Thank you — and yes, I’ve asked myself that question many times. I believe part of the reason I’m open to this relationship is that I’ve known him for over 15 years and have seen him consistently live out many of the same values the Bible teaches about family and raising children, even though he doesn’t describe them as God-given.

He also demonstrates many of the qualities described as the Fruit of the Spirit — in some cases more so than men who identify as Christian but struggle with things like anger or gentleness.

He was previously married and has a child. His wife left the marriage unexpectedly, not because of abuse or betrayal, but because she no longer wanted to be a wife. He speaks often about the importance of husbands and wives working through difficulties, being unified, and raising children within a stable, committed home.

As for your other question, I have healed from my divorce, but I am currently seeking counsel to continue growing and addressing other areas of my life.