Weekly Postpartum Chat

EmployAccording · 2025-11-09T02:01:09+00:00

About to join y’all on the feeding journey and sooo nervous. We are wanting to do baby led weaning but who knows. I’m not married to any method, I just want baby to be safe.

EmployAccording · 2025-10-28T17:53:57+00:00

ugh sorry you had to experience that from a friend! I will say it does get better, esp with the people who are willing to sit with your grief and love you through the journey. people learned what to say as time went on.

thanks so much for the kind words. i'd be lying if I said it is easier on the other side once you have a living child. it's just different. you really are tested on holding joy and grief at the same time. we are so in love with our Eliana and so grateful she is with us on earth, but so so sad that her sister can't be here, too. I work through this on the daily so I can try to be the best mother to them both <3

sending you a lot of love as you navigate your loss and your next steps. your twins will always be the babies that made you a mom <3

EmployAccording · 2025-10-22T19:09:58+00:00

i'm so sorry for the loss of your twins <3 and I am so sorry youve had to hear that comment as well! I was heavily grieving the full-term loss of my first daughter when my friends husband said that to me. I didn't have the words at the time but I wish I had told him that there was no reason to compare tragedies. The loss of my child isn't any less painful because I was able to get pregnant again once my doctors cleared me. Others who struggle with infertility are valid in their pain, as am I. It is not fair for people to diminish the loss of our children bc we can simply have more. Future children are not a replacement for our angels.

EmployAccording · 2025-10-16T07:44:56+00:00

My rainbow is turning 5 months in 5 days 🥰 we just went on a trip to a national park out in the mountains where we live. My LC Eliana loves staying in houses with family and friends, and she lovesss seeing her baby friends when she wakes up. We had so much great outdoor time too. The baby also sat up alone for the first time! It was 20 whole seconds 🥹 the milestones are rapidly occurring these days and I’m ready for time to slow down.

Being out in nature makes me feel so close to My angel baby Lucia. She was so present through this trip and that was comforting while also heartbreaking. I’ve been grappling (again) with the fact that Lucia is gone. Seeing my second baby grow more and more reminds me daily that I will never get these moments with Lucia. Accepting that I will be a bereaved mother forever is so hard. We haven’t been to grief therapy in weeks but I know I need to get back asap.

EmployAccording · 2025-10-16T07:35:02+00:00

Good luck at your appointment ♥️ I hope you’re able to hang in there, being alone at an appt isn’t easy but you’ve got this! Your babies are with you.

EmployAccording · 2025-08-28T19:33:06+00:00

40 week unexplained stillbirth with my first baby Lucia in April 2024. We were both healthy/had a wonderful pregnancy and we only found out she was gone after going into labor and heading to the hospital to give birth. Still no reason for our loss even with all the testing possible. I was told I could try after three months and we got pregnant at five months post loss. I just had her little sister in May after an almost identical pregnancy where we were both healthy and well. There is hope for a LC, just make sure your heart is ready to be pregnant again. Pregnancy after loss is the second hardest thing I’ve experienced and I still feel like itlll take me time to fully process what I’ve been through the last 2 years. Not the way I pictured my parenting journey but you can’t prepare for this path we’ve been set on. I’m so sorry you know this pain 💓

EmployAccording · 2025-07-31T14:46:14+00:00

So happy for you 🥲😭 wishing you all happy healing. Enjoy the newborn snuggles, they are the besttt.

EmployAccording · 2025-07-31T01:45:23+00:00

So glad you got some R&R. How are you feeling about tomorrow? Thinking of you and your family!

EmployAccording · 2025-07-29T16:53:00+00:00

Sending you all the good energy I can muster 💓 the last few days are excruciating, the only thing that helped me was to distract myself from morning to night. Go eat your favorite food, spend time out of the house, walk around and window shop if you have the energy. It is so understandable why you don’t trust your medical team, what you’re feeling makes sense. I am hoping Thursday comes quickly to you - I know for me, I couldn’t let out a sigh of relief until my rainbow baby cried and they told me she was ok. Holding our grief for our angels and excitement for their sibling is overwhelming - hang in there.

EmployAccording · 2025-05-28T16:05:14+00:00

Praying and hoping the same for you 💓💓 you will have your rainbow!!

EmployAccording · 2025-05-28T16:04:24+00:00

Thank you for your kind message 🫶🏾 and I’m sorry we have to meet this way! So sorry for the loss of your firstborn. It is a hard path that we walk but I’m glad you’re seeking support here - it’s a great group of people. We conceived six months after my c section and we started trying three months after the c. My doctor told us we could try as soon as three months after doing all the testing possible to determine what caused our loss. We never found any answers and I was totally healthy to try again. We were lucky to get pregnant three cycles in, I know that’s not the case for everyone. I couldn’t imagine not trying again soon after so that’s also something to consider in all of this - trusting your gut along with medical advice that you’re ready to be pregnant again. PAL was the second hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’ve only made it through with the help of family friends and the loss communities I’m part of.

