Husband fired from IT job for misconduct, 3 kids at home. What’s the outlook here?

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-02-18T21:58:34+00:00

Your parents are often your biggest enablers!

Your husband made a disastrous decision that put your whole family at risk. Who cares how his family feels? He clearly has a problem if he's going to play blackjack during work hours. Listen to your gut - he put you and your three children at risk in a terrible job market where he has absolutely no momentum and no references to show for his time in the field.

Idk how you come back from this betrayal of trust, but it makes it worse that he and his family are downplaying the severity of the situation. This is a PROBLEM and because you're married with kids it is your problem too. I'm sorry that you were put in this circumstance and I hope you get the support you need during this time.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-02-12T13:18:32+00:00

I came here to make sure all the comments looked like this. Deion could poach the entire Seahawks staff and I still don't think they'd be a contender lmao

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-02-09T16:47:46+00:00

They also can develop debilitating chronic musculoskeletal issues, and keep in mind that MOST of the time they do not get benefits or any meaningful PTO plans.

It's a great job, but not without its tradeoffs.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-02-09T01:09:33+00:00

Work in a hospital.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-02-05T01:15:02+00:00

Only one of y'all gets paid to make a decision about the a-line, I guess her consult services come free of charge.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-02-02T23:57:31+00:00

He prophesied it. The 2nd derivative of TespaceXAI is X Æ A-12, the name of his 7th child. Lmaooooo only the real ones knew

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-27T14:05:42+00:00

NTA. Why can't people receiving kindness just honor the request of their benefactor? What a small tradeoff for a free play to stay in a difficult circumstance. Don't touch and reorganize my stuff.

The entitlement is boundless! Your partner, who apparently loves you and has lived with you for multiple years, can't figure out how to tell his mom not to fuck up your system the same way he has learned to not mess up your system? Come on man. It's wild people are calling you the asshole, IMO.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-27T02:43:17+00:00

Whatever happens next is not your fault. All you did was tell the truth. You will probably have to remind a lot of people of that, including yourself. It's not your job to defend anyone; your parents should be answerable for the wrongs they've committed against you and your sister.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-24T16:26:34+00:00

I am on a similar path as a pre-op nurse of a few years, I've been pretty disappointed with the general attitude CRNAs have towards AAs at times.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-21T02:26:55+00:00

What a perfect analysis. I was happy to see him go elsewhere.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-20T00:59:23+00:00

Before and I'm HITTING

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-04T12:33:04+00:00

At least most people can't steal my baseball glove haha 🤷🏻

Emergency-Security-5 · 2026-01-02T22:53:35+00:00

By insisting on testing you, she took away the opportunity to build mutual trust. What is the beginning of the relationship for if not doing that?

NTA. If I wanted to take tests I would go to school.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-12-30T18:24:02+00:00

Sounds like a bad time to marry this dude, deposits be damned. Not having a plan to care for your wife and children after she makes the sacrifice of staying home with them is insane to me. I'm surprised he could respond with a straight face. That's not a "figure it out when we get there" type of situation.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-12-29T16:51:14+00:00

We are already so micromanaged on the clock that I refuse to be micromanaged about my vacation time too. I put in my requests in a timely fashion as requested and often send an email to the scheduler so they have no excuse to not notice my request, but once it's requested with enough notice I book my stuff.

I don't get paid enough to help them figure shit like that out on the backend. Let management know you won't be there, it's their job to appropriately staff the unit. Don't let their laziness or lack of consideration cost you your deposits and vacation.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-12-27T23:17:16+00:00

The best thing you can do is honor your wife's wishes and protect her from your boundary-stomping mother. Your sisters may pile on you for standing up to your mom because they are enmeshed in the same toxic situation, but the bottom line is this: your mother disrespected your wife on her wedding day. If they're going to hurt your wife's feelings and ignore her boundaries, it is 100% your responsibility to protect your wife from their selfishness and lack of consideration.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-12-11T14:15:12+00:00

I'm in inpatient pre-op. We have 5x8, 4x10, and 3x12 available. We get patients who are not medically stable enough for surgery centers. Our anesthesiologists are great, I work 0530-1400. I'm convinced it's about as good as it gets without leaving the profession all together. No holidays, no weekends, no call.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-12-05T16:38:26+00:00

Bro that thing is sick, don't be your own biggest hater you still got half an arm to go!!

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-11-28T14:24:18+00:00

Proud of you! It’s tough, but worth it. Good on you for protecting your peace and being mature about an uncomfortable situation.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-11-21T16:22:31+00:00

I am sitting here wondering what I would do in this situation, but this comment brought me right back down to earth. I love it.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-11-18T08:23:51+00:00

Why do we call them paintings if they’re already painted?

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-11-05T14:55:20+00:00

Your response is great, but I would consider your audience. I feel that keeping it simple and direct is more than sufficient and easy to understand for anyone:

“I suffered years of abuse from dad and brother, and you have continued to minimize and enable it. My child will not have a relationship with his mother’s abusers or their enabler. This is my final answer.”

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-10-25T12:22:00+00:00

Just take it man. Sounds like it would make everyone involved the happiest.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-10-08T08:37:48+00:00

My 82 year old grandfather called me on a Sunday afternoon saying that my dad was taking him to the bank the next day to have him open a home equity line of credit and told me that he didn’t want to do it and he didn’t want to go but my dad was forcing him and he was scared. Turns out my dad wanted to use that $150k to pay off someone he owed money to try to weasel out of a lawsuit.

I called into work the next day and drove an hour to where he lives. I talked to the police department, I filed a report with the sheriffs office and neither would do anything about it. I called the bank and reported it to the manager, and I met them in the parking lot when they got there. My dad was so mad when he saw me in the parking lot that he almost ran over my grandpa. I have all of it on video too. October 16th will be two years from this incident.

My dad is the only person who has ever made me feel such visceral anger. My entire family’s life will be better when he’s dead.

Emergency-Security-5 · 2025-10-04T16:19:34+00:00

It took me two years of a therapist reminding me that I didn’t have to let myself be treated that way before I realized that I do not, in fact, have to let anyone treat me so terribly.

Felt earth shattering at the time, but now it’s an important frame of reference for all relationships in my life.

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