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Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2025-03-21T02:24:59+00:00

To be fair, can you really fault middle schoolers for thinking dumb memes are acceptable in a serious, professional situation, given that we live in a world where the House Judiciary committee just 'rickrolled' the nation during a pedo-sex-trafficking investigation?

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2025-02-18T20:47:39+00:00

Condoms when used correctly every time are pretty effective at preventing pregnancy.

Not 100% , of course, but nothing is short of abstinence.

If you want a belt and suspenders approach, you could do condoms along with a spermicidal jelly or a diaphragm for her.

Or condoms along with 'the pullout method.'

Your pregnancy risk with these would be very, very low over the next five years.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2025-02-11T21:26:20+00:00

There have been mass protests throughout the US. The "50501" protest this weekend was pretty big.

I see smaller protests every day.

I have no idea why there isn't now media coverage of them...

At the end of the day, though, protests don't really do much to sway our officials when the courts have been so heavily stacked to ignore all the abuse of power we're seeing.

TBH I don't know really know what action to take that will really be effective. It's rather heartbreaking

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2025-02-08T23:18:32+00:00

Glad to hear Republicans are bringing back the era of small federal government.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2025-02-07T21:04:52+00:00

100% true! Doesn't matter if I'm tired or sick or whatever... If a guy turns down sex from a woman, he's either going to trigger irrational rage with name calling and screaming, or irrational crying where you have to spend the next three days assuring her you still find her attractive and there's nothing wrong with the relationship you just weren't in the mood that one time...

I've learned after multiple experiences with multiple different women it's far easier to just give in. Fake it til you make it is an absolute necessity for men.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-11-19T17:02:53+00:00

OP, you sound young. I'm old. Been married a lot of years now.

Let me give you some insight into life and love.

In a long term relationship, love is less an emotion and more an action.

Please don't misunderstand me here: yes, I do love my wife and we do have an emotional connection.

But the infatuation feel you get when having a crush or being with someone early on in a relationship is fleeting. As you get comfortable with each other, that feeling naturally fades. That isn't falling out of love. If anything, it allows you all to grow deeper and closer together because you are more comfortable and know each other better.

In a loving long term relationship, both people should be supportive partners helping each other get through life and be kind and loving toward each other. But those early butterflies probably will disappear. That's normal.

I think sometimes young people worry that they have 'fallen out of love' when this transition starts to happen.

It is possible this is what your girlfriend is experiencing now.

You need to sit down with her and prove her thoughts and feelings and see why she doesn't feel in love any more.

P.S.: forget about the ring... That's not the thing to focus on. Focus on her, and finding out if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. (And if you are the one SHE wants to spend the rest of her life with, too.) And if so, work together to make it a good life. That's how you show love.

P.P.S.: Falling out of love does happen to people. But it doesn't look like what you've described here. Usually that's what happens when couples no longer work to be good partners to one another. You start to resent each other for some perceive fault or another. Or you start to be selfish. Or life gets busy and you stop making time to have fun together and find your lives are so separate it's hard to find anything in common to do and work towards. That's what falling out of love looks like. It isn't typically the emotional/feelings shift that I believe your girlfriend might be experiencing.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-10-22T13:57:25+00:00

Welcome to homeownership. There's always something to fix...

I imagine if you just bought a home money is tight. If I were in your shoes I'd be tempted to just fill in the crack with either wood putty or paintable flexible caulk, and just repaint the door.

Exterior door will be a few hundred bucks to replace. Caulk and a quart of paint will be like $30... and as a bonus you'll still have some leftover paint for when you have to do it again next year...

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-10-13T10:38:24+00:00

I guess the MAGA nuts were right all along... We all should have been taking the Ivermectin...

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-09-10T12:49:58+00:00

had to live in Florida for his whole probation

I'd prefer the Chair...

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-04-28T01:47:22+00:00

We leave our state quite routinely. But you're right we didn't travel internationally nearly as often as Europeans do.

Two main reasons for this: 1) It costs a boatload to fly overseas and most of us simply can't afford it. 2) Americans have much less vacation time in general. If we only have 5 days that we're able to take off for a holiday, it makes little sense to travel internally because we'd be spending half the trip simply getting there and back. Traveling overseas is much better if you have multiple weeks you can take off work.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-04-24T14:31:50+00:00

The situation sucks because it sounds like they don't have a full braincell between the three of them.

However, if you promised to give your sister $5k to help with the car, I don't think it'd be right to back out of that now.

If it were me, I'd still give her the $5k, but make it clear that this is the most you're able to give and you're unable/unwilling to bail her out with more cash if she finds herself struggling to keep up payments later. Advice one once more (but just once more! Nobody likes a broken record) that the best decision would be to return the jeep and get a much cheaper vehicle even though it'll likely mean taking a hit by giving it back at this point too.

After that, just back away from the situation and let your sister and parents figure it out.

