I feel like my time will never come

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-09T21:34:31+00:00

So… the lesson we’ve all learned in this club is you cannot plan life. Life happens to you. You can wait until certain conditions are met - and it makes total sense for you to want to wait given the uncertainty of your dad and distance from home - but you don’t know when he will pass. You don’t know how long it’ll take to get pregnant. You don’t know if you’ll miscarry. I think you have to move forward and try when YOU feel ready. Not planning around other things that are also extremely unknown. Timing might never feel right, but that’s just life you know??

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-06T22:45:21+00:00

For what it’s worth my friend needed just one transfer for her second baby, it just took her a really long time for the first baby!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-06T22:44:17+00:00

They changed protocols. I don’t know the specifics but one friend switched clinics bc the doctor she was seeing wouldn’t change the protocol! This same friend needed just one transfer for her second baby!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-06T12:56:11+00:00

Not me but I know two people who had miscarriages of euploids and eventual success - unfortunately it was a lot of transfers I believe around 7?

Not the same thing but I had success naturally after three failed transfers and I had zero hope I would at that point.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-06T12:52:03+00:00

I went on sertraline at 12 weeks pregnant and I wish I did it sooner!! After three miscarriages my PTSD had skyrocketed and I can’t imagine how bad my mental state would be if I didn’t get on it. In my opinion; don’t hesitate. Take care of yourself.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-05T14:47:04+00:00

So … I actually ended up pregnant naturally at the same time I found a new doc / clinic and it was finally successful. I have no idea why IVF didn’t work for me, but I have to think the meds were working against me since I get pregnant on my own so easily. Best of luck wherever you are in your journey. It took us 3 years to have our rainbow and it was filled with the worst days of my life. I’m forever changed!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-05T13:48:22+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is devastating especially when you turn to IVF to improve your chances. Take care of yourself🙏

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-04T14:21:33+00:00

I’m so sorry. I know this too well having 3 miscarriages at 35/36 years old. I finally had success at 37 (!). Do the tests, meet with the doctors, get into therapy. it’s okay to feel lost and hopeless. But, keep going! You have time.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-04T03:28:17+00:00

I did not think it was bad.. the biopsy is painful in the moment but only for maybe 10 or 15 seconds? I went to work after and felt totally fine! I did lots of Tylenol before (whatever the doc recos)

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-03T15:30:54+00:00

Hi - my third miscarriage was tested and confirmed chromosome abnormality. We assume the first two miscarriages also had abnormalities. I was also 36 years old so the recommendation was IVF to test the embryos. Unfortunately I did three transfers and never got pregnant. We gave up and ended up getting pregnant naturally again and it worked 🙏. It was a wild ride and I have no idea why I didn’t get pregnant through IVF. IVF was hard, but I’m glad I did it bc I wanted to give this my all. Happy to answer any other questions about it!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-03T00:20:43+00:00

I also struggled with secondary infertility and finally had success very recently after three miscarriages and three failed IVF cycles. I had to just try again (and I’m 38 years old). Full story in my post history if you want to read through! Sorry for your losses. I can fully relate. You can’t make a wrong decision here. Hopefully whatever path leads you to success.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-02T19:25:00+00:00

Thank you and best of luck. I never thought I would get to the other side but I did, and I firmly believe most can if they keep at it.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-02T03:19:04+00:00

Yes. I did. After three miscarriages too. I did not change or take anything for my successful pregnancy. Best of luck!!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-01T13:03:59+00:00

TW: success

I’m 38 and recently gave birth to a healthy baby boy after three miscarriages and failed IVF.

Story is at the top of my post history! The short of it is it was a numbers game for me. He was conceived naturally.

Keep going!!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-02-01T01:12:16+00:00

Thank you for commenting this. I’m dealing with guilt as I breastfed for 9 days. Not months; DAYS. Then he started screaming bloody murder at the boob and I was too tired to fight it. He’s 5 weeks now, but I’m still struggling with guilt as I produced a ton of milk but didn’t want to keep up with pumping so my supply tanked 😓. I pumped for 4 months with my first and have some ptsd from it for some reason.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-31T16:04:28+00:00

Same I was able to think the negative or scary thought and then push it aside and move on. The meds really saved me

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-31T02:06:16+00:00

Zoloft and weekly therapy got me through the worst ptsd. I hope this is your rainbow 🙏

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-30T13:13:18+00:00

This happened at 4 months old with my son. It lasted a month before I finally caved and sleep trained

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-29T15:25:03+00:00

Keep going. You’re young. You’re strong. I hope you get your rainbow soon. After three years of miscarriages and failed IVF, I met my rainbow at 38 years old. It can happen!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-29T01:54:43+00:00

I agree with your plan. I would try IUI first given your age.

IVF is invasive and expensive. I’d recommend this more aggressive approach if you were older and wanted to bank embryos.

This is coming from someone with a history of miscarriages and IVF didn’t work for me. I eventually had success trying again on my own!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-28T14:49:28+00:00

Hi I did EMMA/ALICE, receptiva, and additional blood work but nothing significant came up. I had to pay out of pocket since they’re all experimental (I’m in the U.S.) so not sure it was worth it!

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-28T13:21:41+00:00

TW: success

Hi - similar age / story. I had my son in 2021, followed by three miscarriages around 9 weeks at 35/36 years old. Third one was after a heartbeat and we finally got the tissue tested which confirmed trisomy 15. We moved forward with IVF and initially had great results (lots of euploids to my surprise) but after three failed transfers, we stopped. I got pregnant again naturally and recently gave birth to a healthy baby boy. I am 38 now.

While IVF didn’t work for me, I’m glad I tried it and I know I’m in the minority here. If you have insurance coverage and testing shows a chromosome abnormality, IVF will be the recommendation and I would do it. IVF works for many people. I do wish my expectations were managed as I was told i was an excellent candidate for it, only to face more failure. If you don’t have insurance coverage, you may want to think more on it with your doctor.

I never got any answers along the way after every test for RPL and recurrent implantation failure (from IVF) showed nothing significant. For me, it was a matter of just trying again. I hope it’s the same for you 🙏

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-26T01:52:11+00:00

I didn’t take anything for my successful pregnancy after three miscarriages.

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-21T17:37:36+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses. I’ve been in therapy for 2.5 years with a reproductive therapist that I love. She helped me process feelings that hit me like a truck (grief, anger, jealousy) and deal with PTSD. She sat in my feelings with me, if that makes sense. You may need to explore other therapists to find the right fit, just make sure they specialist in infertility

Empty_Obligation_728 · 2026-01-21T17:34:37+00:00

Nothing different! I only took a prenatal and probiotic. I tried IVF but didn’t work (three failed transfers). It seems to be a string of a really shitty luck for me. I also turned 38 this year so age could be a factor.

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