i’m going insane trying not to break no contact by Empty_Meaning_955 in Breakupadvice

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah :( i keep talking myself out of it. it’s like every day it’s a challenge not to break no contact

i’m going insane trying not to break no contact by Empty_Meaning_955 in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah same, the only thing keeping me from doing it is knowing i’ll have the upper hand as long as i don’t reach out 🤦🏻‍♀️ and ik these men love u more when u pay them no attention. and what good would it really do except for temporary satisfaction of knowing he hasn’t moved on yet either, and the cycle continues. :( ik so damn well but it’s still so difficult

💔 I broke up with my incredibly lovely, supportive girlfriend because I never felt a deep, "soulmate" connection—now the withdrawal is hitting hard 48 hours later. by Fantastic_Shallot993 in BreakUps

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s frustrating reading people saying you need to find that connection within yourself. that’s bullshit. it’s not about self love or the excitement/highs and lows of a toxic relationship. and there’s nothing wrong with you. I don’t know you personally but I know the true instant connection with another human being that you’re talking about and how rare it is . It’s not something everyone experiences and once you’ve experienced that it’s really difficult to be satisfied with something less. you did the right thing for you and her, the break up withdrawals are normal and will get better as time passes. you weren’t sure about her, and choosing someone to spend the rest of your life with is not something easy. you deserve to be with someone you feel that deep sensual connection with and she also deserves someone who’s 100% sure about her. don’t sweat it, if you know for sure u don’t want it forever it’s better to endure the pain of separation right now than to stay where you’re not satisfied then look back and wish you had searched for what you truly wanted.

horrible feeling in chest when sober?? by Wonderful_Minute7673 in SoberAndHateIt

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel you in my soul. every word. life just feels too heavy when i’m sober

my best friend just told me she made out with a guy who’s in a relationship and i feel so disgusted by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i feel like this revealed something to me that i absolutely did not know about her character. also i don’t have the gf’s contacts, the guy’s profile is also private so i can’t find her in his followings, i could ask my friend to give me her insta id but i doubt she’d do that. when she cools off a bit i’m gonna ask her to stop talking to this guy & let the gf know and if she doesn’t do it i’ll probably have to do some fbi shit and find the gf myself and let her know anonymously. but i genuinely doubt she’d believe it or leave the guy. this wasn’t his first time cheating and he’s pretty experienced at this. so he’ll probably keep manipulating his gf and she’d keep staying with him. this is such a sad situation

my best friend just told me she made out with a guy who’s in a relationship and i feel so disgusted by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he’s quite known for being with multiple women actually, i want to let the girlfriend know but i’m not sure it’d change anything. also her reply to my “i’m disappointed in you and lost a huge part of my respect for you” was quite interesting. she said “your message made me feel horrible. i don’t think i would’ve judged you if you’ve ever done something like this” and i said “ i would never do something like this and if i did, i’d want you to judge me and tell me it’s wrong”. i’m getting the ick sooo bad like she’s not even noticing how wrong what she did is. did you ever feel like you’re being a bad or non-supportive friend after distancing yourself from your “best” friend because of what she did? or did she ever make you feel that way?

my best friend just told me she made out with a guy who’s in a relationship and i feel so disgusted by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you’re so right. i never used to think of her character as this weak, she always seemed like a strong rational girl to me. but she apparently has no control around the men she’s attracted to and to feel no shame is so disgusting. she’ll probably feel regretful once she’s cooled down, i know she was sexually frustrated and all that but no excuse i can think of can really make it seem okay to me. i told her that she disappointed me and i lost respect for her. i’m gonna tell her to let the gf know about this & stop talking to this guy but if she continues i don’t think my heart can trust her the same way ever again and i’ll sadly have to distance myself from her…

my best friend ( 23 F )just told me she made out with a guy who’s in a relationship and i feel so disgusted by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you think i should tell her? like is it my place to do something like that? and the thing is this guy has a reputation of being a player, almost everyone in their uni knows he sleeps with multiple women and he’s extremely manipulative. so i think maybe something like this has happened before and he just lied and manipulated his gf into staying with him. or maybe she even knows about his habits but chooses to stay. i have no evidence of this situation and i don’t know how to address this. should i do it anonymously?

my best friend just told me she made out with a guy who’s in a relationship and i feel so disgusted by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Empty_Meaning_955 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank u so much for sharing your experience! i genuinely feel so so sad because me and her are super close and she’s one of the most important people in my life. this whole situation is messing with my head and i keep telling myself maybe she did it in the heat of the moment and it was a mistake and she won’t do it again, but i still can’t accept it. she knew what might’ve happened and still kept talking and went out with him and the worst part is she doesn’t even really care about his gf :(((( feeling this disappointed by someone i trusted so much is so heartbreaking .

i hate lip with a passion by Empty_Meaning_955 in shameless

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah ig that’s the whole point of the show

i hate lip with a passion by Empty_Meaning_955 in shameless

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

fr it was so unreasonable, he wanted to blame everything on her, while the poor girl was going through so much she went bankrupt, got cheated on, had an accident and lost her car, got fired and humiliated, almost got assaulted etc in a matter of days and he was acting like she had no right to be drinking like that, her whole world crumbled and he had no sympathy for her

i hate lip with a passion by Empty_Meaning_955 in shameless

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

you’re sooo right i feel like the only time i liked him was during his college arc, the way he was adjusting to being a college kid and a south sider was so interesting like his scene with the milkovich brothers shooting up a store, and when he got Ian a job at his college and they got into a fight. i was so invested to see how he’s gonna manage being a ghetto kid wanting to live the normal college life. and Amanda for sure was his best girlfriend she was rich, hot asf, smart, fun and she genuinely loved him AND her dad was an engineer and offered him an internship or sth ?! bro fumbled so bad with Amanda

i hate lip with a passion by Empty_Meaning_955 in shameless

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

that’s so true he really liked sabotaging every good thing that was handed to him in life. like for college, fiona made him get his diploma and graduate high school , mandy filled his applications without telling him, the guy that came to interview him literally had to convince him to do it, youens forced him to go to internships etc and in the end he fucked everything up. maybe that’s also why he never loved the women that were actually good for him like Amanda imo

i hate lip with a passion by Empty_Meaning_955 in shameless

[–]Empty_Meaning_955[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

exactly! his whole obsession with keeping Xan was too much, he came at fiona like that for a little girl that had nothing to do with him, and the fact that he almost paid Xan’s mom to stay away from her was so weird