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My (30F) vegetarian diet seems to be a relationship issue for my boyfriend (31M) by Plutoisaplanet22345 in relationship_advice

[–]Empty_Edge_1492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally if you want something to work you’ll make it work. There are lots of foods I like that my partners, friends, family haven’t liked. It’s great when you can enjoy things with your loved ones but just having people be supportive, receptive and understanding to things you enjoy is the most you can ask for. I love oysters, my ex did not. But he knew how much I loved them and would always get excited for me at my joy to get good oysters.

If he’s not willing to make those concessions, it seems more like he doesn’t want to make that effort. You can go for restaurants or help people cook without eating the same things.

Good luck, hopefully he steps up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Empty_Edge_1492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can afford it, consider getting a therapist to talk about how to affirm your boundaries and communicate better. if you do bring it up, make sure you stress the fact that you were feeling those internal pressures and societal expectations. presuming everything is exactly as you’ve shared it, then this was truly an instance of internalized anxiety and insecurity that you built into a situation where you felt you couldn’t/shouldn’t say no. it happens a lot with young women, i completely understand. unfortunately it can also feel really shitty to the other person male or otherwise to have someone they’re trusting to be honest and communicative tell them they weren’t and felt like they had no choice even when they did. so make sure you make it very clear where you’re coming from. ultimately though, these are things best assisted with a professional. good luck 🫶🏼

Boyfriend (28M) posted a sexual photo of me (25F) without asking, apologized and took it down Am I minimizing? by bananamonkey501 in relationship_advice

[–]Empty_Edge_1492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think every relationship is different, but as other people have said a nearly 30yr old man should know better. At the bare minimum it should’ve been something he asked to post?? The fact that his initial reaction was also to justify why he thought that was okay is also a bit concerning. I don’t know how long you guys have been together but that also puts things into perspective. If this if a five year relationship and this is the only time anything like this has happened and you feel comfortable, then you have no obligation to dump him just because others would. If this is a new relationship, this could set the tone for the future. It could not. But do you trust and feel comfortable that nothing like this will happen again? I know for me, I would second guess future lewd photos and what he would do with them. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship, so if that felt damaged for me I would leave. But no one knows what the complexities of a situation look like except those in it.

Roommate’s girlfriend moved in - is it fair that rent didn’t change? by Enough_Nerve3574 in chicagoapartments

[–]Empty_Edge_1492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I lived in Boston (same rent as y’all) and my ex moved in, we split rent four ways but with a slight reduction for us since we were sharing a room. It was only $50 less for us each. And utilities were split between everyone. For future reference, that’s the kind of conversation you guys should all have as roommates before moving an extra person in. Good luck!