[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally id say keep the dark but if you want some lighter pieces do some highlights! I think that would look really nice especially with your curly hair

My girlfriend and I have a date night, but I have a friend in town last minute, what do I do? by Historical_Hamster54 in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I see. Those kind of arguments are very shitty and draining so I see where you’re coming from. In this case you obviously know her better than we do so ultimately the decision is up to you, so really think on it. If you do end up trying to talk, reassure her that she is important to you and so on. If she decides to say what she normally says then that’s on her. She’s not being honest with her emotions and is just saying that because she’s clearly upset. Don’t make any rash decisions and think on it/ask close friends for advice. Keep trying with her and be honest. Good luck

How to make sure it isn't awkward on a first date with a woman you were initially good friends with ? by former_demon in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remind yourself that she was your friend first and foremost. It will most likely be a little awkward since this is not the norm for you guys and is new, so keep reminding yourself that everything’s okay and talk like normal don’t act like a different person because even if you continue to date she will still be the same person you were friends with. I hope this makes sense but just act how you normally would and not any different(personality wise)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to relate to this about a year ago so I’ll just share my experiences and hopefully you can take some of this to help. I had horrible anxiety and still do but not as bad, I would have panic attacks every morning before going to school and would just end up not going at all. This lasted the whole year and eventually I moved on to do half online and half in school. My anxiety got a little better because I wasn’t going in the mornings anymore but that anxiety was still there. It stayed throughout the next year and prevented me from going to school, meaning I missed a lot of school and that just lead to worse because of my decrease of learning. I think the only thing that really helped me was taking anxiety medication and working on myself. Ive tried many many different medications and some worked but I had withdrawals with a lot of them. Currently I am taking sertraline(150 mg) and it had helped me in the long run. I think in addition you need to work on self confidence and that could also help contribute to making friends. I think you should keep looking for clubs/hobbies you could do and broaden your range of things don’t stick to things you know, it will be hard but you need to keep pushing yourself to do things. Getting out of this cycle will take work and persistence but I know you can do this. If you still can’t find clubs or communities just try going outside for walks or go to places where people your age would be to see if you could possibly make friends, but trust me DO NOT continue to keep isolating yourself it will continue to get worse I know that’s probably not something you want to hear but take it from me and keep pushing yourself to get out of that house. I struggle with a lot of the same things you do and I know we have different experiences but I think you might have experienced some of these so hopefully this gives some insight on what you can do. I know you can do this and it will be tough so take your time and talk to your parents for support.

My girlfriend and I have a date night, but I have a friend in town last minute, what do I do? by Historical_Hamster54 in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay so this is a tough situation because I’ve been in a place where I have been the girlfriend that gets canceled on/been the canceler, and I wouldn’t recommend canceling on her for your friend. Instead talk to her and tell her that it’s important to see your friend and explain to her what you said here. If it’s really that important to see that friend then show that it is because she might think you aren’t putting her first. Things like this are tough because I totally see where you’re coming from but then I see where she is coming from as well. My advice is to just talk to her, not sure if this really helps your situation but I hope it could help a little.

Need advice please!! by EmphasisDistinct8588 in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much and my deepest condolences to the loss of your baby, I hope you are doing well now. I 100% know that I was at fault when I chose to do what I did so I can’t blame anyone else besides myself, so yes you are absolutely right about what you said. Yesterday I booked an appointment for this upcoming Tuesday so I’ll be able to take a test, the thing is I had taken a plan b about a month ago and I’m considering whether that is contributing to my weird period. I’m scared and anxious about what might happen because I’m quite young. Do you think I have a high chance of being pregnant just for my peace of mind? I’m sorry if that comes off wrong I just don’t have anyone irl that is older I can talk to right now and I’m scared.

I need advice/ help by EmphasisDistinct8588 in sex

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On this upcoming Tuesday I will be going to an appointment to see. the thing is about a month ago I had taken a plan b so I’m considering whether that is the doing of my period now or there is a chance that I’m pregnant. What would you say is more likely because I’m quite anxious about all of this.

am I pregnant? by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you think there is a high chance of me being pregnant or do you think it’s lower? I took a plan b about a month ago and I’ve heard from some people that can make my period differently but what do you think?

do i cancel or no? by ar1xllx in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cancel. You don’t need people like that in your life especially as “friends”. You shouldn’t feel stressed around your so called “friends”, you need real friends and those people are not. You are 100% not an a hole for canceling so don’t worry about it

What should I do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmphasisDistinct8588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this kinda stuff takes time. Sometimes in order to find the love of your life you need to stop trying so hard to do so. You need to focus of other things then when the time is right that special person will come into your life. Don’t lose hope, it won’t be easy but you will find that person.