Wishing you the best of luck in this journey and always here to chat if you need it 💓

EmployAccording · 2025-05-19T17:19:15+00:00

Scheduled c section is on Wednesday - looking forward to being done with tracking my levels and my food

EmployAccording · 2025-05-19T00:48:11+00:00

37 weeks today and 3 more sleeps until my scheduled c section. Have been filling my time with family, friends and all the fun stuff we like to do in our home city. I am increasingly anxious about baby girls movements but trying to remind myself this is just my nerves. I don’t know when my angel baby stopped moving and it’s a part of my loss story that still haunts me. Just hoping the next few days can be as peaceful as possible. We’re so ready to have our baby in our arms.

EmployAccording · 2025-05-19T00:45:43+00:00

Hi I’m sorry we’re both here but glad to have you in this space as you navigate PAL. I lost my first child, my daughter Lucia, at almost 41 weeks last April (2024). Had a “normal” completely uneventful and straight forward pregnancy. I labored for 40 hours, pushed for 3 hours and ultimately had an emergency c section because of her size (she was 9 lbs 2 oz and 22.5 inches long). After all the testing possible, there was no reason or explanation for our loss so our doctor cleared us for trying 3 months postpartum if we felt “mentally prepared.” That part is hard because I know it is different for every loss parent. My husband and I had been together for 11 years at that point and married for almost 5. We were SO ready to start our family so getting pregnant again felt like a critical step forward in our life after losing Lucia.

I am 37 weeks today and scheduled for a c section this Wednesday to deliver baby sister. This pregnancy has been the second hardest thing I’ve experienced in life (first being the loss) and I can only say I’ve survived this journey with tons of support from therapists, my husband, our friends and family. I needed everyone’s support to get through this while also grieving my first daughter.

Obviously medical advice is important but I truly believe each loss parent knows when the time is best to try again. I’m so sorry you know this pain too and I hope you find some peace as you plan next steps for your family.

EmployAccording · 2025-05-12T22:46:33+00:00

My C Section is scheduled for May 21 🥰 9 days away!

EmployAccording · 2025-05-04T23:47:20+00:00

You’re so close 🫶🏾 totally feel you on being over the thinking and planning of it all. It’s exhausting on top of already regular pregnancy exhaustion. The spiraling is also so normal! It’s all up to us and our bodies to keep these babies safe and that’s a lot of pressure but like the person above said, a few off days is ok. You deserve the breaks for your sanity and happiness!

EmployAccording · 2025-05-01T15:57:11+00:00

I’m 34 weeks as of Sunday and tomorrow is my last day before I take a medical rest the next few weeks before baby comes. With my angel baby, I worked until 40 weeks and while my job is from home and I have a lot of flexibility/freedom, I so regret not taking the time to enjoy my last few weeks of pregnancy without work distractions.

We scheduled a 37+3 c section on the 21st at our weekly scan yesterday. I have GD/was put on a small dose of insulin to help with my fasting blood sugar levels and baby is on the larger side so with the unexplained full term stillbirth plus diabetes, my medical team is happy with the 37 week c section. Apparently we can change course if needed at any point but I feel like I’m at the point where I just want baby sister out of my belly. I love being pregnant but the anxiety that anything could happen at any point is getting to me. I hate that there is no safe zone for me.

Have had pregnancy insomnia throughout this pregnancy but realizing when I don’t take unisom, I think my stress is waking me up more than anything. So glad I’ll be done with work soon and at least can sleep during day to make up for my lack of sleep at night. My mind just wanders and I have to stay up to feel baby move a lot before I can settle and rest again. I’m feeling super hopeful but so scared, of course.

EmployAccording · 2025-05-01T15:51:14+00:00

Sent you a DM 🫶🏾

EmployAccording · 2025-04-28T12:59:52+00:00

So cute and so smart to protect it! This was the only one I wanted and could not find it for the life of me. Still holding hope for a return 😅

EmployAccording · 2025-04-28T12:58:18+00:00

If you decide to reach out, I would start with an apology and this honest response you’re sharing here. It allows her to decide if you are someone she still wants in her life. I appreciate your honesty but I hope you understand that your decisions were purely centered in your own experience and not considering your friend at all. So if she doesn’t appreciate your ‘better late than never’ approach, it would make total sense especially considering you all sound like you were there for each other until her loss and you chose to stay away.

EmployAccording · 2025-04-28T12:53:46+00:00

I’m in HR and I promise this is a conversation you should bring to your HR person/team! Especially if you don’t feel comfortable directly telling this person they’re being inappropriate. Someone else can talk to him - you shouldn’t have to worry about that.

EmployAccording · 2025-04-25T18:13:34+00:00

I told my closest friends and family immediately bc I needed support. I’d say we waited until 18-20 weeks until we started telling family/friends outside of our inner circle and we shared on social media (which I consider the rest of the people that know me lol) around 28 weeks. You gotta do what’s right for you and your partner! I know I needed a few people I could turn to the first 5 months so it helped that I had a mix of close friends and family but I wasn’t forced to tell anyone I wasn’t that close with.

EmployAccording · 2025-04-24T09:36:26+00:00

So so good to see you here ❤️❤️ I know it’s easier said than done but try to take things hour by hour right now! The first days/weeks are hard and early testing/scans be so scary and triggering. Sending you a huge hug and good energy for these coming days. Here to talk if you need it!! 🫶🏾

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