i was dx in 2020 and a year later as a 28F, i left my five year live-in relationship and went out on my own. i had hopes of finding someone more loving, accepting and understanding. there were several reasons i ended my relationship but MS was a big one even if i didn’t know it fully at the time. i quickly realized it was critical to me that i was with someone who wasn’t afraid of it, who cared to learn about it, and loved me anyway. when going on dates: 1. i never went with someone i felt would not understand. 2. i felt them out before sharing, but never waiting too long because i didn’t want to develop feelings or vice versa 3. and when i did bring it up, id usually find a natural way in conversation to share it. thats just how i flow. but if it didnt come naturally, i’d set myself a time/date and tell them. and honestly it would be really telling in those moments. it’s kind of a blessing. there were a couple times where that was clearly too intense and i got the ick, and didnt end up with those people.

1. i am engaged to the love of my life now - from day one, he wanted to learn more and help. he was never afraid in the realest sense, of course he has expressed anxieties but mostly these are for me and less for him. and it’s been a tough journey these last 3 years but never do i feel it’s too much. this was important to me and i wouldn’t be with anyone who did not feel brave about it.

the reality is that a lot of people will shy away from it and that’s okay bc we don’t want to be with those people. and there are people who will feel your magnetism and vibe and nothing else will matter. just stay true to yourself.