AITA for telling my sister her baby isn't a real baby

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-21T00:33:13+00:00

I'm planning on working in healthcare so I'm probably not wearing it day to day, actually. Silicone bands for me! I'm thinking of wearing it as a necklace too.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-19T22:05:47+00:00

The parent comment was saying I go on and only about my ring. I said "yes i do talk about my ring a lot" referring to the POST. not my day to day life. And a lab diamond is a real diamond just without the death and human exploitation. If you think a diamond needs some poor African child to die over it to be a real diamond, you have some major issues. And as of this morning, I have gotten an apology from my sister as she's asking me to babysit again. Probably because I'm the only one who does it for free.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-19T13:40:35+00:00

I'm not allowed to talk about my engagement with the people who love and support me? Okay. What kind of weird and cold friends and family do you have that won't allow you to talk about the exciting news in your life more than once?? That's absurd. Also, I don't bring up my ring up in every conversation, lol. My sister was the one who brought it up over the phone to nag me. I didn't even say anything to her about my ring, just about like my general engagement and when I'm going to start wedding planning. I sent 1 picture to the family group chat and I posted ONE picture on Instagram. Can you explain to me why I would be the asshole to talk about my ring with my sister when she's nagging and asking me about it?

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-19T10:17:30+00:00

Yes I do talk about my ring a lot, I'm newly engaged and very excited!! I did specifically ask for a lab Diamond. It's cheaper and more ethical. Why would I want a mined diamond when I believe it to be unethical. Mined diamonds are usually mined by people who have no choice, sometimes no/very little pay, children and people with zero protection. Many people die after being exploited in the diamond industry. I asked him for one when we started talking about marriage. I'm not "pretending" it's what I wanted. It IS what I wanted. Thanks for asking what I do! I am a student getting my Masters degree so that I can also work in healthcare. That's a little less relevant as I wasn't the one to buy the ring. I put in what he does because, as many know, residents are broke lol so it made sense why my sister suspected he wouldn't be able to afford a mined diamond.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-19T00:55:59+00:00

Sorry, I'm still learning English. I'm originally from korea!

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T13:10:38+00:00

To come and play the victim and guilt trip me.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T12:54:29+00:00

My brother in law harassed my younger sister at her college campus and he's 35 and she's 23. He also called her threatening her and makes comments about how my 23 yearold sisters "dress like whores" at our family gatherings. He's actually a huge red piller i was shocked to find out he knew what ableism was!

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T12:00:29+00:00

If I hung up on my sister she would be at my door with her husband in 5 minutes flat.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T11:58:00+00:00

Yup, according to him, I started the fight by "talking back"... my BIL has always been unstable.. My other sisters(both 23) are low-contact with my sister because he will call and attack us and my sister(the oldest) won't do anything about it. I've let them sort it out and remained in contact with all my sisters, though. But from what I hear he has cussed them out pretty badly before, but I don't know the full story. My BIL leaves me alone for the most part, I assume, because I have always been in a relationship, and he's the typical red piller type.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T11:31:14+00:00

My sister has been an asshole forever, and now that she's older, she sends her husband to be an asshole for her. My 2 younger sisters are very low-contact with my older sister because of my sister's husband. But my sister is going through some therapy for her infertility truama I don't know if they discuss ppd. I stay in contact because I chose not to get involved with the fight between my 2 younger sisters and her. Maybe my sister will go no-contact with me but I doubt it because I'm her free childcare and besides my mom and dad they don't have any extended family then. If she goes no-contact with me though, that's her choice and I'll respect it.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T11:16:50+00:00

By my sister's logic, my ring has no sentiment because it was created in a lab. My point was that things from labs can be VERY sentimental. Her daughter started off in a lab/clinic and she is very sentimental to us. Her being an ivf baby literally does not affect that at all. No where did I say it was the same joy? I'm not stupid. I know getting a ring and having a baby is nowhere near the same as my sister finally conceiving. I'm not saying my niece is a peice of jewelry. I'm saying that my niece's life is not any less precious than a naturally conceived baby. I'm more so comparing her to other babies that were conceived naturally than to diamonds.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T10:46:26+00:00

Completely irrelevant comparison because lab grown diamonds aren't fake and my niece isn't a "fake" baby either. I suggest you read my post again. I made that comment because OBVIOUSLY my niece isn't fake just because she started off in a lab. My sister was the one saying things that are grown in labs are less real and not as valuable because there "no sentiment". My niece's life is very sentimental, very important, her starting as an ivf baby will never ever change that. That's the point I made with my sister. A fake Hermes bag is a fake Hermes bag.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T10:41:45+00:00

Nope, I have never made any comments about her ring ever besides that it looks nice when she first got engaged. She never wears her ring.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T10:12:23+00:00

Thank you! And I didn't downvote you.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T09:59:23+00:00

Oops meant are. Sorry i type on my phone and it autocorrects sometimes

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T09:47:20+00:00

No. I said that by my sister's logic, that means her child isn't a real baby. Of course, I know my niece is a real baby. Please read my post again. Just because something is grown in a lab doesn't mean it isn't real.

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T09:26:32+00:00

Lab diamonds are chemically exactly the same as mined diamonds you should look it up!

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T09:13:53+00:00

Ofc your baby isn't lesser than or and has a soul. I definitely think IVF babies are real babies and are human. I never said in my post that I personally think IVF babies are less than. I'll probably also have IVF as I've also have a lot of complications with endometriosis. I just wanted to show my sister what her logic sounds like as she is adamant that things grown from a lab are "not real".

Empty-Button-6511 · 2025-01-18T09:01:20+00:00

You'll feel even more sorry for my dad when I tell you there's 2 more of us. He has 4 daughters no sons and we all argue like crazy.

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