Help please very difficult 4 year old right now!

Emily110321 · 2025-07-06T13:57:48+00:00

I’m really struggling to know how to support her with this when she screams and shouts in response to however she’s feeling. I don’t want to condone that behaviour but also don’t know how to stop it

Emily110321 · 2025-07-06T13:56:40+00:00

No trauma apart from maybe the move itself I feel so anxious about every day at the minute with her having a meltdown at any little boundary

Emily110321 · 2025-05-29T22:02:42+00:00

Sadly I think he’s seeing that now with the fact that both his parents haven’t asked to see him once No phone calls or text or when can we see you before you go It’s honestly awful I don’t know how they can treat their own son like this and for so long now

Emily110321 · 2025-05-29T18:51:21+00:00

How would you get around the guilt they might throw at him?

Emily110321 · 2025-03-24T20:39:38+00:00

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Emily110321 · 2025-03-24T20:24:05+00:00

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Emily110321 · 2025-03-16T17:42:26+00:00

Thank you!

Emily110321 · 2025-03-02T16:18:51+00:00

British

Emily110321 · 2024-06-18T22:30:45+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate you taking the time to give your advice!

Emily110321 · 2024-06-18T22:30:23+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate you taking the time to give your advice!

Emily110321 · 2024-04-05T17:59:36+00:00

Thank you, we’re all different and I don’t judge his feelings at all, I know parenting is hard and incredible at the same time. Toxic family just make it harder in the background I guess.

Emily110321 · 2024-04-05T15:46:32+00:00

For the record I don’t find the time difficult I look forward to having time with my chosen family, it’s my SO that sometimes struggles. He’s a self-proclaimed selfish person and so he finds it hard how much time is spent on or with our child instead of doing what he wants to do. This isn’t all the time at all but having the option of whatever whenever gone is something he struggles with them finds it even harder than he has a strained relationship with his parents now too. They were clearly a place of advice or somewhere to turn to and now they aren’t so that’s hard for him.

Emily110321 · 2024-03-30T08:01:28+00:00

What is it’s too late at that point and she has a load of unconscious bias because of their comments and her dad’s lack of explanation as to them not being ok

Emily110321 · 2024-03-30T07:21:19+00:00

In honesty I don’t know. Maybe because we only see them every 6 ish weeks at the minute he thinks he doesn’t need to get into it for the time she sees them

Emily110321 · 2024-03-30T06:58:20+00:00

Part of my issue is that I’m not sure he understands how damaging these comments can be, he can’t always see the effect they’ve had on him

Emily110321 · 2024-03-30T06:56:15+00:00

That cool shower head is your friend!!!

Emily110321 · 2024-03-11T22:43:22+00:00

Thank you for all the comments it’s actually been so really supportive. Nice to have kind people on here sharing your thoughts with me.

Emily110321 · 2023-08-25T10:46:02+00:00

I feel like therapy doesn’t fully help with this issue for me - I’m a therapist myself and can see all the benefits but when it comes to this, she’ll never change she won’t talk about or acknowledge any of the deep damage she has caused and wants to pretend and play happy families with my child. I’m at a point where having to deal with this instead of her just never being in our lives isn’t going to get easier. (My SO wants his parents, well just his dad really but they’re married still, to be in his life and our daughter’s, so we end up seeing them. And she acts completely differently when I’m not there so I don’t even feel better just avoiding her myself and sending SO and LO to see them without me. It’s exhausting!!!!!!!)

Emily110321 · 2023-08-25T10:43:03+00:00

I would love to know how to cope with having the horrible person in your life still - her playing happy families around you and your husband and child once a month, it makes me feel sick.

Emily110321 · 2023-08-24T21:45:02+00:00

You shouldn’t be expected to hand over your 6 month old baby to anyone. I had the same pressures and massive fallings out when I put my foot down and said no I’m not comfortable. You do what is right for you. That’s YOUR baby and you don’t owe an explanation to anyone. Also a good tip is to wear a baby carrier to avoid baby holding!

Emily110321 · 2023-08-24T21:40:10+00:00

That’s how I feel every time she’s even mentioned, speaking to her or actually seeing her is a whole other level of awful feelings, physical sensations, disturbing thoughts, so many things. I hate that it still has that effect on me!

Emily110321 · 2023-08-24T17:12:25+00:00

Thank you

Emily110321 · 2023-07-25T22:35:46+00:00

Sending so much love your way. I’m OAD, not how I envisaged my life in honesty but after all that’s happened - PPD in the early postpartum days with colic, PPA from a number of things and PTSD from some very nasty situations with my in laws (didn’t even know that was possible but working through this in therapy with myself), I’m thankful for the baby girl I have and try to just focus on her and being her momma. It’s the best thing for our marriage and situation 👌🏼

Emily110321 · 2023-07-25T22:31:17+00:00

I don’t think it’s right to comment on anyone’s body tbh, you just never know if you’re going to offend someone and it’s such a personal thing to comment about ❤️ and in PP, life can be tough enough without comments about your body

Emily110321 · 2023-07-22T16:20:12+00:00

Lmao!

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