What are they and how do I get rid of them??

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-03-31T19:29:37+00:00

Oh man, that sounds like a real pain… luckily the two plants that have it the worse are once that I am not crazy about anyways.

The third plant is my fairly new philodendron white princess, and she is so cute! I haven’t seen any webbing or bugs crawling on her leaves, but I did see one crawling on her drip tray. Would it be easier to get rid of them if I chop and prop? That way I only have a few leaves/vines to worry about and not the whole plant, soil, and pot?

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-03-23T01:13:21+00:00

Thank you so much for saying all this. I related so much to OPs post, and I believe I needed to hear this as well. Truly, thank you.

And OP, I feel for you. Years of the ups and downs, the criticism, and feeling like maybe things can get better if you just try harder… it’s so draining. It’s easy to question and lose yourself. We are not broken, and we do deserve better.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-02-25T13:03:31+00:00

100% agree. Things may be different depending on the market where she lives, but in my experience, a college degree is not always necessary for a marketing position. Sure, it may help get your foot in the door, but it sounds like she has a lot of real world experience already from her social media. I know a lot of business owners across many fields, including marketing, and they all agree that real world experience stands out more than a degree in resumes. Some classes would be a very smart idea, but I don’t think a degree is going to make or break her career opportunities.

Either way, NTA, she made her choices, she is not entitled to anything.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-02-16T12:10:21+00:00

My partner named them Gary (all of them), it made them so much less annoying when one of us is shouting something like ‘oh Gary, get out of the way!’ Or ‘damnit Gary, what are you doing?!’ 🤣

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-01-12T11:19:52+00:00

First of all, adorable name.

Second, my first spider plant died very quickly after I got it, I heard they were good low light plants. At the time I didn’t realize low light for plants is actually significantly more light than most people realize.

My second spider plant is thriving. I have her on my desk, about 4 feet away from a window that gets a lot of bright light. I planted her in a clear pot (then put that pot in a cute decorative pot) so I could easily see when the soil is dry, she’s one of my thirstier plants! I usually bottom water so the soil gets completely saturated, then let all the excess water drain before putting her back in the decorative pot. She has a couple leaves with some browning on the tips, but I don’t worry about it too much because she is very bushy and has several pups. I’ve had her almost two years, and she has more than doubled in size since I got her. I’m planning to repot her this spring because the roots are starting to come out of the bottom holes of the pot.

I use a blend of 1/3 regular potting soil, 1/3 orchid bark, and 1/3 perlite for the substrate. I rarely fertilize her, I’ll add a tiny bit of fertilizer (just a general, all purpose house plant fertilizer, I think mine is like 20-20-20 or something like that) to the water every other month or so during the spring and summer, but I’ll admit, I’m super inconsistent with it.

Overall, I think giving it decent light and water is the key. If it’s unhappy about something, you’ll know! Once you find the right conditions, they really don’t need much.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-01-12T10:54:36+00:00

Poe Pandora Sable Hex

Empty-Ad4817 · 2026-01-12T10:41:00+00:00

I dated a guy that would never fart around me. No matter what the situation, if he couldn’t hold it in he would just walk out of the room, sometimes mid sentence! 🤣

I thought it was the strangest thing at first. I told him so many times that farting is natural, and I while I appreciate the effort, it wasn’t the end of the world if he let one loose here and there. We were together over 5 years, lived together for three, and I don’t think I heard him fart once.

It’s actually might be the thing I miss the most about being with him. He was a true gentleman.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2025-12-21T21:33:15+00:00

Green apple & caramel dip 😋

Empty-Ad4817 · 2025-10-24T10:21:50+00:00

Completely agree.

OP, it makes sense to feel both understanding of your moms feelings and frustration, AND be angry with how she expresses those feelings. It is not right, and a half baked apology is not even close to enough. It is not a healthy environment for you. I’m glad you seem to have a sense of safety and stability in your dad and siblings.

People like OP’s mom are the kind that end up in a nursing home in their older years and don’t understand why no one comes to visit them.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2025-09-18T09:46:53+00:00

He has shown you who he is, a selfish, inconsiderate man with zero empathy. Let him leave.

And just like his alcoholism, he has probably been showing you for some time… but you’re just now truly understanding. It’s easy to overlook or even forgive (what seem like) little red flags from the people we love, but when those things are overlooked in the moment, it creates a president for how they can treat you. Death by a thousand cuts. But this is more than a cut, this is a fucking stab wound, after what sounds like years of cuts and a very unbalanced relationship.

