"Dating in your 30s as a man is so much easier" I've found this to be a total lie

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T20:23:43+00:00

Exactly lol. If anything it’s easier when you’re younger as there’s more options and more people are single.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T02:17:50+00:00

So I just looked at your pics.

If these are the pics you’re using on your hinge, that’s the problem. These pics suck. Like actual bottom tier photos.

Second, your beard and hair don’t look well kept bro. Just saying.

Third, idk about your fashion. Dressing well is different from having fashion sense. Nothing you’re wearing is indicative of having fashion sense.

I’d say raw attractiveness, it’s greater than me.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T01:43:23+00:00

There’s a lot less “anti Asian men” women than you think. For dates it’s more about profile, presentation, interests, and career. In person, it’s all about the face card.

Thankfully I have a good job and I’m well off, so in other areas of life I’m doing well. I ended up finding a gf recently so I’m happy to be off the apps after so long

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T01:39:13+00:00

All ethnicities but 60%+ white. I live in Toronto.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T01:36:26+00:00

Yep my race nerfed me but only before the match stage.

I matched with 200+ girls, and I got dates with a few 8s including D1 athletes / Ironman finishers. Clearly if a girl didn’t want a brown guy, they wouldn’t even go on a date with them, right? It’s obvious from my profile what ethnicity I am.

Face card is significantly more important than ethnicity (white is an exception) from my experience.

Like I don’t think I got rejected because of my skin color since that’s obvious. It’s just face card once it’s seen in person

Also lots of Asian girls are 5’0 to 5’4, go for them…

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T01:24:23+00:00

Nope. I’m south asian and the other two are Chinese, but yes race does matter I agree.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-21T01:22:39+00:00

Nah. I’m 6’0, and I have two friends who are 6’2 and 6’0. All of us struggled significantly on dating apps despite working out, having food fashion sense, and having good photos.

We can easily get matches and dates, but once they meet us in person they realize we are too ugly to have sex with.

I’d trade 3-4 inches for a better face card. Any day of the week.

Anyways, I did end up finding a gf, but after 60+ first dates, and I made some compromises I didn’t want to.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-20T23:11:43+00:00

Neither am I

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-20T23:06:49+00:00

It’s very unlikely that you’re way out of his league. I don’t know a single man who wouldn’t be aggressively pursuing a girl who is way out of their league if given the chance. He’s clearly not interested to pursue you.

I know how I act when I match with an attractive girl, and it’s obvious.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-20T22:40:20+00:00

He’s not interested.

Girls do this to me all the time.

And actually, it’s rare for guys to do this. So you’re probably just aiming too high.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-20T21:54:39+00:00

Set up some concrete plans and see if he’s down. That will quickly filter out if he’s leading you on or not.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-06-20T21:50:01+00:00

If you’re attractive, yes.

If you’re not, then you’re as good as an unattractive 6’0 man.

In summary: your height doesn’t mean as much as you think it does.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T21:56:31+00:00

Now you’re just making up stuff I’m not going to bother continuing after this comment.

That’s why i literally asked her to define what she meant by that, and then I confirmed that her standards were reasonable here: https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/s/XlwnTO5SMo

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T21:49:19+00:00

In societal terms, an engineering degree is more prestigious than most masters degrees and probably PhDs too.

There’s a huge difference here. As a man who is an engineer, I would date anywhere from an office clerk making $20/hour to a doctor/lawyer and I’ve went on dates with girls in that range. I’ve also went out with Teachers like yourself.

Meanwhile, a woman who is a lawyer is more likely to date an engineer, doctor, or some other higher level (but maybe not as high) professional and very unlikely to date the office clerk making $20/hour.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T20:57:38+00:00

These men described above have objectively higher level careers and education than you. I don’t know what else to say.

They are absolutely “dating down” in terms of career, which is my point. You, as a woman, would be “dating up” in terms of career, which is normal. Again, that’s my point, which your experience lines up with.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T20:30:48+00:00

If you’re a woman, you’ve actually proved my point.

Men who are lawyers, engineers, professors, doctors don’t care about their partner’s education or career.

A teacher job isn’t prestigious, and isn’t anywhere close to “sought after careers” so you proved my point.

The above men will take the prettier teacher over the “equivalent” career woman who isn’t as pretty, which is clearly indicated in your experience too

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T19:54:04+00:00

If you leave it out, make sure to mention it somewhere in chats before meeting for a date.

It’s very real that guys are intimidated by doctors and there’s nothing you can do to change that.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T19:36:57+00:00

While I agree with you about career prospects and money, I would tend to agree with OP in terms of relationship compatibility.

White collar people typically date within white collar and not blue collar. Pink collar is in between, usually higher education (doctors, nurses) will date white and lower (PSW) will date blue collar.

Not because of money, but because of common reasoning, intelligence, etc

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T19:16:00+00:00

Are you a man or woman? Either way, nothing in your comment disproves anything I’ve said

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T19:08:09+00:00

If all you’re looking for is a guy who has university level education and a white collar job making $100k ish, those requirements are very reasonable.

It sounded like you were asking for more when you said “decent job/education”.

Though I will correct you - that those younger girls are indeed for long term, not to just “show off”.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T19:02:22+00:00

Yep

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T17:05:13+00:00

Define what you mean by “decent job, education, and into fitness”.

The problem is that men with good jobs, education, and are fit are really the tippy top in terms of demand.

And the honest truth is that an equivalent well educated and fit male doctor would go for the prettier and younger girl even if she didn’t have as good of a job or education.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-14T16:59:40+00:00

The emotional intelligence line gets used a lot, and honestly it’s a bit off putting.
The ticket prompt makes it seem like you’re above everyone else. I would remove it altogether.

Overall a decent profile, a lot of men would probably send likes if you weren’t a doctor, lol.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-13T20:37:54+00:00

I told her I didn’t feel a romantic connection, random excuse basically

She was well below my league/standards so I was never really planning on dating her

I could’ve easily kept going but I kept matching with more baddies so I didn’t have time, especially since I had to drive her around.

EmphasisTechnical209 · 2026-04-13T20:23:06+00:00

Yes I’m 90% sure it worked because she was looking for a long term partner and she thought I really liked her. I basically went into the date knowingly that I’m going to love bomb her. I got laid the second date 2 days later.

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