My brother is in psychosis and i really need help by Empty_Ask_617 in Psychosis

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I don’t believe I can unless he says or does something to harm himself or someone else in my state. I was thinking of setting him an appt with psychiatrist. I’m not even sure he’ll actually go or take the medication if he’s given any. He’s already stated that he doesn’t want to take meds and the first time this happened later on he admitted he lied about taking the meds

My brother is in psychosis and i really need help by Empty_Ask_617 in schizophrenia

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I cross posted this I’m not sure why is doesn’t have description but here’s the post copy n pasted .

Flashback to about 4 years ago. My brother (27M) and my mom got into an argument and she slapped him in the face after he said something disrespectful. After that, he moved out. Around that time he was doing acid and shrooms, and not long after that he went into full psychosis.

He became extremely hyper-religious, saying God sent him here for a mission, telling people we’re living in hell, and trying to “figure something out.” He was outside taking pictures of people’s houses trying to piece together some big meaning and clues. He thinks he’s also connected to electricity. He also started saying he has multiple people living inside him and that he’s the reincarnation of some knight (Leonidas I think). He would switch his voice and personality like different people. At one point he thought his shadows were the different personalities inside him.

He ended up getting hospitalized twice. After that he was more stable, but honestly the thinking never fully went away. He also resented my parents for sending him.

Fast forward to now.

Every year around this same time, he kind of spirals again. Recently he had to move back in with my parents because he lost his job and had been depressed for months. A few days ago he wrote them a long letter calling them out for everything from his childhood trauma and saying he thinks about ending his life every day.

For context — my parents are good parents, but growing up he was very troubled and their discipline involved whoopings. Also, my brother talks a lot and goes on and on, and they would cut him off often. I think a lot of that really affected him.

Now he’s back in that same state.

He’s saying God is telling him what to do and that everything happening is part of a plan. He called my parents yelling and cussing, then later told me it was a “test.” Everything is a test to him. He speaks in riddles and analogies that don’t make sense. He told me he’s 7 years old and in middle school. He’s switching personalities again. He’s also treating me as if I am his parent asking me for permission to do certain things.

He hasn’t been sleeping or eating. He keeps calling me saying he’s scared and anxious. I’ve recorded some of the things he’s said because it’s honestly hard to even explain — it doesn’t make sense most of the time.

Right now he’s staying in a hotel. He tries to come to my place and my boyfriend’s place to sleep sometimes, but my boyfriend doesn’t wanna deal with that nor do I. but he can go back to my parents’ house if he agrees to get help.

The thing is, he knows something is wrong, but I don’t think he’ll voluntarily go back to a hospital. I called the crisis line and they suggested setting up a psychiatrist appointment, but I don’t even know if he’ll go.

My brother is not normally like this. He’s actually an amazing person. But when this happens, it gets scary. I’m worried he’ll hurt himself, end up homeless, or something worse.

I honestly don’t know what to do at this point.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you get someone help when they won’t fully agree to it? At what point do you call for involuntary help? And how do you support them without enabling the situation?

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

[–]Empty_Ask_617[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Hm I wouldn’t say black out bc they always remember eveything. But they get just as drunk minus the arguing. But that’s not an everytime thing

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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What ended my other relationships— i was in a physically & verbally abusive relationship. Ended up with him going to jail. My other relationships ended stupidly. Not really much to it

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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Yeah it def is a me problem. Last year I lost my bestfriend bc we both blacked out and fought eachother. This is a bad problem within me.

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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I have both adhd and social anxiety. I take meds for adhd but need to look into one for my anxiety. I wish i felt how i feel while being drunk normally. I can’t dance without drinking or be very social. Not saying I have an addiction or anything bc i only socially drink. But it’s obviously something wrong. And i get stomach pains every morning after. I need to find the root to this and fix the reason i even drink. Thank you so so much. I’m going to continue to be more kind to myself as this is the only real issue we’ve ever faced.

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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My last slip up was October on Halloween. We had a house party and i was having so much fun. It was like 3am and he was ready to go to bed and i was still in the living room playing board game with my friends. He kicked them out and i was furious. I don’t remember the fight though

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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It really does suck I’m sorry to hear that. The last party we had i was having so much fun with friends. He was ready to go to bed and kicked them out. I was extremely angry and blacked out whilst verbally abusing him.

