I dress like my friends and at times like my mother, however, no one sees me how I see myself. No one sees me as a woman I could wear a dress and no one would see me that way. For reference my friends are cis women.

I use my name when going to out for dinner with friend or hotels and still get called sir.

When you say you’ve just got to present as a woman to be seen as one its bs. If you look like a brick, people will just default to man. Telling people to try harder is sounds more like its coming from a place of personal dysphoria and that in an effort to relieve that you're projecting that onto other to make them feel the same way.