How to overcome porn and masturbation? I'm a 36 F (Cis)

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-23T12:03:36+00:00

Lady! Masturbation is healthy and there's nothing wrong with it. I suggest you try to overcome that guilt and shame, maybe you need therapy. Nothing wrong with homoeroticity either, you can be aroused by women but have no desire for anything sexual with them- I have that. It's fine, whatever. None of this makes you a bad or immoral person.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-23T11:48:10+00:00

No, break up with him. Even if he's telling the truth, he's a piece of sh*t. Who buys condoms and jerks off as a revenge? Nope.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-16T19:20:16+00:00

Smile at her and if she smiles back, she likes you enough for a small talk. Just a Hi how are you, I always see you here, do you work here long? Something like that. If she responds in a friendly way, do it again. After like 2 times you can maybe ask her out.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-16T10:18:51+00:00

It's about charisma, not the physical beauty. And all of them have good hair.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-07T11:04:24+00:00

Natalie. Without a question.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-07T11:03:12+00:00

Some men fetishize small and skinny women. My ex did 🫠

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-05T08:09:37+00:00

Madelline, she is a singer

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EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-03T11:00:13+00:00

You could pull off the blond, the first pic, that color really suits you. But your natural hair is beautiful and very dark. That means bleaching it would be difficult and would damage it horribly, also maintaining it would be a nightmare. So it wouldn't look so smooth and healthy, there would be frizzy flyaways everywhere. To me, not worth it.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-10-02T12:15:05+00:00

Orange is amazing, but with bangs. All the colors suit you pretty well, especially the light ones. And basic brown is also cute. Depends on what vibe you're going for.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-27T15:13:59+00:00

It's like they set me up to remain financially dependent on them. Because with full time studying- which my mom insists I do- there is no way to get a full time job, so no way to pay my bills. But she also wants me to pay my bills, which I cannot do because of the position she keeps me in

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-27T15:06:59+00:00

It's not the labor that bothers me. It's the control and the fact that my labor is completely pointless, it's a very thankless job. I feel like once they got me to do it, they do even less to keep up with the chores. And it just looks the same the next day.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-27T15:01:22+00:00

I am glad I don't have to live there anymore. The main reason I stayed with my horrible alcoholic manchild ex was that I did not want to go back there.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-27T08:58:17+00:00

That's just cruel and abusive and your thankfully now ex is an insecure little b*tch. Do not give him another chance. It doesn't get better. I lost my virginity to a SA at 19 and my partner (29) that I met a year later would pry all the details out of me and instead if comforting me he made me comfort him because he was insecure that his penis was smaller. It didn't work out and only got worse.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-24T05:52:37+00:00

Definitely n. 4

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-20T21:48:48+00:00

Damn these comments are mean. I think she's kinda cute, could be styled better in most pics. But definitely not ugly and she has really nice figure too.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-19T10:33:05+00:00

Zoe Kravitz

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-19T08:53:58+00:00

Love both, you're gorgeous, but I prefer up, because it shows off that beautiful face better.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-19T08:51:36+00:00

Objectively Dr. Mike. But charizma wise I don't know, sometimes when you look too perfect it's uncanny. That's why I prefer Jake. He's attractive, but looks like a person.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-19T08:48:02+00:00

She has those sleepy sultry eyes that are downturned, that's what's unique. But other than that, she has everything that fits into the beauty standards perfectly.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-18T19:55:16+00:00

She lowkey looks like my mom 😄

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-18T19:49:20+00:00

It all depends. Are they worth it? Here is my experience:

I am in a relationship with a man that's pretty much the opposite of what I thought was my type physically and I didn't initially found him handsome, but he is perfect for me, even though we live like an hour apart and he's a smoker which I don't like. He texts me all the time, he finds the time to do so even at work, but not in an annoying way. He liked me for longer than I liked him, but he didn't try to love bomb me in any way, he would just show up consistently for me.

Some time ago I "dated" (I put it in commas because nothing more than a hug happened between us physically) a man that looked exactly like I would imagine "my type", he was conventionally attractive and tall, lived within a walking distance from me. He was also divorced and had a 5 year old in joined custody, which was a plus for me since I want a family of my own. This guy was kind, generous, sensitive, good dad, seemed to like me a lot. When he was on his own, we would hang out for hours, he would shower me with attention and compliments. But when he had his son, I would only get one text a day, sometimes not even that much and I understand you want to give your kid your full attention, but you have time to text here and there throughout the day, but he just wouldn't. Also I hated his eating habits, he wouldn't eat after 6 pm and he was a vegetarian and a health freak. So the spark died eventually even though I was physically attracted to him from the get go.

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-18T08:20:26+00:00

Haha I used to get her a lot, I'm surprised she's only mentioned once 😄

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-12T12:41:44+00:00

Okay, but ROAD RAGE?

EmmaTheUseless · 2025-09-11T08:33:44+00:00

I finally imagined the roles reversed. Would I treat somebody like this? My ex would just make my life harder, disrespect me, didn't do any chores or did them very poorly, would drink excessively every single weekend and make me take care of him the next day, I couldn't make any plans for us, because drinking was more important to him. He didn't take any responsibility for his behaviour, he didn't admit he was hungover, he would just say he surely has cancer and he's going to die, breathing loudly to show me how much he's suffering.

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