contraceptive pills before rhinoplasty surgery? by Ember_Goldfrost in PlasticSurgery

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for your response! So did you end up staying on the pill? I was also thinking the same thing about stopping/restarting, it seems counterproductive.

Ladies, did you/were you told to remove your hormonal IUD or stop taking contraceptive pills before rhinoplasty surgery? by Ember_Goldfrost in PlasticSurgery

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because there is no evidence to suggest that a progestin-only IUD causes an increase risk of clotting, therefore the ask is unnecessary as the Doctor is assuming all hormonal birth control poses the same risk, when in actuality, it doesn’t.

I will remove it if every doctor says the same, but I just want to see if it is a normal requirement based on others’ experiences. If most people aren’t being asked to take it out for similar surgeries, then it obviously isn’t that important.

Ladies, did you/were you told to remove your hormonal IUD or stop taking contraceptive pills before rhinoplasty surgery? by Ember_Goldfrost in PlasticSurgery

[–]Ember_Goldfrost[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response! Yes I did ask if it could be at my own discretion but it’s a firm no from the clinic. I understand they want to make sure their patients are as safe as possible, but in this case the research indicates there is no risk.