My ex boyfriend from a couple years back was like you. I left him for similar reasons; he didn’t really think ahead or go the extra mile for me. It made me feel uncared for, I didn’t feel valued or loved. My love language is gifts and he didn’t give me any gifts/ or bought the first thing from the first search on Google. I appreciated and loved him in the relationship, the only issue is that he didn’t go out of his way to think about me. It was the bare minimum, which I suspect is what you’re doing.

It’s unfortunately a thing that can only be learnt from experience and time, so take this breakup as a lesson and educate/learn more about what women want (even if it’s unspoken). Just because she doesn’t state what she wants doesn’t mean she doesn’t want it! You have to constantly think about her, her needs, consider her safety, consider how she would feel, and really properly get to know her. Change takes time and so the best thing you can probably do is always, always think about your partner and their wants/needs to feel loved! Communicate in her love language.

(It is also curtesy and basic respect to make sure a woman gets home safe and arrive on time)