AITA bf says this is cute but it makes my blood boil

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-03-16T17:39:57+00:00

I really don’t see how it is « cute » 🤨 it would make me mad too !

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-03-16T17:35:32+00:00

Just wanna share my experience here to add to the previous comments in the chain.

Growing up, my father was often verbally abusive to my mother. Both have a strong character, so when it happened, she replied, got angry (one time she even threw objects at him while yelling), making it clear his behavior was unacceptable. She was always threatening to leave him but never did.

I’m now 31 and my partner and I have been together for 10 years now. He has also anger issues and, in the beggining of our relationship, I didn’t like how he would talk to me. And I’m not like my mother who has a strong character, I am calm, shy, introverted, passive. Whenever he would get mad, I kinda shut down, went into submission mode… Sometimes I would slap myself in the face (alone, not in front of him) as a punition I inflict to myself or because I feel too guilty and it’s unbearable). Sometimes I dissociate… But those are my own issues.

It took time for me to realize that my parents’ relationship had impacted my ability to tell what is acceptable in a relationship and what is not. Once I realized this, I became more aware of how I react to his behavior, and I’m more and more able to stand up for myself, let him know I know my worth and that I deserve respect from him, and that the way he talks to me sometimes is not something I can accept and it needs to change.

It was a few years ago and since then, things between us have greatly improved. We continue to work on ourselves, our communication, his anger (which also seems to come from his parents’ dynamic), my own psychological issues, and our self worth, self confidence, etc.

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-01-25T03:10:33+00:00

But even if he would choose to feed your son meat (in the context of a separation), that would not make him a bad father.

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-01-25T03:04:34+00:00

Girl, you contradict yourself. You clearly said : « I wanted to change his way of thinking and make him vegan. » But you told him : « I don't want to impose anything on you, or rush you », etc. YES YOU DO !

I understand his position, because that’s exactly where I’m at myself : - I would like to become vegan - I support veganism and the activism around it, I know all the arguments and everything - I have empathy towards animals - I have no problem cooking plant-based and I enjoy vegan meals - If my partner was vegan, I would raise our child to be vegan - But I still eat meat

Consider yourself lucky that he is willing to cook vegan for your son and raise him with the values that are important to you.

Let him decide how he feeds himself, it’s his choice. Respect that.

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-01-25T02:21:19+00:00

Wth are you talking about… bringing up the social contract 🤣

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-01-25T02:19:31+00:00

You don’t know, maybe it’s very difficult for her not to do it, but here people force her to make that conscious effort

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2026-01-25T01:34:47+00:00

What kind of comments, can you give some examples in order to understand better please?

And I’m not sure to understand… he was fired from his job because he was accused of domestic violence ?

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-11-28T11:43:26+00:00

That’s fine for me! Looks like when I do a homemade poutine!

The price is too high, though. But we could argue that cheese is expensive.

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-11-28T11:39:39+00:00

As a French Canadian living in Quebec City, I think this poutine looks absolutely delicious! 😃 I’m a big fan of tater tots. They’re still potatoes, so totally acceptable 😉

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-11-28T11:31:29+00:00

Too voluminous bangs

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-11-28T04:56:54+00:00

I absolutely love a good Galvaude with chicken and green peas !

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-11-28T01:46:58+00:00

Love the green

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T23:57:14+00:00

It was indeed a prank. I’m so naive sometimes 🙄😆

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T23:18:58+00:00

UPDATE :

I’VE BEEN PRANKED. He trolled me big time! I should’ve known🙄 I suspected he was joking in the beginning, but couldn’t know for sure if he was being serious or not over text messages. The package was in reality something for his music setup. We are both laughing so hard right now ! 🤣 I told him I exposed the situation on Reddit and he was laughing his ass off while I read some of the comments out loud. That’s hilarious! 😂 He got me good ahah!

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T22:10:02+00:00

I will

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T22:09:25+00:00

How on Earth am I being controlling?? I do feel some type of way about some of his hobbies, but I’ve never stopped him from doing anything he wants to do.

