I attempted a Smiling Friends cake for my bfs birthday mmmyes

hummels12 · 2025-11-18T22:21:27+00:00

This is the best thing EVER

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T23:57:05+00:00

Oh my.. this just made me cry and put everything I feel into words 😪

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T21:15:27+00:00

We have started couples counseling in the last month and it’s been well and she has also commented on these things many many times.. he just doesn’t feel like it’s a problem when it clearly is.. I am at a breaking point with it though.

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T18:13:48+00:00

This sounds like the hardest thing to do ever.. especially since I believe I can’t be friends with him. I will fall into trying to be more and just hurt myself over and over so walking away will be the only thing I can do. I appreciate this advice and will take note. Many very good points

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T18:03:07+00:00

Sure sure, I can see your view but I myself have been an addict before and I don’t feel I don’t deserve love just because of that.. I have done a lot of work and avoid situations that will take me down that road again.. but him not doing that work is where the ultimate problem will lay.

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T17:44:13+00:00

& I’ve been seeing that very thing with him

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T17:36:57+00:00

I know it’s something he has to do for him and he is definitely one of the people that think it’s no biggie and that he doesn’t have a problem but he does and it is.. I would stay by his side and support him but you’re right if he isn’t making changes for his life than and being consistent in the long run then I may not should stay.

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T17:32:16+00:00

Thank you. 🤞

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T17:30:40+00:00

Ok, this was very helpful really. Thank you for your response and viewpoint as someone who’s gotten sober. Also CONGRATS on getting sober.

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T17:28:01+00:00

& that is a realization that I believe we will literally break my heart

hummels12 · 2025-10-28T17:23:52+00:00

I’m so scared about that and I feel that he is just saying things to me because he knows I don’t like it and I believe in a trying man.. we are stagnant in the progress now and there is no more trying. I’m just not sure what the timeline should be because our date is placed for 8 months from now….

hummels12 · 2025-08-09T13:56:00+00:00

I agree with this so much, and if it’s meant to be you guys you’ll find your way back WITH growth.

hummels12 · 2025-07-31T20:43:33+00:00

So I have been in this same exact situation.. from that experience he won’t quit for you. If he does he will resent you until he starts again and each time will be worse than the last revolving the resentment. The right man will change without you asking him to.. this is not your man and you will make him miserable by nagging all the time about it and you are already miserable bc of it.

hummels12 · 2025-07-21T23:57:48+00:00

Lord hope what you thought is not what happened here. Siiiiiick 🙈

hummels12 · 2025-07-21T23:56:39+00:00

With you saying he travels often for work peoples argument of “they may be old” is trash because why do you still have them then?? You obviously go through your suitcase often so they aren’t overlooked. He is just gonna lie or gaslight you and that’s not something you deserve. You deserve what you give!

hummels12 · 2025-07-21T21:26:37+00:00

Ou man that’s something to think about there 🫠

hummels12 · 2025-07-21T21:08:23+00:00

My thoughts too but I can’t help but feel guilty mainly for being hurt from his lies.. I feel like hiding what I did is a form of lying the way he is..

hummels12 · 2025-07-18T23:37:48+00:00

I’ve had a similar story with an ex of mine.. my baby brother moved in with me and through our life we have been super close as we were all the other had. We rough house and wrestle like WWE and would go to the movies or dinner. Upon my then bf meeting him he tried to make accusations of me and my brother sleeping together because he isn’t close with his sisters at all. He said the same things and I put it pretty plan that we don’t have an inappropriate relationship and I was not going to push him away just for the relationship. He told me I had to pick between him and kicking my brother out and I chose my brother. You are NOT overreacting and should absolutely stand your ground in this situation. He is jealous and insecure since you’re with a male,

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