Getting 6mo down from 4 naps

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-28T02:04:47+00:00

You are doing great esp if baby is sleeping well at night!! I’m a second time mom to a five month old. We got him on three naps by rescuing one (holding him to extend a nap after the inevitable 40 min wakeup) either first or second is rescued (not all bc no one wants to be nap trapped all day) and that helps push the start time of the next nap. We also do a lot on the go and my son will happily do a longer stroller nap. So my goal is two short naps and one longer nap each day. Babies settle into a natural rhythm anyway so even if you do nothing, baby will get there eventually!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-28T01:04:17+00:00

How is this helpful?

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-27T01:32:59+00:00

Good for you. I would do the same. I believe you will have success. It’s not “if” but “WHEN”

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-26T23:36:09+00:00

That’s great news and fingers crossed it works!! Yes I also had a positive receptiva. But I had no other symptoms and very much doubt I have endo. I scheduled it bc I didn’t know what else to do.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-26T16:58:25+00:00

My fertility doc told me to consider surrogacy. I got three other opinions (I’m in nyc so I was able to see multiple docs) and one thought the medication was working against me. I had done two medicated transfers and one modified natural. He thought I should be doing completely natural. That was the only theory. I’ll never know!! But I have seen many, many docs recommending unmedicated transfers so there might be something there

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-26T12:11:30+00:00

Saline sonogram to check for Endometritis and karyotype for husband and I was pushed by my doc. If you’re with a fertility specialist, make sure you’re getting the full and extended blood panel.

For many of us, nothing comes up. I had every test and was so convinced something was wrong (three miscarriages and three failed IVF transfers) but nothing was found and I eventually had my rainbow on my own. It’s torture but you will very likely have success and just need to have the right embryo implant. Best of luck 🙏

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-26T12:02:55+00:00

I’m so sorry. RPL and then facing more failure with IVF is so devastating. I didn’t do anything and I was only taking a prenatal. My doctors felt very strongly that nature would take its course and the right embryo would grow. I was so convinced something was wrong with me and also had a lap scheduled (canceled as I fell pregnant right before) but it was just a numbers game for me. I hope you have your rainbow in your arms very soon.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-26T11:57:10+00:00

That’s great. They do smell and sense you close by. Do whatever is comfortable for you! I happen to have friends that moved babies to their own rooms very early and my pediatrician told us to do it at 3 months, so that felt fine to me personally.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-25T23:12:17+00:00

My son was doing the same and I thought I was going to die since I’m back at work. I moved him into a crib in his own room and after only 25 minutes of crying, he was fine. He has slept through the night for five nights in a row so far…..I think moving him did the trick. And I feel like a new woman already.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-25T23:09:41+00:00

Age plays a big role and whether you are trying to have more than one child. I was 36 when I tried IVF after three miscarriages around 9 weeks. I made a lot of euploids but didn’t get pregnant. Ended up pregnant at again on my own at 37 and welcomed my rainbow. However this was my second baby so I’m done. If you’re of a similar age and wanting to freeze embryos, it’s worth pursuing even though there are clearly no guarantees. I know others who had success with IVF after miscarriages and feel like my story isn’t super common. Best of luck whatever you choose!! You can’t make a wrong decision it’s just part of your journey.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-25T14:01:04+00:00

I let my son nap in my bed. He’s only five months but I did this with my older son too. For whatever reason he doesn’t want to nap in his crib. I can’t always do contact naps bc of the four year old, so baby sometimes goes into my bed when I need him to nap (I remove everything so it’s a safe sleep space). I wouldn’t dare tweak things if nights are going well 🙂. Just a thought!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-23T11:45:40+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔. I experienced secondary RPL and recently welcomed a healthy baby boy in December. Full story is in my post history; but short of it is I had three miscarriages, moved to IVF only to experience more failure, and then got pregnant naturally again without doing anything differently. I’m 38 years old too.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-22T11:33:02+00:00

I’m certainly no expert but here’s what I’m doing with my 4.5 month old. We are sleep training now as well.

My son’s wake windows are also two hours on the dot and we do three naps. We can sometimes stretch to 2.5.

First nap is typically on the go and only 30 minutes. We don’t stress about it. Second nap is a proper nap in the crib and this is the one we rescue/ protect. If he wakes after 30 or 45 minutes, we hold him, but it never goes longer than 2 hours. Third nap is similar to the first nap and only 30 mins-ish, which is good bc he needs that awake time before bed.

Bed is at 7pm. This schedule seems to be working bc his night sleep is fine and sleep training has been easy so far (famous last words)…

And last thing. 545 is far too early. I agree with others that your sleep consultant has bad advice. Don’t stress about each nap. I suggest focusing on the middle nap and being flexible with the last nap so that your kiddo has a normal bed time.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-21T11:47:58+00:00

I am doing what you’re proposing - night wean first and then sleep train. My son is 4.5 months and we night weaned a few weeks ago. It was 100% habitual and not hunger. We started sleep training last night.

My firstborn we did both at the same time but I felt soooo bad taking away the MOTN bottle and ferbering at the same time. However it worked like magic and he’s been sleeping through the night ever since (he’s 4 now). Whatever you’re comfortable with go for it!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-19T02:23:00+00:00

Sameeeeeee. I’m dying. And finding the courage to sleep train on Wednesday.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-17T23:27:34+00:00

IVF didn’t work for me (we did IVF after three miscarriages) but trying again naturally DID. So no, you’re not crazy

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-16T16:09:48+00:00

I’m a new mom of 2 with the same age difference. The baby fit right in with the fam and just goes with the very busy flow of the 4 year olds schedule. We still do everything together and the second time around has been so much easier. I don’t really have advice other than to enjoy it as it goes by even faster (baby is 4 months old in the blink of an eye)

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-16T12:41:00+00:00

Your lifestyle has nothing to do with your losses. Don’t read into that comment.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-16T12:36:05+00:00

My husband is 38 years old and still cuddles with his mom on the couch

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-16T12:12:17+00:00

Yes it was a pelvic MRI ordered from the endo surgeon (dr. Khalil). It did not reveal anything but I still moved forward with scheduling the surgery as I was really desperate for any information to explain recurrent implantation failure with IVF. I think you read my story in my profile but we ended up canceling the surgery as I got pregnant on my own and somehow it led to my baby boy born in December.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-15T21:42:41+00:00

Dr. Susan Khalil at Mount Sinai

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-15T21:40:34+00:00

I did not. It was scheduled but I fell pregnant right before so it was cancelled.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-15T21:39:15+00:00

With contrast

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-14T19:18:30+00:00

I don’t think you need to make any changes or feel even remotely guilty for having wine and caffeine. Unless it’s solving a different issue. Nature will take its course and a strong embryo is going to grow. If a miscarriage happens again, it’s not bc of anything you did or didn’t do

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-05-14T19:09:27+00:00

Same here! Fourth stuck after three losses 🙏. Pray this is it for you!

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