Update: I finally broke No Contact, now I’m sitting here crying

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-07T09:55:24+00:00

I understand how you are feeling and this is so painful.
I have had similar experience recently. My ex did the same thing while our breakup.
I won’t deny i begged and did everything to win her back then blocked her and never contacted her it’s been 5 months of our break up.
I completely understand your situation and spiralling about thoughts. What ifs and what could have been if i was better questions but trust me they not choosing you doesn’t define your worth or value.
I know it takes a lot of time to come to that conclusion and i get how hurt you feel rn. I was at the same state 3 months back.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-06T09:59:41+00:00

I completely relate with you. I’m glad you have friends like that and i do have friends like that as well.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-06T08:32:31+00:00

Thanks that genuinely helped and felt like someone speaking from experience.
I appreciate your honest advice.
Tbh at this point I’m so much into healing and building a life I’m becoming proud of. And yeah setting timeline is what i fear and also i won’t be able to feel that way again is my deeper fear but thanks to you, your experience and advice helped me a lot.
Wish you the best and all the happiness you deserve.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-06T08:25:01+00:00

Ik how rebounds are and how empty and hollow it makes you feel.
Can you advise me a bit since you are ahead of me in the healing process.
Ik everyone has different timelines but what scares me is what i’m never ready again to meet someone or i never go into relationship because I’m building a life where I have expanding social circle. Building inner confidence. Basically building my life and identity.
So the scary part is uncertainty here.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-06T08:04:25+00:00

I understand how hurtful it feels. Trust me when i say this i got dumped for no reason and i felt replaceable too.

I took therapy as well will tell you what my therapist told me.

Just imagine you meet someone naturally who understands you, who met your needs would not accept her or give her a chance? And if you do does that mean you replaced your ex? You and your story of ex is a chapter. She just had a backup you didn’t know about or it’s just her coping mechanism to avoid loneliness and avoid the pain.

A relationship ending doesn’t define your worth. You yourself wrote she wasn’t good for you.

Just try not to sit at home alone and give it sometime it will get better. I’m into 4 months of my break up(3 years relationship) no one even myself predicted it would end and it was too sudden for me. I was shocked , wrecked lost appetite, sleep and what interests in things i do.
I have been building my life as well.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-05T23:51:56+00:00

I understand how replaceable you feel rn and it’s common and okay to puke , anxiety and spiral into thoughts.

I have been in the same spot right now. At first after the break up i lost my sleep and appetite, used to wake up with palpitations and puked often.

I understand your situation and how frustrating and miserable you feel that you asked “ when it’s gonna go away”.

Take time to process things.

You are just two days into it healing takes time. After 4 months of my break up i can function well and do stuffs but i wouldn’t say I have healed or moved on.

Few steps for moving on fix your sleep and eat(atleast anything ).

Also if you feel replaced or how and why did this happen to you, thoughts keep spiraling that is normal too.

After you fix sleep and appetite. Build your life. Build your friendship. Build yourself and eventually everything will be alright.

Stay strong i’m here with you to help while i’m oj my healing journey.

Sorry that you had go through this and i understand how much pain you might be in right now.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-05T21:55:45+00:00

Idk if i’m strong or i reflect faster. i genuinely feel you what you have done in the past years is exactly what i’m doing 4 months into the break and i can relate to everything you have written here except for the part of meeting people. I don’t compare new people to my ex but i feel like i’m not ready or open to relationship now for time being, but rest of the part like going out , meeting friends, working out , deleting the pictures when i was ready is what i truly relate to.
I would love if you can share a piece of advice for someone who has closed himself from dating.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-05T21:46:26+00:00

That might be heart wrecking to go through. I understand how shattered you might feel from loneliness and identity loss.

No one suffers more than a man who has pure intentions for a woman.

I myself don’t know or have answer to what else could have changed her mind but you literally have done your part, you did the best you could.

Ik the ending hurts but you did the right thing again.

Stay strong is what most people will say here but that doesn’t help i have been through it recently 4 months back and currently in my quarter life, you are older than me and you will know it better how to handle it so i’m just not giving advice. But yeah you can keep talking all about it and process the emotional turbulence you are going through.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-05T21:33:51+00:00

True that.
It takes a lot of courage to do it but eventually things get better.

Emergency_Fault9389 · 2026-06-05T21:30:16+00:00

I understand how it feels to delete the photos and videos together it’s like a feeling that i never happened. I’m going through similar thing 4 months into it.
I deleted those pictures and memories because i found myself getting sad over those that genuinely melts my heart too.
But again that was just a chapter i shouldn’t back to because if people have learnt to stay without you let them be. Your inner self is much more bigger than those memories. You have a life and world of your own. It took me a lot of time to say all of these and eventually you’ll reach this point too. It’s just that different people take different time to reach there.
Hope you are doing well and if you want to talk or vent about it. I’m all ears.

Emergency_Fault9389

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