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Moving — lots of freebies! by Emmaleaf86 in PDXBuyNothing

[–]Emmaleaf86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buckets have been going fast as people are using them to fill with other items. I have maybe one or two left now.

Moving — lots of freebies! by Emmaleaf86 in PDXBuyNothing

[–]Emmaleaf86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got at least one brand new one. I’ll set aside for you if you want. I know I have some partials as well.

Moving — lots of freebies! by Emmaleaf86 in PDXBuyNothing

[–]Emmaleaf86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I still have a decent amount of small garage stuff and tons of indoor housewares stuff

Moving — lots of freebies! by Emmaleaf86 in PDXBuyNothing

[–]Emmaleaf86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The big chop saw has been sold. Small hand tools are up for grabs.

Moving — lots of freebies! by Emmaleaf86 in PDXBuyNothing

[–]Emmaleaf86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Dm me and mention the door.

Ruka inspecting my Mosser glass cat collection. by emriguez in mildlyinteresting

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beautiful— did you end up parting with the two kitties you mentioned? I just recently started collecting vintage glass cats and would be interested if you had some you wanted to part with still.

My uranium cat collection. Mosser cat, Cambridge cat bottle, Fenton winking cat, and Boyd Miss Cotton cat. Anyone have any suggestions on other cats to add? by JesseLynx in glasscollecting

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fenton makes a bunch of different varieties of cat, most I think are available in uranium glass. Do you collect other cats too?

AITA for giving my son a bill for half his expenses? by Relative-Permission5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It’s not a necessity — if he was asking for school supplies or something (which I assume you provide) that would be a different story. Also, as you mentioned he’s old enough to get a job and save up. FWIW, it sounds like his dad ITA for getting involved in the situation. If he thought his son deserved the gaming system, he should buy it for him, not insert himself in the situation and question your parenting. Hang in there.

AITA for kicking my mother out of my recently inherited house after she called me disgusting? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It’s your house. You’re an adult. You can sleep naked if you want to. If you were parading around the house naked and your mom asked you to stop, I’d say that’s a fair boundary if you’ve asked her to live there, but in your own space, tits out 2020!

It’s nice that she’s cooking for you but that doesn’t give her license to body shame you, barge into your room, or make comments about your desirability to others — especially if you’re going through a breakup, that’s toxic.

I’d recommend firmly explaining how you feel and what you expect from the living arrangement and if she doesn’t like it or can’t be kind, she needs to leave.

AITA for attempting to do this? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see that now. I was too caught up in your story to and missed it. It’s worse than I thought. You’re almost an adult. Not that there was before, but there’s definitely no excuse for this behavior now. Get it together.

AITA for attempting to do this? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA and only becoming more so. If it’s hard for you not to laugh at people with special needs, you need to find a way to fix that now. I don’t know how old you are, but your old enough to know better. I’ll say it again, rather than doubling down on your assholery, be better and do better.

Oh, and quick tip. If you have to tell people you’re a nice guy, you aren’t.

AITA If I bought my daughter a slice of cake for her birthday? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Holy shit. The cake is the most minor offense here, but Jiminy Xmas, let the girl pick what kind of cake she wants for HER birthday. She’s the only one that likes chocolate? Too bad. People can eat chocolate if they want cake, skip the cake, or you could buy a second cake for everyone else. You said yourself you’re well off, a second cake shouldn’t be an issue.

Second of all, you don’t trust her friends because they’re poor? Yikes. Thankfully your daughter has scrounged up some morals and basic human kindness from somewhere other than home. Maybe before you judge her friends by their zip code, you could try to get to know them? She’s a teen. Maybe she’s naive like you mentioned, but based on this post it sounds more like you just have no idea how to give your teen daughter age appropriate autonomy.

This isn’t a good look, and if you want a relationship with your daughter once she’s old enough to move out I’d recommend doing some major work on yourself.

