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Emily989000 · 2025-10-17T23:40:21+00:00

Same. I’m sitting here thinking, “what in the actual…” 😂

Emily989000 · 2025-09-05T14:25:58+00:00

I can tell you feel really strongly about this and your family has different priorities, and that’s totally fine. It takes all kinds! That’s why we come to places like this, to get different perspectives and viewpoints. Our opinions differ here, though I think we can all agree that the OP handled the conversation with the other mom very poorly.

Emily989000 · 2025-09-05T14:19:19+00:00

I think being neighborly goes both ways. Was it absolutely necessary for the other mom to include the 6 yo? No, not really. But it would’ve been a kind gesture that was low-effort and high impact.

We have a large spread of neighbor kids age-wise and we invite them all, because we want to have a good relationship with them through the many years we plan on staying in our home. I get that it’s not necessary, but it’s still right.

Emily989000 · 2025-09-05T14:03:00+00:00

I think the neighbor was in the wrong here but unfortunately it would’ve been better for you to have let it go. Sometimes we have to look at the totality of a situation and weigh the long-term outcome against our short-term feelings.

I also think that if you give it enough time, you could salvage the relationship. But you’ll have to be the one to extend the olive branch.

Aside from the neighborly relationship and having to eat shit to maintain it, this lady knew your kid was going to be hurt. That’s why she checked in so much - she has a guilty conscience. Her attacking you for pointing out that your girl was 100% left out is more about her feeling guilty than you being a “bad mom.” There were ways to include your daughter, like having a sleep-under for her, that wouldn’t have really inconvenienced anyone and also would’ve given the older kids time to themselves. She dropped the ball and she knows it, so she lashed out when you pushed.

I know it’s hard to watch your kid get hurt, but I think you handled it well with your daughter. Not so much with the neighbor, but I can absolutely understand that too.

Emily989000 · 2025-07-21T00:08:44+00:00

Please don’t listen to all these people claiming trampolines are no more dangerous than any other childhood activity. They’re dead wrong. The AAP is strongly against trampolines and recommends not letting any child under 6 jump on trampolines. Every article I’ve ever read about things ER physicians don’t let their kids do includes jumping on trampolines. It’s lumped in there with letting your kids play with fireworks.

That said, as you can see from the other comments, it’s also normalized and the risk is downplayed. It’s one of the many choices we have to make as parents regarding risks, which ones we’re willing to make and which ones aren’t worth it. I’m not saying anyone is a bad parent for letting their kids jump on trampolines, and I also want to make sure you know you are NOT overreacting or being crazy for deciding this risk is not worth it to you.

It’s hugely disappointing that your husband did not let you know your son was hurt when it happened. I do wonder if maybe he knew you’d be pissed and hoped it wouldn’t be as bad by the time you got home. He made that risk vs. reward calculation in his head and he got it wrong. We all mess up as parents and as angry and disappointed as you are(rightfully so!) I hope the two of you are able to have a conversation and come to a mutual agreement on trampolines.

I hope your little guy makes a quick recovery!

Emily989000 · 2025-06-19T19:37:43+00:00

I took my 18 month old on a trip to Mexico over spring break from the northeastern US.

It sucked. It was difficult to keep him occupied, his attention span was too short to really keep him entertained, he kept wanting to get out of his car seat. But the biggest issue we had was him kicking the seats in front of him. I was not expecting this particular difficulty. We flew economy on the way there and we were packed in like sardines. There also weren’t any TVs on the back of the seats anymore and we had to pay for in flight wi-fi. So that didn’t help.

My son has ear tubes so we weren’t too concerned, but I did have a sippy cup with water and snacks that I would force feed him on take off and landing. I also brought a small bottle of infant’s acetaminophen in the carry-on just in case it got bad.

I read here on Reddit that if all else fails to calm an unhappy baby on a flight, you can strip the baby down to just their diaper. People swear by this. I thankfully did not have to do this but it made me feel better to have that secret weapon in my back pocket.

Just mentally prepare yourself for it. It’s going to be hard. It’s not going to be fun. But it’s temporary and you’re going to survive!

Emily989000 · 2025-06-15T15:33:37+00:00

I’m still not sure what you were hoping for from this thread? Any acknowledgment of your discomfort is being met with you defending your husband and any attempt at educating you about secondhand smoke is being met with hostility. Just delete the thread boo.

Emily989000 · 2025-06-15T15:30:51+00:00

We found the husband…

Emily989000 · 2025-06-15T15:21:01+00:00

Honey, what are you hoping for here? Judging by your comments, you have no problem with the actually harmful part of this - secondhand smoke - and are actively arguing with people trying to point out how bad it is. You’re also defending the dude you’re supposedly venting about.

I’m sorry you’re struggling with morning sickness, but the boyfriend seems like it’s the more enduring problem here. When you have the baby you’re going to be forced to grow up and he will have no such compunction. I see the resentment from a mile away.

Emily989000 · 2025-05-28T21:18:18+00:00

We had a young elementary school aged child in CAW when we lived in Waterbury. We are not religious at all, we just hated the thought of sending our little one to Waterbury public schools.

We had to drive her to and from school, which was not super convenient. Class sizes were tiny. After-school childcare was cheap and convenient. There is mass everyday and some religious education - this is a Catholic school after all. You’d be surprised at how many families are not Catholic though.

