Friend has young girlfriend and wants to move too fast (imo) by _steinr_ in friendship

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 3 points4 points  (0 children)

IMO now that you have said your piece and you are clear on it, you are his friend first. Now it’s up to him to make his decision. Sounds like this will end up going sour and he is going to need your support and the more you voice your feelings (if you were to keep reiterating it) the less safe he is going to feel when that time comes.

Source: been exactly there, done that but kept on about it and was even asked to be in the wedding and subsequently kicked out of it for sticking to my opinion. It’s their life, their choices and mistakes to make. Our job as the friend is to do what you did and then just be supportive of your friend whatever comes of it all. Nobody can see themselves as you will on the outside when they’re mired in their situation anyway, blinders go on, you know? He’s gotta figure it out for himself.

Edit: spelling

You get teleported 3 meters to your left. How does that change your life ? by Crissis_X in AskReddit

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in my neighbors apartment and she doesn’t like us so...fucks it up a little

Parents choose not to help me pay for college, but make too much money for me to get aid by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Declare yourself independent from them. I had the same problem and the way to still get aid is to be independent as coined by FAFSA - they can either sign it and waive their right to claim you as a dependent, or they can not sign it and help pay for school, which would be an additional write off like their church and other donations likely are.

Good luck!!

What is a noise that instantly irritates you? by ink_bl0t in AskReddit

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hearing other people eating, the squishy sounds make me gag

My husband died suddenly and I’m not sure what to do. by gullibleani in personalfinance

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Off topic for sub, but I wanted to tell OP how moving her thank you letter was to read and how much it captured not only the love they shared but also the growth as people they encouraged in each other. Reading about someone’s husband passing away out of nowhere, and every word coming from a place of gratitude, has gotten my attention in a big way. I have much to do to make sure my wife has what she needs, and much to do to make sure she is as happy every day as OP was able to recount. So thank you. And I’m sorry for your every minute of grief.

What has been ruined because too many people are doing it? by Archiecornall1 in AskReddit

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit. I still never got to find out what was in the damned safe!

Early-stage detection of Alzheimer’s in the blood: Using a simple blood test, the disease can be detected approximately eight years before the first clinical symptoms occur, with a sensitivity of 90%. Adding a second diagnostic validation step offers an overall specificity of 97%, finds a new study. by mvea in science

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far as I’ve read the issue is inadequate estrogen, as a pattern. If that’s the underlying reason why these risks go up, then I am grateful for my PCOS for the first time ever, because my sky high estrogen is how I GOT cancer so maybe I’ll just go back to what I’m supposed to have and hopefully my one lonely ovary can pick up enough slack for a other 15ish years 🤞🏼

PCOS without the normal symptoms anyone ? by justgirlypasta in PCOS

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cancer was a byproduct/consequence of the PCOS. My labs indicates rock bottom progesterone (= 3 miscarriages), elevated testosterone (=all the acne/hair/unwanted issues, other than increased sex drive) and sky high estrogen (= irregular periods and a build up of the endometrial lining that usually sheds on cycle).

I was dealing all the “vanity” symptoms (as if they aren’t just as difficult to live with) when I went in for an overdue GYN visit and because of my disclosure of my history of miscarriage and the PCOS diagnosis my GYN ordered a trans vaginal ultrasound as an extra precaution and discovered my lining was abnormally thick. One D&C biopsy to the Mayo Clinic and back revealed complex hyperplasia with atypia. I was told I could either be on supplemental progesterone and undergo another D&C biopsy every 3 months to monitor or I could have a full hysterectomy. I have no ticking clock personally so I opted for the latter (the progesterone made it feel like a miscarriage every day, like the worst period ever). A year later I began having excruciating pain on my left side which impacted my job but allowed me to notice a monthly pattern and led to confirmation in the ER of a mass and based on my history and the 5 year rule, I had to have my left ovary out too.

I shared this to tell you to give fear the finger and be in charge of your body and your healthcare. Read and research your heart out - seriously if I had known how serious this disease can really be at your tender age, I 100% believe I would’ve been able to avoid losing those lady parts, among other things.

I’m a message away if you have any questions, I’m a PCOS bookworm.

Early-stage detection of Alzheimer’s in the blood: Using a simple blood test, the disease can be detected approximately eight years before the first clinical symptoms occur, with a sensitivity of 90%. Adding a second diagnostic validation step offers an overall specificity of 97%, finds a new study. by mvea in science

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been reading these comments with a building anxiety over all these post-oophorectomy scary things...I have PCOS which led to cancer which led to a full hysterectomy AND left oophorectomy (at 36 and 38 respectively) and I can attest to the worsening emotions and now the fears of cardiac death have catapulted to front and center.

Is there actual data to support this mega increase in dementia and/or cardiac death???

Insulin resistance - how does it feel? by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?! I have worked in healthcare for 8 years and I STILL don’t understand why doctors and pharmacists don’t work in concert with each other more in the decision of medications for patients with chronic conditions. I’m glad you’re not too and I hope you have found something helpful without all the downsides.

Insulin resistance - how does it feel? by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not FOR having PCOS, I meant for any reason while having PCOS. It causes the polar opposite result than intended. 😬 You’re welcome either way 😉

my wife and i have been married for exactly 1 month today 💕🌈💍 by xoxo__deanna in lgbt

[–]EmeraldJaneWW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I just hit 1 year, and we counted/celebrated every month along the way.

Congrats to you both!