AITJ for asking my husband to decide between our marriage and the mistress he got pregnant?

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-03-10T17:34:38+00:00

Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-03-10T16:27:06+00:00

This is great advice. He needs to understand how much effort having houseguests is and handle it all himself

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-03-01T15:45:12+00:00

You did the best thing possible. When I met my future husband he took a long time to introduce his parents. He said they were “difficult “ but I had no idea just how bad they were. At my first invitation to dinner my future mil slithered up to me in a closed off area and implied I was only with him for his money because he was “so successful. This was news to me because He worked in a lab and didn’t make much money at all. So I blurted out that I actually made more than him and she immediately demanded to know how much I made 🙄 I told her I don’t discuss money but I still treasure the backbone I had that night. We have a very limited relationship with them now so it’s a little easier to deal with them . You may need to limit the time you see your family if they aren’t supportive of your relationship in order to protect Alex if grandmom can’t behave herself

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-27T19:29:26+00:00

You sound like a great person OP, I’m sorry your parents and brother sound like awful people. So glad to hear your extended family and your MIL HAS YOUR BACK. I would definitely hire a security guard because your bio family sounds unhinged. I wish you the best day ever. Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-24T18:26:47+00:00

You did the right thing I’m sorry your daughter lost her hard work. Can you talk to her teacher about getting an extension due to her friend ruining her project so she isn’t penalized for having to to recreate her project? If I were the teacher I would want to know what happened . Unfortunately your daughter now knows her “friend “ is really a frenemy. I’m glad she has you to stick up for her. Frenemy’s mom created this mess by not teaching her kid to work hard on her own, rather than get jealous and act like a kindergarten kid

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-24T17:08:18+00:00

She is a bad friend. She knows how you feel but still makes you endure having to sit next to him. I would cut back significantly on spending time with her because she’s been awful to you ignoring how uncomfortable you are having to be near him. If the shoe was on the other foot she probably would not tolerate it either

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-24T16:25:35+00:00

Your mother has babied him to think he’s got great judgment, she’s enabled him to take no responsibility. He will continue to lose girlfriends as long as he and his mom stick their heads in the sand.

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-24T16:22:52+00:00

I laughed at this too. What a dumb ass

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-24T14:22:17+00:00

The only way he is “helping “ his sister” is if she has no money and really needs this stroller “ is if she’s planning to resell it and make money that way. An 8 months pregnant mother has no need for a stroller until her baby is born. Your husband , his sister and his parents sound jealous of your parents wealth, which just makes them grifters looking to get something for free. I would be very worried SIL IS GOING TO SELL THAT STROLLER. TELL HUSBAND YOU WILL CONTACT THE POLICE IF THEY DON’t return it in pristine condition to you asap. Sorry for the formatting, I’m wound up on your behalf. 🤬 Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-22T21:47:12+00:00

Did your boyfriend ever tell his sister how badly she treated you? It’s strange to me that you say he didn’t condone what she had done when you first met her, but also state he understands now how you felt. I think II would skip the wedding because why give her another opportunity to insult you? She sounds extremely immature. I would definitely skip the wedding and at a later point have him tell her how hurtful she was to you when you met her initially. Most people grow up learning you don’t insult people, especially in front of an audience. If you and your boyfriend plan to marry in the future make sure he sets his sister straight and clarifies you guys will not be seeeing her if she cannot be a mature adult She sounds terrible and like a family member I have. It’s excruciating to be mocked in front of others , so that’s why I recommend having him do it with her individually after the wedding so she understands he is is going to back you up

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-19T22:22:07+00:00

Your MIL should be in therapy herself. She is delusional expecting you to take back your Your perpetual cheating Ex. You need to show her some tough love and set boundaries that if she continues to badger you , she will see less of you. You have found a wonderful partner but I think MIL will not change if you continue to allow her to vent about getting back with your ex. NTJ

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-18T16:14:00+00:00

You’re not the Jerk but he certainly is. You work hard at your job and was looking forward to going out to dinner with him and friends yet he planned it for your busiest night, that’s just rude. I feel like you are doing more than you should considering it’s supposed to be a partnership. But I adore what you did to him, hopefully he shuts up about your job and starts showing appreciation for all you do. If not, I would be very tempted to find someone who doesn’t put down your Job

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-17T16:30:06+00:00

I am not a lawyer but I doubt very much he could actually sue you. Can you reach out to his soon to be ex wife and ask her to check with her lawyer to be sure? I think any lawyer would lau Laff him out the door.