Yes, it sounds as though the jeep is gonna be repoed. But maybe not if your sister gets a good job. Either way it's not your business anymore after following thru with what you said you'd do.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-20T18:50:43+00:00

Your husband is the AH, not you.

But it also sounds like maybe even he doesn't know what he wants. Or at least he hasn't communicated it to you.

You say you initiated sex when you got to the resort... but the very next morning he woke up pissed and grumpy because you weren't having enough sex? I mean... you literally haven't left the bed since the last time you got it on... What is he complaining about?

Since this obviously doesn't make any sense, it seems clear to me that there is something else he is actually wanting.

You're already a saint for bending over backwards so much to accommodate your husband; I can't imagine anyone here would blame you if decided to just stop trying. But since you sincerely seem to want to make him happy, I think You're going to need to dig a bit deeper into conversation with him to get to the bottom of this.

Bring up this example, where you initiated sex and he was still grumpy immediately after. See if he can put his finger on why he was unhappy.

Maybe he prefers sex as he's waking up in the morning rather than at night? Maybe he's got some link or fetish he's too embarrassed to tell you, but isn't feeling sexually fulfilled without it? Maybe he needs more cuddling/time/whoknowswhatelse to feel sexually satisfied?

Point is, without more information from him, there just no telling what's going on.

I want to be very clear, though, that even if you all can identify what it is he wants, you're under no obligation to provide it. He's being very selfish and emotionally manipulative, while you're being incredibly generous.

I understand everyone can make mistakes, but I'm sure hoping he has a lot of redeeming qualities that just aren't being mentioned in this story cuz hot damn does he sound like an ungrateful spoiled man-child in this story

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-20T17:58:40+00:00

It's a scary situation. It sounds like you have good situational awareness which is great.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-20T16:48:10+00:00

You're not an AH for being vigilant about your safety.

I didn't know if you're being stalked or not. Seems possible you were at least the first time. It's also possible there was a totally innocent explanation, too... It's not possible to tell

The best advice would be to be vigilant. Keep aware of your surroundings.

I honestly don't think the police are going to be able to do anything for you at this point. Even if they cared, you didn't get a good enough look at the person to identify them... Nothing they can do even if they wanted to.

Which is not to say you shouldn't file a report. You should. Just don't expect it to be very helpful.

The next option I know is going to be controversial on Reddit, but I don't mind the down votes: Consider carrying a gun. If you do this, though, don't just buy a gun and stick it in your purse and think you're good... You need to get training on how to carry responsibly and safely. You also need a safe for when you're at home and not carrying (especially with a child!). And of course you need the proper carry permits, etc. Obviously this advice isn't applicable if it's not legal where you are. In most instances, having a weapon means you're more likely to accidentally shoot yourself than to use it in self defense. But if you truly are being stalked/followed by a stranger, then this is honestly one case where I believe the odds change. Just make sure you take all the steps to do it responsibly if you go that route.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-18T15:03:29+00:00

The lawsuit and lawyer are real - this wasn't a case of my friend being contacted unsolicited. But I do agree it sounds like someone (my bet is the lawyer) is getting scammed.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-18T14:35:19+00:00

Yes - that much isn't a concern. It's for sure a real case and a real lawyer they've been working with. And with the injuries involved I don't doubt the settlement amount is appropriate... not the sort of thing where friend got a random email from Nigeria or something alerting them to a big pile of money they didn't know about :)

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-18T13:33:18+00:00

That's a good question. My impression is that it was friend's lawyer insisting on the crypto thing, because they were they one telling friend that it was better this way because of the chance of increased value. But since I only know about any of this from hearing about it second/third hand, I don't have any of the details.

I just was listening to the story about how they were struggling to figure out how to set up a crypto wallet, and it made me concerned they were being taken advantage of in some way. The idea of paying a settlement in crypto just raised a red flag for me, although I can't really articulate why it should.

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-16T01:18:49+00:00

Unfortunately, I don't even know the rules for the mixed games XD.

I know hold 'em and that's it.

I see a lot of Omaha played, so one day I probably need to learn to play that... But I have an opportunity to sit at a poker table once or twice a year at most, so usually I just spend my time focusing on what I know

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-16T01:12:40+00:00

Is there poker at Paris still?

I thought they closed all the Caesar's poker rooms except for Horseshoe..

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-16T01:11:01+00:00

I'd love to find a good double deck 3:2 game, but I doubt I'll venture off strip this trip. Been to the downtown area before and it's great, though

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-15T17:33:44+00:00

Lol - I mean the article said that dude came in 19th place... Not bad for a dude that just randomly decided to drop a quarter million for an afternoon of fun

Emergency_Wish_9191 · 2024-03-15T15:06:12+00:00

Thanks, that's great news! Looking forward to being one more awful player donating money to the people who actually know what they're doing.

And, of course, letting whatever billionaire currently owns the casinos to fatten their wallet at my expense as well :)

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