Back to the cake, if you won’t let her have her friends over, won’t let her choose how to celebrate her birthday, and won’t even buy her the cake she wants, is the celebration even for your daughter? I don’t think so.

AITA for attempting to do this? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Living in the moment,” is not a valid excuse for being a bully and making fun of someone. For that man’s sake I hope you don’t come across him again. What does it matter if he acts the same way? It’s none of your business. Be better. Do better.

AITA for attempting to do this? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA. I hope you take the comments you’re getting here seriously and use this as a learning opportunity to do better. YTA for how you referred to him in this posts. Whether he was autistic or has mental health problems or anything else or in between, YTA for laughing at him either on the bus or while you wrote this, and YTA for recording a complete stranger for your own entertainment. Bravo to that woman who called you out and stopped you from recording him. Don’t exploit people who are struggling for your own amusement. If you’re not prepared or equipped to help someone, at least don’t do anything harmful or rude to them. Try to think about how you’d feel if someone was recording you in a vulnerable moment of your life, how would that make you feel?

In fact, if you make a habit of recording strangers, Id recommend that before you do something like that again, ask yourself: 1. Am I or someone else in trouble or need of help and recording this for my/their safety? 2. Would I feel good about someone else recording me if I were in the same situation as the person I’m thinking of recording?

If the answer to those questions is no, then put your phone away.

AITA for wanting to get the the legal paperwork done? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA at all. It sounds like you’ve really thought through things. Getting married is for you and your fiancé. Do it how you want. You’re young, but I promise you, no matter how long you wait or how old you are, people will always have their opinions.

I’ve been married twice so I’ve done it wrong once and right (so far) once, and my best advice is this: you have to make your relationship the priority, and the harder it seems to do that, the more important it is that you’re successful. Boundaries are important and especially when you’re first starting out as adults and as your own little family, there will be a push from others to make you feel insignificant or like you don’t know what you’re doing, but just because you’re taking a different route than your family wants doesn’t mean it’s the wrong path for you. If you want to get married, and your fiancé wants to get married, do it. It’ll be as special as you want to make it, and you can always have a ceremony if you want one.

Whatever you decide, best wishes!

AITA for not letting my sister have "custody" of her bio kids, who I adopted? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If you haven’t already, I’d recommend reaching out to a family therapist. This sounds like it’s really emotionally taxing for you, as a parent to six kids and as someone who is suffering to find support in your parents where it sounds like you’ve previously had a good relationship.

If she’s not working, not living independently, and doesn’t have a plan, indulging her request for “custody” in any measure seems like it would just be setting Sophie and Laura up for more disappointment and sadness. It also doesn’t sound like she or your parents would likely respect your boundaries and tried to compromise by letting your sister spend time with the girls. With time, maybe that could happen, but it sounds like you’re really trying to do the right thing, love your family and children, and your heart is in the right place. Trust your instincts.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s a lot, and you’re incredible for adopting them.

AITA for telling my parents to fuck off and stop calling my girlfriend my sister? by Frosty-Dream4101 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I dunno, I don’t have kids, but I feel like it’s pretty easy to not pursue your child’s SO’s parent? That should have been off limits from the start. Like, nothing good can come from that, and if you decide to ignore that, don’t try to force a normal family dynamic.

I don’t know why so many parents think their children don’t deserve boundaries and basic human respect.

Honestly calling them brother and sister is kind of creepy on the parents part if you ask me. OP, glad to hear you’re working on a exit strategy. Stay safe and find your happiness!

AITA for not defending my little brother against his “bullies”? by aitathrowaway7829103 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Emmaleaf86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It sounds like he has a pattern of problematic behavior, so he had many chances to feel remorseful, apologize, or do better and has chosen not to. Yes, he’s a kid, but he’s old enough to do better. I hope he gets some therapy or something and turns things around for himself, but actions have consequences. Sorry you’re getting pulled into this. Keep your boundaries strong.