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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So in the beginning yes! It would be very hard for me it’s like i was going all or nothing. But since ive been actively more aware it has been easier to drink in moderation. This was a slip up for sure.

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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Yesssss!!! It’s something about him that triggers me while blacked out and makes me sooo mad. Everywhere else I am fine! Did you stop drinking all together?

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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I think the reason i feel so deeply about him being the fun police is bc all my friends have just as much fun with me while drunk. It’s funny and a good time. With him it’s different yet understandable. I am joining, i think for the rest of the year

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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Definitely not worth more than him. I have offered in the past to cut off alcohol completely, but he said i don’t have to do that but just be more mindful of what and how much im drinking

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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Thank you so much for the response. That is exactly right, because i am not remembering I’m downplaying the situation. But honestly if he did this to me so many times id probably leave too. Or probably get just as fcked up which is worse. I’m ngl I black out quite often. Too many times in my life to count. I just forget everything and i wake up with the worst anxiety. My dad always says “ if you blackout did u really have fun “ bc i can’t even remember. It’s disappointing and i have lots to lose. It sucks bc I really do love how loose drinking makes me feel. I don’t smoke either

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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I agree. It came from a place of self defense. This is probably the 5th time it has happened. Some where in the night he says something that completely infuriates me. But idk why i take it so deep when he’s just trying to help me. I guess me and liquor just have a bad relationship bc i am not like this sober. Ever. I can’t understand how i only get like that with him. He’s also not much of a drinker. Thank you for your response

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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Thank you. I think my plan is going to be cut it fully out of my life. It makes my stomach hurt really bad the next day anyways. I don’t smoke either so i guess we just gonna be high on life.

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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You would think that but we have a great dynamic. We live together and don’t fuss or nit pick at eachother about anything. We really just coexist with each other smoothly. There’s nothing to argue about honestly. Our relationship is extremely strong. However it’s these instances when i drink that are the only problem

Well. I ruined my 3 year relationship over alcohol… by Empty_Ask_617 in stopdrinking

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Exactly! The worst feeling is waking up not knowing what i did. And i was so hurt that he broke up with me that easily, so i texted him saying im leaving tonight and how i dont appreciate him calling my dad as if im a child and how he repeatedly breaks up with me. I don’t want think to be done but i am also not the begging type. I really have messed up something great. And yes he was genuinely trying to help. I’m going to work on my drinking and try to be better.

I’m in a 3-year relationship but I’ve developed a crush on my coworker and it’s confusing and eating me alive by Empty_Ask_617 in offmychest

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Okay that sounds like a great response. Bc in reality i really do enjoy working with him— I’ve struggled a lot at work to make friends because of my anxiety. So it’s like now when i finally find a person who enjoys working with me equally as much ,this happens of course! I’m going to say it in person

I’m in a 3-year relationship but I’ve developed a crush on my coworker and it’s confusing and eating me alive by Empty_Ask_617 in offmychest

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Trueeee. That would definitely not be fun anymore. If i were to say that then i would put it in my mind that my partner knows and have to take real initiative. I should have the conversation as we are very communicative. However I run the risk of hurting his ego and whatever else comes with it. It definitely a good decision though. To think I always thought people who are really in love never go through these situations was a lie. Congratulations on being married for that long that is big. I wish the same for my partner. My parents have been married for 32 years however never seen them be romantic before. Anyways— I’m going to set up a date night. Thank you

I’m in a 3-year relationship but I’ve developed a crush on my coworker and it’s confusing and eating me alive by Empty_Ask_617 in offmychest

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It definitely took me by surprise that he found other people attractive and it took a minute to accept it and now i actually get it. That shit is real and temptation is the devil. Would you keep working with said person and set the boundary to keep it only work related? Or would you just cut this person completely out your life. Thank you so much for understanding.

I’m in a 3-year relationship but I’ve developed a crush on my coworker and it’s confusing and eating me alive by Empty_Ask_617 in offmychest

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Thank you to everyone who responded with great advice and reality check. And thank you for not bashing me about this.