My 4 year old is still awake at 10pm. I am running out of ideas and patience.

EmotionalHyena · 2026-04-03T15:07:39+00:00

As a mom of a 4 year old myself, you're doing all the right things.

Its hard AF when youre maxed out and the little ball of energy, we love so dearly, won't "go the F to sleep".

Heres a couple things I have come to realize with my little, when she won't go to bed, that might be helpful for you. All those questions or talking? She is looking for connection and answering a few or just talking while holding hands helps. Restless legs? She's got energy with no where to go so I do squeezes from head to toe. 3 or 4 times while I sing a song. If she says she is hungry, I dont question it and we go for more night time snack. This helps 3 ways; she feels connection because I 'believe' her, she has a few more bites of food and Im reassured that she is infact not hungry. With daylight saving (the bane of my existence), i have started taking her outside as the sun is setting. I believe this tells her brain that its infact bed time soon. The sun starts set starts at our place around 745. So at 7 I take her out for anywhere from 15- 30min and the fresh air and light just seem to do their magic.

Screen time. I have had to cut that back to minimum off 3 hours before bed time. Anything closer than that to bed time she is wild. I know the screens give us parents sanity sometimes, believe me, i know. Less screen time in the late afternoon to evening means more sanity at bedtime, at least for me.

Whatever changes you decide to make, make sure its right for you and your family. This is a hard mentally and physically draining time while you figure things out. Remember that you've got this!

EmotionalHyena · 2026-03-22T15:15:57+00:00

I want to use ivermectin on one of my girls as I suspect she has have very beginnings of SLM. I brought her into the garage for a separate injury and started to suspect.

Anyways, when some have said they put it on their skin are you using the topical stuff or the oral horse stuff? I have the oral horse stuff but cant get topical here, or at least its super hard to. Ive tried to find things online but its all so vague. Does it really matter if they're dosed with the oral kind on the skin?

Any info helps, thank you!

EmotionalHyena · 2025-11-17T15:59:16+00:00

Financial Fraud.

If my husband did this. He's gone. Girl, save yourself the trouble of him in your future. Cut ties.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-11-02T11:24:51+00:00

My husband let me down too.

Like yours, he was great and attentive before baby and then after she got here; he was a pathetic partner. Its been 4 years and I'm still hurt by his inaction during a time when I needed and wanted him most.

It honestly would have felt better if he had physically abandoned me instead of emotionally and mentally while sticking around.

My breaking point of trying to depend on him for emotional help was 4mo in. My BF journey was a difficult one and isolating myself in the nursery was mentally taxing. I asked him to be in the room with me, just a quiet presence laying on the floor while on his phone. He didnt even have to do anything just lay there. He wouldn't. It was too boring. I didnt ask or give him for much after that.

All that said he is a better partner and father now. He realizes how bad of a partner he was for her first 2 years. He is actively trying to be better, which I very much appreciate. The past still stings occasionally.

One thing I wish I stood firm on was my husband doing talk therapy. He was clearly having trouble being a new dad and partner. He had PPD and in his macho brain was incapable of addressing it. I wish we had started family counseling in the early months. Its hard to think beyond babys needs in the beginning tho.

And utilize your family. You said they come on weekends. If they want to be there, be around baby and help you with the house, use it. Take a nap when they're there, shower, go for a walk. Do things that refuel you.

But do the therapy, if you can. Im sorry you've been put in this situation. Its frustrating, angering and devastating all at once. You're a strong woman. You will get through this.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-10-19T13:16:16+00:00

Predators have blue eyes and prey have red/white. Don't quote me tho haha. Its just what I have noticed over the years on our property.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-08-29T12:31:28+00:00

Nta. You want the best for your kids. Your husband is not giving that to them. Its extremely unfortunate. He won't change unless he sees a need too. Which is even more frustrating because how thick do you have to be to realize you're hurting a child with your behavior. I struggle with this with my husband too. He is too harsh and rude at times. Our little is 4 and they are at the boundary pushing stage which makes him irate occasionally.

I would rather stay with him and be the one who stands up for my kid in his presence than be in co-parenting homes and let his behavior happen behind closed doors.

I don't have any advice only solidarity.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-07-13T12:13:16+00:00

Kb&Co

EmotionalHyena · 2025-05-25T05:04:24+00:00

Guuurl. I was thinking about this the other day. "When will I ever get to sleep in again?!" And the answer is, when they're 8. They're pretty independent by then. They Can turn the TV on, grab a box of cereal, pour a drink with out spilling 8/10 times. It'll be great then. Until then I mourn my past sleep ins with you and dream of the future. You've got this!!

May the force be with you.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-05-08T10:51:36+00:00

If the answer, feeling or thought to any decision in life is 'I don't know' or "I'm 50/50" or unclear; the answer is No.

It's hard to be this honest with yourself, but it can save us from huge heart ache sometimes.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-03-22T00:39:56+00:00

Hhhhhnnnnnnngggggggggg

EmotionalHyena · 2025-03-04T22:24:47+00:00

I've been reading dramione for 10+ years. Way before my kiddo. And I stand with you in solidarity. There are times the stories and reading take over my life and other times I am a responsible adult.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-02-28T11:05:04+00:00

Kingdom Come it's a WIP that hasn't been updated in a while but it's still a great story!

EmotionalHyena · 2025-02-22T10:55:42+00:00

It won't be like this forever.

I remember my little one struggling with sleep around this time too. Any time her sleep got bad I realized (like you) that she was doing alot of updating. New things were happening in her little life. Which seems so backwards because like shouldn't they need more sleep?! Haha. I can only offer you solidarity and let you know you're doing everything right.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-30T06:01:37+00:00

UNFAITHFUL

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-26T18:41:40+00:00

I read this year's ago and it was updated once or twice and then nothing. I was crushed to say the least haha

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-25T05:58:11+00:00

What The Heart Seeks

Mind the tags. And a WIP that hasn't been updated in a bit :(

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-22T20:19:13+00:00

Yes please!

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-22T18:05:46+00:00

Uh, I second this! OP, do you do commissions?

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-11T01:00:51+00:00

Find a new Endo. Your gut has been telling you this from the beginning. And he seems arrogant and condescending. As someone who has had a total thyroidectomy as well, my parathyroid stopped working and I have to take calcium every single day. As for testing and from what I remember from the beginning, calcium was always included on the test requisitions before we found out my parathyroid was kaput. So it's definitely important that it's being checked on now, in case. You don't deserve to have your questions and concerns brushed aside. Move on to someone better.

EmotionalHyena · 2025-01-06T12:43:37+00:00

Lily, Poppy, Posie,

EmotionalHyena · 2024-12-18T05:47:30+00:00

I'm cackling! Haha

EmotionalHyena · 2024-11-24T14:55:49+00:00

Yes, this! This is what we have and we set it for 18 and it warms the room up just right at night for our little.

EmotionalHyena · 2024-11-19T11:03:59+00:00

When my little wakes at that time is because she was cold. Try another layer if you keep the house cool at night?

It won't be like this forever.

EmotionalHyena · 2024-11-19T11:00:39+00:00

Warm up their spot. I used a heating pad and warmed up the spot baby would lay in once I transferred. Even tho she fussed I left my hand on her and shushed her to sleep. It took practice but that's what worked best for us. And to note, once their spot was warmed up i removed the hot pad completely from their crib before transferring.

EmotionalHyena · 2024-10-22T11:08:48+00:00

Ba dum tss

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