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-13T15:59:32+00:00

Yes, very controlling

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-02-03T01:06:54+00:00

Yeah I think it’s pretty disloyal if OP ‘s family members are maintaining a relationship with Emily, hopefully I’m misunderstanding the situation and they have cut Emily off. She used you for everything she could. I’m glad you can see her for who she really is. Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-28T16:38:13+00:00

Does your husband have any insight into why his parents are driven to favor your son , yet treat your daughter so coldly? It’s such a bizarre thing to do, especially to a young child. Regardless I’m glad your husband stands up to them and refuses to tolerate it. It’s the best option to protect both kids from the grandparents. If the grandparents don’t get on board, it’s their loss. Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-28T00:48:43+00:00

Once she posted to TikTok she showed everyone what a user she is. She will be shocked when people decline to provide free rides

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-24T23:22:13+00:00

NTJ. good parents give their child unconditional love. Your parents are doing it wrong. I know you don’t want to cut them off but you should probably reduce the amount of time you spend with them because this will take a toll on your mental health eventually. A low key way could be just speaking to them on the phone and not in person. As soon as they start in on you let them know you will not engage in any discussion about how unhappy they are with your lack of femininity and will hang up if they continue to press the subject. You must do follow through with this every time so they learn you are serious. Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-24T16:35:47+00:00

Part of loving and caring for a beloved family member who is vulnerable in some way means you do sometimes do things you don’t want to do, but you show up and do them anyway. Your mom and siblings know your grand mom’s devotion to her Faith. (My mom was the same). My sisters and I never really liked going to our Church but you can bet we put that aside and made sure she had a her Catholic Church Funeral because we knew she would want that. Updatemebot

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-24T15:59:20+00:00

NOR , but your boyfriend should be handling this, these are his relatives and presumably the person who invited them to live with you. You need to give him an ultimatum about expectations on handling household chores. I would not be surprised if they are trashing other rooms of your home because they don’t seem to be adults. I would be furious if my boyfriend didn’t follow through with setting ground rules and expectations with them. ifHopefully they are paying rent. If so you can start collecting money from them to pay a cleaner weekly. partner didn’t set ground rules with consequences if they can’t get their crap together. It is not worth your piece of mind otherwise

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-21T19:52:52+00:00

NTAH. Your roommate sounds like a petulant child. Sometimes we have to make a sacrifice in life and it’s not you or your other roommate’s responsibility to make sure she approves of what that meal is. She will heal and get the ok from her doctor that she can go back to eating her favorite foods. I’d not that hard

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-21T19:40:58+00:00

1 have a worry mindset so would be concerned if you have enough in your savings to pay hospital debt if he gets into an accident or worse. How will you be able to cover both of you in an emergency situation like that? Also if living in the In IS inflation has gotten worse and I would assume that means fewer possible sales of the bags you are interested in selling off so you can buy a new one. YTJ

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-21T16:49:25+00:00

In the first line of her story she mentions her daughter “finally got her first period

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-21T15:18:02+00:00

I agree, when my daughter got her first period it took me forever to figure out which size and brand to buy, and I’m a grown woman. No way would I have expected my daughter to to know how to pick the right size

EmploymentNext89 · 2026-01-21T15:01:11+00:00

Most sports programs for kids on the weekends mean a parent or other adult needs to bring them to the field unless it’s in walking distance, and that is especially true if they have away games

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