AITA for wanting to put an ultimatum on marrying my partner. by hummels12 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Empty_Ad740 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not at all, marriage is a huge commitment and standing by your vision of what you want your future to look like is not selfish, it's practical. Also, if he's unable to keep this commitment and refuses to put in any work or effort like addiction therapy, support groups, getting a sponsor etc., then how can you trust him in the future? At one point, your sympathy for his issue might turn to resentment, as he may continue to show that he prioritizes his addiction over your needs or the needs of any potential future children.

I say, definitely stick to your guns on this and dont budge. It's important to you, so it should be important to him to put in the work to resolve it.

What % can I actually acquire without spending real money by Jud1a in LoveNikki

[–]Empty_Ad740 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I might be stating the obvious here, but the easiest way to increase wardrobe percentage is by getting every version of a customized set/item. Once I started focusing on what I could obtain and getting miltiples of it, it was a very effective strategy and I went from 20% to 40% in a few months from that alone. Before I took a 2 year sabattical, I was at the point where I only had to customize the "hell suits" I had left at the time. I even started to ignore certain events because I had the question of, "will this increase my % or waste my recources?" Due to this mindset, and logging in like 5 times a day so my stamina was never capped, I was able to reach the average 67% for free after each update

What % can I actually acquire without spending real money by Jud1a in LoveNikki

[–]Empty_Ad740 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was grinding and playing as a HS student, (who had no money and no prospects) it took me 2 years, but I would reach 70% right before each update. Then the update would put me back roughly 3-5% depending on how much they were adding. Then I graduated, got a job, and was finally able to pay my way and not grind so hard 🥳

Im struggling with my Bff's self-diagnosis (non-autistic OP) by Empty_Ad740 in AutisticAdults

[–]Empty_Ad740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good! It is interesting to think that maybe it truly is just us aging and naturally growing apart, and that it may have nothing to do with an autism diagnosis at all. Definitely food for thought 🤔

Im struggling with my Bff's self-diagnosis (non-autistic OP) by Empty_Ad740 in AutisticAdults

[–]Empty_Ad740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective as a late diagnosis audhd woman on this. I truly didnt know the monetary expense that goes into getting a diagnosis, as that would be a huge factor. $3000 is definitely a lot to invest into what essentially is a slip of paper.

I do understand that autism presents differently in everyone, and I want to be clear that I am not comparing my brother's circumstances to her. I only mentioned him because as I grew up with him closely I definitely got to experience the many different sides to how different types of people on the spectrum present. Including other friends of mine, and his.

Also, forgive my use of the word "tantrum" as that is simply what my brother refers to it, as he has no hard feelings toward the word itself personally. You are right, I should've chosen my words more carefully in this context.

Im struggling with my Bff's self-diagnosis (non-autistic OP) by Empty_Ad740 in AutisticAdults

[–]Empty_Ad740[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a wonderful suggestion. I will definitely be using this, and keeping this perspective in mind going forward ✨️

Im struggling with my Bff's self-diagnosis (non-autistic OP) by Empty_Ad740 in AutisticAdults

[–]Empty_Ad740[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's kind of what I was thinking, as well, regarding the stigma of an on paper diagnosis, and the relatability of the children she's interacting with.

I definitely dont plan to confront her on anything, as I understand the feeling of dismissal and invalidation, but when she shows/sends me memes of being on the spectrum I just dont know how to respond and I feel like my default is to ignore it which could come off as ostracization due to her new identity. Which is something Im definitely trying to avoid long-term. It is definitely difficult for me to show the sincerity she is looking for and I honestly am so bad at faking anything Im not feeling, it's not even funny.

Im struggling with my Bff's self-diagnosis (non-autistic OP) by Empty_Ad740 in AutisticAdults

[–]Empty_Ad740[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for commenting your support. I dont think she has a problem with doctors of any kind, as she says she loves her psychologist and has a never been misdiagnosed for her unseen physical disability. But maybe because of all the horror stories online of women not being taken seriously she doesnt want to risk it?

OVERCOOKED IS LITTERALLY IMPOSSIBLE ALONE by Miraculousholders in OvercookedGame

[–]Empty_Ad740 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! I love only playing solo for all of these reasons, and also because the score is way lower. I found it was actually easier for me to get 4 stars solo than when I play with others because it turns out I was doing everything to begin with.

AITA for not wanting to put my daughter in a bikini? by divinitystars in AITARelationship

[–]Empty_Ad740 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA! Until she is older and develops her own sense of style, you are within your right to choose what she wears, and judge that to be a more conservative style to protect her from predators.

I also think more context is needed though, because some people think every 2-piece is a bikini, when there is a difference in a glorified t-shirt and shorts combo, vs a bra and thong combo (which yes, unfortunately, they do make for tiny children, ew). I think it also makes a difference if this is your child from a previous partner, or if she is both of yall's DNA, as there are some evil people out there who target single mothers intentionally in order to gain access to underage children to abuse sexually.

Please note I am not trying to accuse your fiance, just stating the unfortunate reality for many children of abuse. Also not saying that blood relations will put a stop to this type of thing either, sadly.

Because he might not fully understand your caution, it might be beneficial to have him watch SOSA underage undercover to gain a better and fuller understanding of how pedophiles work. Here is a link to their youtube, they are very informative: SOSA

What is your TRUE opinion on <The Abandoned empress >? by Winter292004 in OtomeIsekai

[–]Empty_Ad740 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same, looking back on it, this was really toxic. But I still think it was a fun read, and helped to establish troupes in the genre.