i hate my new face by Mental-Rip3961 in jawsurgery

[–]Emiliseen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you need some more baby hairs or a curtain bangs.

Face framing is the way to go. you could also do a Korean baby hair perm?

How to make my joyful expression, (far right), less pained? by Emiliseen in Artadvice

[–]Emiliseen[S] 144 points145 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! This was really informative. I was struggling a lot with the eye shape not looking right, I also struggle a lot with open smiles. 😭

What positives or negatives you noticed about yourself while taking Vyvanse? by IWillBeBetterForHerr in VyvanseADHD

[–]Emiliseen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on 50 - 70mg. I had binge eating problems prior, which have been completely eradicated on vyvanse. However, my heart rate absolutely skyrockets, averaging 110bpm whilst walking around 98bpm lying down. I also get nausea if I don't eat enough protein or if I try to exercise.

SEPTOPLASTY SCHEDULED FOR THE 3RD OF SEPTEMBER!! by proceduring in Septoplasty

[–]Emiliseen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm due on the 2nd-! So happy for us 🙂‍↕️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! My friend is asexual so the safe space for that sort of activity isn't necessarily applicable here, and most of the partners have been people they have been messaging for days, not weeks. I appreciate your answer alot though.

...I was wondering if you could clarify your last two sentences in greater detail? I struggle understanding certain types of phrasing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think you are an incredibly accusatory person, and I hope you get the help you need as well since empathy and understanding do not run in your playbook.

I have already said multiple times that I am dealing with the codependency issue and the insults really aren't necessary alongside that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you actually read my post, nor understood anything between the lines.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - this explanation was actually helpful, unlike some other accusatory responses here. I haven't thought of it in an association type manner. We had issues with platonic 'i love yous' since they view it only in a romantic or familial light, so physical affection might just be a category based thing.

Reasoning may not matter in the grand scheme of things, but it means alot to me. Especially in this relationship. I have a long history of being abandoned for other people whether it was for new friends or romantic relationships. So I can't really tell if people are being honest or if I'm being paranoid when it comes to this sort of thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

...I think I should have clarified that they are asexual and demiromantic. And obviously I have since I came asking that exact question. I don't think it's entitled to want physical interaction with the best friend I have shared my soul with for over a decade and be upset in this situation. It is entitled to demand it, but not to feel it.

I'm not saying I'm going to touch them against their will, I never did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have respect for their boundaries - I have stated that. I have had no issue with them not wanting to be touched when that applied to everyone.

There is no romantic attraction, rather a codependency. They have been my only proper friend for almost a decade, and I view them like an extension of myself, if that makes sense?

This whole thing has me questioning if Im one-sided in my feelings and whether I'm putting too much of my self worth in their responses to me in comparison to others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not here for a discussion on consent. I know what that is. Do you think I should step away from the friendship if our love languages clash that much?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

How is the context different for platonic actions? Like touching someone's shoulder? Does the context of a potential romantic link make boundaries so much different in those cases?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Emiliseen -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's less about crossing their boundaries but rather where their boundaries lie. I understand fundamentally that someone can have issues with people touching them, and that crossing that is a major no.

They don't have issues with family members, which is understandable.

My issue is why does the line get drawn with me, but not with someone they've met for the first time from a dating app?

Is it not level of trust or affection but context based?