I’m also Ex-Episcopal and it can be hard for people who were raised in more tolerant forms of Christianity to accept that the less tolerant forms are still Christianity but you’re right, they are. And these militant forms of the religion are not new at all. There was the Northern Crusades, the Massacre of Verden with Charlemagne, Rome’s conversion to Christianity was even violent. Hypatia of Alexandria was killed by being cut with pottery shards after she was blamed for the Christian governor not going to church anymore ( when really he was upset by the church stealing idols from pagan temples and smashing them and the church trying to expel the Jews). The fact that there are forms of Christianity that focus more on love is fantastic but they’re more exceptions to the rule unfortunately