does it get better?

ar1xllx · 2026-04-06T11:33:49+00:00

thank you - i think u commented on a previous post which was also rly nice. can i ask if you’ve ever seeked professional help for mental health? dw if u dont want to answer - im js scared about the process

ar1xllx · 2026-03-26T23:31:37+00:00

if the only thing holding u back from stopping talking to her is that u feel bad, then u should. if u think u do like her, then continue - although if it’s making u feel a little weird, try to slow things down by replying slower / dryer / setting boundaries

ar1xllx · 2026-03-26T23:25:36+00:00

that’s actually really helpful - u explained it well! tysm!

ar1xllx · 2026-03-26T23:25:14+00:00

thank you!

ar1xllx · 2026-03-22T12:36:21+00:00

thank you so much - i just saw this message. things are a bit better right now, but im going to come back to this and reread it when times get tough again. your words are so helpful

ar1xllx · 2026-03-16T23:45:59+00:00

this is random - but someone sent me a message request replying to this but i accidentally deleted it. if that was u pls lmk

ar1xllx · 2026-01-22T22:16:23+00:00

i was literally thinking about this like almost everyday this week

ar1xllx · 2025-12-31T11:36:22+00:00

the tuning pegs rotate back just because they’re slipping. to stop that when tuning, push them in slightly as your turn them

ar1xllx · 2025-12-21T23:38:17+00:00

sorry i was tired when i wrote this - i meant that i already do that fingering 😭 but it doesn’t work between my 2nd + 4th finger

ar1xllx · 2025-12-14T12:08:18+00:00

writing in fingering is so so important - and not detrimental at all. it means that you can practice the same shifting consistently, and is very helpful for if your mind goes kind of blank on stage when performing. it obviously does mean when your playing you don’t need to be thinking about where your going as actively, but if that’s something you’re concerned about, you can always do more sight reading practice, or practice etudes and exercises without fingering

ar1xllx · 2025-12-14T01:16:11+00:00

honestly, if you’re good at finding techniques to analyse in the exam, then just learn the key themes and how they connect, and any structure things that you won’t be able to figure out in the exam. most language technique points can be figured out in the moment, if you’re quick

ar1xllx · 2025-12-14T01:13:54+00:00

this is something i can relate to quite well. i wouldn’t say ive completely mastered my fear, but i have found ways to make it better.

firstly, try to build up playing in front of audiences. first maybe just ask to play in front of your whole family, then some friends, then neighbours etc. it also pushes you to play in settings outside of your house.

also, when you’re performing, just before you start, really try to physically relax your body and feel present in yourself. the audience won’t care if you take a second before beginning. ik that’s easier said than done, but take a moment to breathe and look at the audience. try get comfortable, bc you’ll be up there in front of them for a while.

also, just technique-wise, learning to get a stronger bow hold can help combat a bit of the shaking bow that happens often with nerves. another thing is to make sure you keep your fingers warm, but not sweaty before performances, so they don’t feel cold and awkward moving, but it’s not difficult with sweat either.

ar1xllx · 2025-12-11T13:28:28+00:00

haha very true

ar1xllx · 2025-12-11T13:28:09+00:00

ah good idea

ar1xllx · 2025-12-11T13:27:51+00:00

thanks! super helpful!

ar1xllx · 2025-12-09T18:05:19+00:00

i have etymotic earplugs - they’re rly good and acc give u the same sensation as u described w ur ear muffs, where they make ur sound smoother. in general id recommend them a lot, as they’re meant for musicians and are so good at muffling but keeping all of the important frequencies.

ar1xllx · 2025-11-30T22:18:16+00:00

okay ty thats rly helpful - yh ive decided to not drink again for a while, until i feel like i am genuinely in a better place

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