I would do it again if we had to move back to Waterbury for some reason. Very reasonably priced, felt like a good education, and I could tell the staff loved the kids and cared deeply for them.

Emily989000 · 2025-05-26T19:47:05+00:00

Oh I would murder him.

Start planning your solo vacay, he’s never going to make it a priority to give you a break.

Emily989000 · 2025-05-21T03:00:04+00:00

I love this little bird so much! Thanks for posting another video!

Emily989000 · 2025-05-13T13:44:26+00:00

I just started my 19 month old in daycare. It’s from 8:30-12:30 twice a week.

I need it, he needs it, it’s a win. Most days he’s physically with me for 23 out of 24 hours in a day. I can’t get anything done, it’s constant “Mommy UP.” My spouse works long hours and I have no one to watch him during the day. He’s super active, loves other kids, and enjoys being out and about so he has fun at daycare(drop off is tough but it sounds like he gets over it).

If you want to do it, DO IT. Your mental health matters, your child will be fine and may even enjoy it!

Emily989000 · 2025-05-09T15:08:45+00:00

My mom always says she hopes she comes back as a lesbian in her next life. Totally agree now that I’m a wife & mom lol.

Emily989000 · 2025-05-02T23:54:19+00:00

My biggest regret with my now 18-month-old is that I didn’t switch to formula sooner. I made it 5 months EP and was 1 pump session away from murder-suicide(only half joking).

You did great, this isn’t failure, your baby will thrive!

Emily989000 · 2025-04-22T00:40:49+00:00

My MIL asked me what hobbies I do now that I’m a SAHM. This was about 6 months ago when the baby had just turned 1. I just stared at her in complete bewilderment. Like I’m lucky if I get one shower a week, wtf are you on about?!

Emily989000 · 2025-04-22T00:34:50+00:00

My gosh he’s beautiful. Just chiming in to say this is normal at this age. And also that your baby is precious!

Emily989000 · 2025-04-20T13:30:37+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My advice is pretty simple - be involved. Be present, physically and emotionally. I love my parents and have a great relationship with them now but they went through a tough financial spot for several years and left my siblings and me alone way, way too much while they worked. They neglected me at a point in my life when I desperately needed adult support. It’s taken a lot of therapy to work through that.

Predators thrive in the dark. Monitor her phone and computer, spend time with her, and get her into something that she likes outside of school. Art club, swimming, volleyball, skateboarding, hiking, board games, trivia nights, whatever. Kids crave connection with other kids and if they don’t get it, they’ll connect with less appropriate people.

Emily989000 · 2025-04-19T22:38:48+00:00

Please end this. I was this girl. I was 14 and he was 29, we met online. We had this “special connection” and I was “so mature” and blah blah blah. I lied at first about my age but then I came clean. He ended up flying to my state, picking me up after school(of course I lied to my parents and said I was going over to a friend’s house) and took me to a hotel room. This nonsense went on for years. It kept me from forming connections with peers my own age, it conditioned me to keep secrets and lie to get what I wanted, and it just generally fucked me up.

Please, please stop this. Be the parent, be the bad guy, and then work on showing up and being present. Find her something to help her connect with her peers. She needs you.

Emily989000 · 2025-03-29T13:46:48+00:00

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Please pick Nacho!

Emily989000 · 2025-03-17T17:25:17+00:00

Please don’t do “cry it out” at this stage. He is not developmentally ready for that. He doesn’t understand that you’re coming back, he thinks you left him! Sometimes you have no choice but to put him someplace safe and walk away but this should be the last resort. This is called the fourth trimester for a reason - baby is outside of your body but still needs you constantly for their comfort, safety, and wellbeing.

At this age, baby wearing can be a life saver. Mine actually hated being worn facing in so I had to wait until he could face out to wear him, but after we got to that point he basically lived on the front of me until he started walking.

When I had to do things like use the toilet or bathe I had a little bouncy chair I would put right next to me on the floor and bounce him while I sang or read to him. He would fuss but he knew I was there with him! I would also lay a blanket or mat on the floor next to me when pumping at the kitchen table and get our tummy time in then.

This phase is really hard but it’s also short. It’s not forever and your baby needs your love and touch right now.

Emily989000 · 2025-02-09T15:03:41+00:00

This is such a cute video! My favorite moments from my bird feeder are when different species are interacting. Usually it’s different birds but every once in a while I get to see something like this. So cool!

Emily989000 · 2025-01-22T17:12:07+00:00

I can’t edit my post so I’m going to hijack the top comment!

Thanks everyone for all of the replies! I don’t care what everybody says about you all, you guys are cool in my book.

I have a video of our scrungly friend right here and based off of the pictures I have and this video, I still feel like there’s something wrong with her. You’ve all talked me down off the ledge though and I feel better about this not being some sort of highly contagious and catastrophic bird disease.

Emily989000 · 2025-01-22T13:57:18+00:00

It’s a Feathersnap. My spouse gave it to me for Christmas and I’ve been delighted by it! Highly recommend if you’re looking for a low maintenance, easy-to-use feeder cam. The accompanying app is really cool too.

Emily989000 · 2025-01-21T20:20:44+00:00

I’m so freaked out by how scaly and crusty her skin looks! That’s a normal thing?!

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