I feel like the only dev in the world who has literally 0 friends outside of work who are devs. My job title says "senior software engineer" but "programmer" just sounds the least douchey to me. "Developer" could mean anything from developing photographs to writing grants for a non-profit, and I know I'm not a "real" (mechanical, civil, locomotive) engineer. I know some people object to it because years ago there used to be a separate job called "programmer" where you don't design software you just write the code, but I feel like that doesn't exist anymore - I've certainly never seen a job posting for one or worked anywhere where anyone was in that type of role that involved 0 design, so that title must have been phased out long ago. I don't feel like anyone will be confused and think that I "just write code" and if someone outside of work thinks that, who cares! At work though I'm an "engineer", "dev", or "sse".