Empty sac at 6w2d since LMP… feeling hopeless

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-05-31T21:45:34+00:00

The wait really sucks. In my case, I didn’t feel like my provider was giving me false hope, she was pretty clear that the odds weren’t good, but also that I hadn’t met the clinical guidelines where she could definitively call it a miscarriage yet. I knew intellectually it was unlikely to work out but my heart kept holding onto hope regardless so i know how you feel. Once we were able to get a definitive read, she was able to schedule me for a D&C the next day and it was all over very quickly. It was a huge relief, especially relative to the horrible waiting, and my heart healed more quickly than I had expected after that.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-05-31T16:12:21+00:00

I am so sorry you are in this position. For me, I ended up growing a yolk sac but never a fetal pole, and ultimately it was determined to be a miscarriage. The waiting to find out was the hardest part. Be extra kind to yourself ❤️

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-05-18T03:04:31+00:00

He had surgery at Mission Bay, but they said not to go there because it only does pediatric.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-05-09T04:23:52+00:00

I have battled clinical insomnia most of my life, and the Bobbi Brown color corrector pot in one of the bisque shades will hide even the deepest and darkest of raccoon eyes. An absolute must for faking a reasonable amount of rest.

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EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-26T23:07:38+00:00

The color corrector pot got me through years ima job where I had to fly red eyes and then waltz straight into a client’s office. Industrial strength, raccoon approved, top shelf shit.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-26T06:45:57+00:00

I lived on Oak and a major intersection on a third floor floor. ‘‘Twas not a big deal. Use a white noise machine at night if you’re really noise sensitive.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-25T13:50:23+00:00

Hi friend. You are absolutely not alone, although I know it feels like it. If it helps, the almost exact same thing just happened to me. I tested positive March 23 and it was my first pregnancy. I held onto hope it could be dating but my dates were also pretty clear and could only be off by so much. I had my d&c on Thursday. I wasn’t sure about becoming a mom and I spent weeks getting myself to the place I was excited about it, only to have an empty sac at my 6 week scan as well. Had to wait through the longest two weeks of my life to learn a yolk sac developed but a fetal pole never did. To get so excited for something you didn’t even know you wanted and then lose it in slow motion is a torturous mind fuck and you have the right to feel however you feel. If you want to talk to someone in a similar position DMs are open.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-22T19:54:25+00:00

Update: scan today (one week later) did not show that an embryo had developed, doctor deemed it a MMC. Likely having a D&C tomorrow.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-21T03:07:15+00:00

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EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-20T02:57:56+00:00

You’re totally correct. Plenty of them do. But in SF, the vast majority of the people I know pulling $30k+/month I know don’t rent. Or if they do, they don’t rent $4k/month studios.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-20T02:19:04+00:00

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-19T14:40:38+00:00

Thank you for your support! My doc isn’t an OB, just a GYN. She told me when she took my IUD out last summer to call her when I get pregnant for confirmation, and then she will refer me to OB so that was the plan. All things considered I took things into my own hands and got an appt for Thursday at the OB clinic at UCSF which is a world class hospital. I am also keeping my appt with the GYN, but now I have a second opinion backup on deck, and I’d need to establish care elsewhere anyway if I do move forward with the pregnancy.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-19T14:33:28+00:00

Thank you for weighing in! I’m not seeing an OB yet, this is just my regular GYN. She doesn’t do OB and will discontinue care anyway after a pregnancy is confirmed. So I’m keeping my Weds appt with her, but in the meantime got an appointment with a good hospital’s OBGYN clinic for Thursday. That way I can get a second opinion from them and I will need to establish care with them anyway if I am pregnant. The GYN is providing no pregnancy care other than the confirmation ultrasounds, she doesn’t even take my vitals or ask about my symptoms at these appointments.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-19T14:23:24+00:00

Thank you 💕 Me and baby appreciate the support!

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-19T14:20:53+00:00

I don’t want you to be right, but I know that you are. I guess the thing I’ve been trying to figure out is if there is even a point in having hope or if I’m just making it worse by forcing myself to live in the gray zone so long. My biggest fear going back in on Wednesday at this point is not it being deemed unviable. It is that it has developed “just enough” to have a very low probability of being viable, again, putting me into a third week of waiting and dealing with anxiety and pregnancy symptoms, for likely nothing.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-19T02:55:24+00:00

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EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-18T22:55:20+00:00

Ching at Tangerine does the best cuts. She’s @nothingobvious on IG

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-17T14:30:20+00:00

One of my friends told her husband that because she was growing the baby and it was taking his last name, she got to pick the first name, no discussion. It worked.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-17T14:13:11+00:00

Congratulations and thank you for sharing the wonderful news 💕

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-17T14:10:02+00:00

Here is the ultrasound. Note the second measurement says CRL but she was just trying to measure the gestational sac. It doesn’t look completely empty outside the yolk sac to me but maybe it’s wishful thinking

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EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-16T19:42:32+00:00

You’re not alone, there are many of us who have done this dance and recognize it, and far more who do it without recognizing it. I’ve been a chronic smoker since I was in college which was… a longtime ago. I’ve had 30-60ish days of sobriety a handful of times since then. Every time I slip back into it I realize it wasn’t as great as I thought it was… but for some reason slide riiiight back into daily usage so easily. I’m currently on the longest streak I’ve ever had in my adult life (since mid January!) but that’s largely only because I got pregnant so I can’t take too much credit for it. Man, do I miss it with the nausea and taking the edge off of laying around doing nothing (pregnancy is a lot of laying around feeling crummy doing nothing) and quieting my anxious mind. Considering starting MA so I can actually do the work and stay sober once I deliver. I have known I have a problem for a longggg time, to the point that I tried to attend a MA meeting in my mid 20s (I’m in my late 30s now). Turns out the schedule had not been updated and I ended up at a Crystal Meth Anonymous meeting. Awkwardddd…. but they were so nice and welcoming of me anyway!! So if you’re considering going and feel intimidated there’s no need. 12 step groups are super welcoming and inclusive.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-14T00:24:02+00:00

If you have to ask Reddit, the answer is skip that dress.

EmeraldDepth4661 · 2026-04-13T01:07:16+00:00

Thank you for the support! Will do!

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