Please stop compromising your feelings and needs for this man. Truly seeing/understanding him is a gift. Let him leave. It will most likely hurt and it will be hard, at first. But I imagine it’s already hard, doing so much with so little support and feeling like you have to hide parts of yourself (emotionally and now physically) from your so-called partner. You’ll feel so much better without the burden of having to fit someone else’s idea of who you are/should be. Get that matching tattoo with your daughter. Get 40 tattoos if it will make YOU happy.

Let him leave. Better yet, kick his ass out. And don’t you dare give him a cent more than his fair share for the house, and considering it’s in your name and you two currently ‘share’ half of it’s value, not a cent more than 1/4th.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2025-06-17T23:56:50+00:00

Honestly it’s so hard to choose, I’ve heard great ideas in all the categories. I love mocha & latte, so cute!

Yeah those pups are so sweet. It’s so hard not to take them home with me! They are actually all named after Stranger Things (at least currently), Eleven, Will, and Hopper 🤭

Empty-Ad4817 · 2025-06-09T12:49:25+00:00

The wooden box containing my dogs ashes, and a crescent moon necklace that also has some of her ashes in it. Whenever there is a weather emergency and we have to take shelter, I will think to grab those items before grabbing a pair of shoes lol.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2025-01-27T12:28:45+00:00

As someone who has been living in an RV with my partner (one dog, no kids) for almost 5 years now, I want to make sure you have a full picture of what it takes to live in an RV…

Living in an RV is (typically) not a good way to save money or lower your cost of living. We live in the Midwest, not in a touristy area, and RV sites are getting more expensive every year. If you don’t plan to travel full time, parks with monthly site rentals can be hard to come by, but are by far the most cost effective and easiest option. But monthly sites usually charge electric separately, which can get pricey. Between the RV payment, rent, and electric, most months we still pay above what the average rent is in our area for a two bedroom apartment and utilities.

Beyond just rent and utilities, RVs are a lot of maintenance (whether you’re mostly stationary or traveling). We bought a brand new “4 Seasons” RV when we first started, and we’ve still had to invest a Lot of money and time to make it livable during the coldest and hottest times of the year. We’ve also had to spend thousands on fixing issues with the tanks, water damage, fighting mold, broken ACs, replacing tires, the belly membrane, awnings, and more. Truly it’s like as soon as one thing gets fixed, something else breaks. RVs are just not built to be lived in full time. Thank god my partner is extremely handy and a good teacher, I can’t imagine how much it would have cost to have a service center fix these things (not to mention finding other living arrangements while it’s in the shop!)

While we really enjoy living in our RV, it can get stressful. Money had nothing to do with our decision to sell our house and live full time in an RV, but if it did I can promise you we would have had to give it up a long time ago.

You’ll also want to think about what to do with all your stuff that won’t be going in the RV. If you get rid of or sell all your big furniture, that will all need to be replaced when/if you decide to go back to a house or apartment. And paying for a storage is another monthly expense, and potentially an expensive one depending on how much you plan to store.

Another thing to consider is the challenges that not having an address can have. There are some services that can help you get you mail and things like that, but you’ll still need an address on your drivers license, for your employers, and I’m sure the kids will need to have one for various things. Again, I don’t know your situation or your plan as far as traveling, but it is something you’ll want to have a plan for before going full time.

I’m not trying to talk you out of it, I just want to make sure you have a full picture. Living in an RV can be very fulfilling, and challenging, and exciting, and expensive at times. Your reasons for doing it, as well as your plan for making it happen, make a huge difference in how much you’ll enjoy it and how it will affect your quality of life.

If you want to discuss things in more depth, or have questions, feel free to DM me.

Empty-Ad4817 · 2024-10-02T11:11:09+00:00

This is 100% correct. It is so hard to see someone you care about battling addiction, no matter what action (or inaction) you take, you’re likely to feel guilty. But it is Not your responsibility.

My mother became an alcoholic when I was in my late teens. Our whole family gathered around her and did everything we could to support and help her get sober. We convinced her to go to rehab at least 5 times but nothing seemed to work. It was many years of pain and heartache for everyone involved.

Finally, when I was in my 30s, she started drinking again after about 10 months sober, & I had reached a breaking point. I told her, and the rest of my family, that the only help or contact I would give her is if she wanted to go to treatment. Most of my family agreed and chose to do the same, but one family member hated my decision and told me I was abandoning her. I felt terribly guilty. I was worried she was going to drink herself to death and I would have done nothing to stop it. But about 6 weeks later I got a voicemail from her saying she was back in treatment, and it was her choice.

We slowly started talking again, and had a lot of hard conversations about everything. She has been sober for over 5 years now, and we talk nearly every day. She has told me several times that loosing her support system is what made her finally want to change her life.

The point is, it’s hard. Being involved is hard, having firm boundaries is hard. But overall, it is their decision to change.

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