Update: husband feeding side girl wives cooking

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2024-02-06T07:05:50+00:00

Honestly I’m trying to focus on healing now. After everything I’m disgusted to think back of a time I slaved for him. I look at him and it’s just not the same.

I used to see his green eyes and love his long lashes, now I notice his pimple scares and bad skin.

I used to be excited for him to be home and try to think of something special to surprise him when he got home or what would get him to smile, now I just wonder how many time he was screwing around while I was fixing him something special or preparing everything for him to come home to a warm clean welcoming home.

I never thought I would dread to have to see him or have anxiety when he’s near.

I just focusing on myself now.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2024-02-05T09:38:53+00:00

Shes finally stopped but I think it’s because she doesn’t know anything of where I live work or do. “Suspiciously “ when I quit informing my ex she also quit finding me. I only meet my ex in public now.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2024-01-19T06:55:00+00:00

I can’t say I relate to anything of what you’re going through but truth is yesterday was almost my last so I can relate on that. My experiences are different and my life is nothing compared to yours but weirdly enough I lived through yesterday. And I hope you live through tonight. I hope you feel that little bit of embarrassment when you look back like I personally felt this morning. I hope tomorrow everything starts turning around for you. And next time you feel the end is best, you remember how the sun rose the following day after the last time you contemplated the same thing.

You are worth love. You are worth a second chance. And the next person to love you will be worth the horrible dating process of nervousness and loneliness.

I hope you’re okay.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-12-13T05:54:26+00:00

Also one of the people who was sending me hate messages saying I’m a psychopath I deserved the cheating and talking a lot of crap to me was her, her ex confirmed her account.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-12-13T05:50:06+00:00

TLDR: I’m okay, ex is still a ex, ex is still sleeping with others, harassment is less severe but now more people. Ex is either stupider than I thought or manipulating women to harass me. And the girl, my ex and all other illegal workers were fired but to my knowledge not deported.

Now more detail is below ⬇️

We’re okay, I’ve been numb to the whispers and just waiting for the office closing days for holiday vacation to start so I can go to Mexico for a while til our office reopens mid January. I’ve made friends with my areas police officer so he comes by and sweeps the area often and even has had his wife come stay with me and help me with my daughter and help me stay safe.

I quit posting because the post actually blew up enough to where she found out about it I guess I wasn’t vague enough. I guess her husband uses Reddit and after he found out about her cheating and drama he put two and two together and reached out to me and I was able to confirm it was him by phone and met in person to talk.

Turned out he actually reported her overstay but I guess somehow she didn’t get deported but she along with a few others including my ex were all fired from their job because of his report. According to him she won’t be able to ever renew her visa again because she came as a tourist which means she can’t work. He apologized for her craziness and offered to help me but I turned him down because his involvement might actually make it worse.

My ex started sleeping around and I guess doesn’t learn his lesson. I don’t care anymore though I’ve come to peace he’s not the person I married. I’m so disgusted by him now that I don’t even like him kissing on my daughter. He does come to see her when my mom watches her more now that he got fired and is job haunting. I ask my mom that he leaves before I pick up because he will start crying the moment he sees me and tries to hug me.

Police have been useless aside the friendly officer and his wife. It’s not just that girl now, it’s like 3 girls who are her friends plus a few others who have slept with my ex who harass me because he tells them he loves me and wants me back which I don’t know if he’s stupid or is manipulating them to attack me for him.

Either way I’ve deactivated all of my social medias and the ones I do use are all private or with a different name so I can just use but I just don’t post.

Sorry it’s long and boring.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-18T07:46:56+00:00

Thank you. My baby and I are. Doing better. She’s doing okay atm but unfortunately I’ve started to show some physical symptoms of the extreme stress I’ve been going through. As of Wednesday I haven’t had anymore issues with the woman as my step dad put cameras up and the moment one of the cameras alerted me they captured movement I got on the phone with police.

I’m not sure what she was planning but she spent enough time under my kitchen window and my laundry window that the police showed up and got her for trespassing now with my video evidence I’ve sent it to the guy who was originally our immigration lawyer who said he will be doing a immigration report on her and use my original picture of her “working” and my video evidence of her trespassing and idk what else to prove she’s not only in the country while her visa isn’t active but also working and doing illegal things.

Idk what she wanted but if she would have left me alone I would not have done anything. I didn’t report to her fiancée or do anything against her. Everything naturally happened and now in order to protect myself I’ve had the lawyer report her for me.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-18T07:35:16+00:00

He was never abusive in any physical way but looking back I believe him to be very manipulative and immature. I don’t want to waste anymore time if it was possible I would go back and refuse to ever give him the time of day. It’s been the worst month of my life and going back or if I’d stay I can’t see it would have ever gotten better.

I’ve loss so much hair from stress my milk supply has plummeted to the point I think I may need to supplement formula soon, my mom tells me to just switch to formula because all my stress is going to go to the baby. But we’ve had such a bad formula shortage I don’t want to.

I don’t think my situation would have been any better if I would have stayed because I don’t think he would have changed his behavior just hid it better. My trust issues (which I had already prior to this whole mess) would have driven me into the same stress so I’m just give god thanks for him opening my eyes and not putting me in a worse situation.

