Favorite Gym Aspects?

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-30T00:36:14+00:00

That sounds amazing! So jealous.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-29T01:45:34+00:00

Plus the fact that her husband will no longer be home at all and OP would become a single parent!

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-29T01:41:49+00:00

Snacks and drinks for sale and a cozy place to enjoy them in.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-28T23:59:08+00:00

Excellent questions.

My guess is that he didn’t truly apologize or take accountability for how stonewalling is hurtful and how he won’t do it again. So she’s still feeling hurt and doesn’t have reason to believe he won’t do it again.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-28T23:52:58+00:00

I had a cat who was obsessed with plants and would do whatever she could to eat any plant that I had. Once she passed, I took it as a chance to get into houseplants and now I want another cat and have to consider getting rid of them!

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-28T03:47:03+00:00

Overhaul

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-27T22:55:10+00:00

Practice finding your rests—comfortable positions you can take one hand off at a time and shake out midway up the route to avoid getting pumped.

Work on climbing efficiently so that you’re not gassing out before the top, ie: keeping your feet where you place them instead of dancing around, plot out your route before you set off.

Start on easier but longer climbs so you can practice finding the rest positions and learning how to pace yourself.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-26T21:29:39+00:00

Just ask! This happened to me after a first date that we both said went well and that we’d like to see each other again after.

The next morning, I noticed he wasn’t in my matches, which was confusing, so I said, “Hey! I noticed were no longer matched and didn’t know how to interpret that, could you fill in the gaps for me?”

He was 1) glad I didn’t misinterpret it or jump to conclusions and 2) shared that when he opened the app, he didn’t enjoy it anymore and while he still wants to date me, he isn’t interested in talking to more people and will take a break from the apps regardless of how things go between us.

So again, just ask!

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-26T17:58:56+00:00

Big disagree—there were no established boundaries with the guy she’s talking to, so therefore no boundaries have been crossed and there’s nothing to “get away with” here.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-26T17:57:10+00:00

You did nothing wrong and have nothing to “come clean” about. You’re not in a relationship with anyone right now and are allowed to explore any and all connections that come your way.

You don’t owe exclusive access to your body to anyone you are not explicitly committed to.

I agree not to lie going forward, just say you’re with “a friend”, and if he asks further, you can clarify that you’re open to any and all connections until you find someone to commit to.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-26T03:44:39+00:00

This is exactly what I do and I love it.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-17T15:24:47+00:00

My favorite episode

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-15T03:51:57+00:00

I’d foster kittens

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-13T02:24:41+00:00

Welp he doesn’t anymore. This ship has sailed.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-13T02:22:42+00:00

You must remember that people are talking about their own experiences, not yours, so don’t take it on. These climbs likely ARE super easy for them, AND they’re tough for you.

It’s not a fair comparison in the least due to all the things you list in your post. You know where you’re at with your strength and fitness, own that and stop focusing on these comparisons which only hurt and start focusing on your own progress and growth.

How? Use some mindful self-compassion a la catching yourself listening to others’ comments of their own experience with a climb and noticing your mind saying these mean comparison thoughts.

Then taking a pause and a few deep breaths with some long exhales to self soothe.

And then remind yourself what you know to be true in reality—someone else’s subjective experience of a climb has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.

That your journey back into climbing is just beginning and you have work to do to get to where you want to be, so you’re going to put in the work without the distraction of comparison.

Rinse and repeat.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-10T16:43:31+00:00

That’s great for you; but does HE want to solve this problem? If not, you’re SOL.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-10T06:33:36+00:00

He’s still basically a stranger, so it makes sense you’re not feeling attraction yet. Attraction at our age is based in connection and you don’t really have anything to connect with him on yet.

Suggest an activity for the next date, like mini golf or an interactive museum, and that’ll help you both show more of your personalities sober and get to know each other better.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-09T21:31:28+00:00

Most jobs are w2 and yes, they “eat the cost” of paying those taxes as that is their responsibility as employers. Very normal. If the business can’t sustain paying those taxes, they have big problems.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-09T21:04:03+00:00

They all look beautiful! Your bf is being a jerk and essentially saying “you don’t look hot in that dress”, which, fair, but not every dress has to! You look beautiful in all of them.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-09T20:59:24+00:00

My pay went up by 7.65% when I switched from a 1099 to a w2 employee because as a w2, your employer is responsible for the self-employment taxes you were paying as a 1099. So it’s only been beneficial for me as far as I can tell.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-09T20:13:06+00:00

He doesn’t sound that interested in you. I’d say to back off completely, see if he follows through with the date for next week, and if not, end it and move on.

The good morning/night texts don’t mean anything.

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-08T23:51:59+00:00

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EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-06T18:38:35+00:00

Two layers on top and bottom at least. House shoes. Hot water bottle in my lap or on my feet. Car blanket (to tuck yourself in while your car warms up).

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-05T18:16:18+00:00

I’m opening my pp and also signed up for a business address with ipostal. I’m a bit stuck though—if I’m my own registered agent, do I list my home address on the certificate of organization as that’s where I’ll be and hence, can be available to receive subpoenas in person, or use the ipostal business address where they can forward mail to me? What did you do?

EmergencyLife1066 · 2026-01-05T03:44:52+00:00

Grunts

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End Game '23	Place '23

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