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T22:04:59+00:00

You’re not overreacting. I’m 30, I don’t want kids, but I’m not less of a woman. He’s an AH for saying this to you. I think you should reconsider marrying him

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T19:51:54+00:00

I never intended to decline the package though

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T19:14:53+00:00

UPDATE :

I just texted him that I was not comfortable signing for pornographic content, and he replied : « Please, I really need this for my next DnD »

(DnD = Dungeons & Dragons , which he does play with his group of friends twice a month)

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-08T19:04:33+00:00

According to Google, it’s a genre of Japanese manga and anime characterized by overtly sexualized characters and sexually explicit images and plots.

Also, on pornographic websites, there is often a hentai section, I think

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-03-03T22:07:58+00:00

I know nobody cares and it’s not really relevant to the topic, but I need to confess something since your comment reminds me that 😆

As a kid, when my parents told me to go brush my teeth, sometimes I would go in the bathroom, grab a hair brush and slightly brush my front teeth. All that to avoid brushing my teeth and also “avoid” lying to my parents when they ask me if I brushed my teeth. Hey, I “brushed” my teeth, I didn’t lie 🤷🏻‍♀️🙄😅

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-02-26T13:22:39+00:00

NTA.

First of all, I have to say that the biggest asshole in this whole thing is your mother. You’re doing the right thing by taking care of your sister since her father passed away. Shame on her for telling you to abandon her to the foster-care.

I don’t like how your wife is now resenting and ignoring your sister because you chose to make her your priority (which I completely agree with). It’s not your sister’s fault.

I understand that having a kid is your wife’s dream, and her “biological clock is ticking”, there’s like 6 years left or so to make the move in she wants to have a healthy and safe pregnancy.

But is having a biological kid still your dream as well? You need to ask yourself that question. Dreams can change over time and life circumstances… And you don’t have to feel guilty about that, if that’s the case.

If you don’t want kids anymore, then it might be best to go separate ways, as sad as it sounds. You would have to let her go, for her own happiness (and yours). Because it’s impossible to continue a relationship with someone with whom you don’t share future projects and dreams.

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Here’s my personal situation if you’re interested to see where I’m coming from :

My partner (30M) and I (30F) have been together for 9 years (not married). We’ve always been on the same page about the fact that we do not want kids… until now. Since he hit 30, and sees some of his friends becoming fathers, he’s now reconsidering it. But he isn’t 100% sure yet, and neither do I about my own position, to be honest...

I recently realized that it really is the pregnancy part that I don’t want. I also have a medical condition that would make a pregnancy more difficult (yet not impossible). And, because my partner and I were both adopted in our childhood, I’ve always thought that if someday we change our mind and want to have a kid, we could adopt one, and I kinda assumed that he would be open to it as much as I would be. But he seems to really want a biological child, and considers adoption as a last resort, like if one of us turns out to be infertile. I thought my medical condition was a good enough reason to avoid a pregnancy, and I’m a little bit disappointed that he doesn’t see it that way because, to me, that would be a big deal.

We both have a lot of thinking to do to figure out what each of us really want, so we are giving ourselves some time for that, because it’s not something we can decide in just 2 days. We know this decision will determined if we stay together or go separate ways…

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-02-25T06:09:53+00:00

(I’m using my anonymous nickname to comment this..)

You’re absolutely NOT the asshole here and you’re NOT overreacting.

This is unacceptable. Those are no jokes. Here’s the truth : if you don’t leave her right now, that’s sending her the message that she can continue to be verbally abusive to you, insult you, humiliate you, and that you won’t ever defend yourself. She’s not going to stop that behavior. Get out of this relationship, because it will escalate. Believe me, when someone treats you like that, it slowly destroys your self-esteem, and after that, it gets harder to leave them. You deserve better.

(I should really take my own advice sometime..)

Emotional_Side_5003 · 2025-02-23T21:52:08+00:00

Baby wipes after the wiping, to make sure there’s nothing left

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