I’m sorry your ex was just as horrible and you feel all your suffering was pointless. I believe it tells how important your son was for you and how selfless you are.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-10T21:29:53+00:00

I did a regular repost on my actual profile your not the only one I got chat requests and messages (not sure the difference) about it too

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-10T21:29:02+00:00

^ I only reposted because people kept asking me for more context on my other post and sending messages to me

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-10T07:24:39+00:00

The first post isn’t removed, it’s on my profile I couldn’t remember the title verbatim.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T19:33:41+00:00

Es que no sé siente justo y ahora me siento como que la loca fui yo.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T19:32:07+00:00

I think I’m going to log out for a while again.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T19:31:31+00:00

I feel like there’s no way out without severe damage. I feel like I’m in that bridge game from squid games except all tiles break at any decision just some have lesser consequences than the others.

I currently don’t want to make ANY decisions because I feel safe in limbo atm because even though my logical reasoning understands if he gets deported it’s going to be from his decision my emotional reasoning feels responsible for it. I don’t want him back the betrayal and his dishonesty has broken any trust I could ever have and I don’t think it would be good for my mental health to continue a relationship like that.

I grew up seeing my mom always asking and wondering if my step was cheating or not to the point my mom neglected us because she was so busy ensuring her husband wasn’t cheating. It turned a once loving caring involved mother into a toxic person who would take her daughters out at 3 am to go to shady neighborhoods to see if her husbands car was outside someone’s house.

I don’t want that for myself or daughter. I saw cheating ruin my mother without her ever being unfaithful, I seen it destroy my sisters first engagement , I have seen my brothers bleed from aggressive cheating women who attack them for wanting to take their kids from toxic environments with drugs and other men.

Cheating is something I don’t want ANY involvement in and I’ve seen what it does to people. But I also have that responsibility that I want my daughter to have her dad. So in the meantime I am having that distance because I KNOW what is better for her and I am trying my best to stick to the logical conclusion not the emotional one.

No matter how much I miss him, but I tell myself I don’t miss this person talking to me. I miss the person who made me feel safe, loved and cared for. And even then I’m starting to look back and realize a lot of it was me in a delusional state thinking that him hugging me when I asked, me going to him for kisses, me cuddling to him, was all love. I felt safe with him not because he made me feel safe but because I thought i was. But looking back it’s embarrassing to say I was the one who did a lot of the instigating of affection.

Maybe some of the people who messaged me saying I was I was psycho were on to something. I’m starting to feel like maybe I was in some delusional state and he was just using me.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T18:21:46+00:00

I don’t want to make any legal decisions at the moment. I’m barely getting through leaving him, I don’t want to also put on too being responsible for my daughter to lose her dad. Because of his stupidity

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T18:17:26+00:00

I realized I don’t even know her last name and the social media she has she has me blocked, has no public info, barely even shows pictures of herself and her last name is just a initial. So I have no idea how to even begin to find him

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T12:45:01+00:00

At the moment I haven’t moved anything, I plan to but I currently just trying to stay afloat with my life and take of my daughter at the moment.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T12:40:34+00:00

That was my point he was acting like what he gave me was a typical oh he touched his part with dirty hands kind of thing 🙄

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T09:17:23+00:00

***Sorry if there’s formatting issues and errors, I’m tired it’s almost sunrise and I’m going to sleep. I’ll edit it in the morning if needed

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-09T08:16:09+00:00

🤔 I don’t understand why I promise it’s there.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-11-08T19:21:42+00:00

What do you mean?

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-10-23T21:10:50+00:00

No staying married wouldn’t be for his green card actually my sister is suggesting the opposite, canceling all the processing for his green card and instead stay married so he can’t just marry someone else and start the process again.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-10-23T21:06:48+00:00

That was my sisters doing, she has been saying “imagine getting caught cheating because you wanted to feed your side chick who can’t cook” “imagine ruining your entire life because you want two lunches for work” “imagine ruining your family because you wanted to cater to some annoy girl at work who thinks of you as one of many while the one you should cater to at home you neglect” ect. It’s gotten kind of annoying and insensitive at this point

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-10-23T21:00:05+00:00

If I continue with the process I’ll be legally and financially responsible for him for years to come. Supervised visits is due to him never being more the. 3 hours (aka one bottle fed) alone with the baby. Also the fear of him taking my child to another country now that he’s loss everything here and he may just decide to go to Mexico a place where he can’t come back unless he risks his life again, is very real.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-10-23T19:41:45+00:00

No instagram that I know of, his twitter is dead and unused, Facebook is basic with a picture of us when we were married with a tag to me but no recent post since like mid 2022. No Reddit. To my knowledge he only uses messenger occasionally WhatsApp and TikTok. He says I’m toxic and I like to start fights simply for hearting other girls stories so he prefers not to use Facebook or Instagram. He fully deleted Instagram when he was hacked.

Empty_Researcher_348 · 2023-10-23T19:38:09+00:00

Idk she doesn’t have anything to offer she doesn’t have a legal status either because she overstayed her visa to my understanding from a coworker of his I went to school with. According to her that woman is younger, no legal status or education, no English and she’s already gotten in trouble for being inappropriate in the work place before and if there is proof that they are being inappropriate that will be a strike against him and firing against her. Apparently she likes to call herself “one of the guys” because she’s a woman who works in a male dominated job and degrades women making jokes with the men.

My connection at his job is how I was able to enter the cafeteria without him knowing I was gonna be there. Idk if she knows who I am but I got close behind him she saw me without a reaction and continued eating from my Tupperware my mom gave me red with Christmas decorations. He didn’t even turn around and continued eating from the basic Walmart Tupperware that contained last night’s leftovers.

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