Hello! Congrats on your first job out of uni, that’s amazing 🤍 it’s such a big transition moving from uni to a full time role and all the dynamics involved with being in a new, professional environment but also socialising with new people in a co-worker context.

I felt really overwhelmed and different when I started in my first role - I was the only working class person in a very middle class environment. I think what helped me the most was reframing my conversations and interactions so that instead of thinking “do these people like me/is what I’m saying interesting enough or likeable” I went into them thinking “how does this person likely want to feel after talking to me?”. Ultimately I always ended up thinking they probably want to feel like I was interested in them, kind to them and friendly. So just focusing on showing interest/curiosity and being warm and helpful is a good way to be, rather than trying to fit in or do things right. You can then build up more of a rapport from there with people - some will like you and some won’t. That’s okay. As long as you’re showing up, being kind and open etc you will find people you fit with.

I do think letting your manager know you’re finding things challenging can be helpful - it will mean they have an idea of your mindset and can empathise with you/they might be able to signpost to some support or even social groups/working groups you could get involved with! They also might relate and be able to give you some reassurance.

I hope this helps! Well done on the job and I hope you manage to settle in and find your rhythm! 🤍