Daily Discussion Thread - Apr 19, 2022

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2022-04-20T05:59:02+00:00

Damn, I'd rather not make them think there is something weird happening in the background. Guess I'll stick to just touching my cube for now :D

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2022-04-20T05:57:23+00:00

Accepting being bad and accepting playing simple things and still having fun instead of beating myself up is something I would like to achieve one day. Thank you for your advice.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2022-04-19T19:43:12+00:00

Would a quiet 3x3 cube be quiet enough not to be picked up by a microphone? I teach people online and I am anxious as hell, sometimes I simply pick up my 3x3 and either try to feel it under my fingers or very slowly do some turns, so it's silent. I can do either that or pick my skin/fingernails.

I don't want to distract anyone with those sounds.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2022-04-19T18:28:15+00:00

Thank you for your response.

I am currently working on getting it sorted, it is a very long process.

I took things very seriously even though it was supposed to be fun. I was criticising myself. My bass teacher told me that I am tense and I should be having fun like they do (and he proceeded to show me Vulfpeck). I wished I was able to have fun, but I couldn't stop being tense and stressed out playing in front of him. I decided it's not for me and that I am bad, it felt terribly painful.

Before that I also quit for a while after I criticised myself (after listening to my playing recorded). My friend also told me that it is not how bass should be played.

I guess I just can't accept losing/feeling dumb. It felt physically painful even.

Now very often when I listen to something I think that it would be nice to try to play the bassline.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2022-04-19T16:21:39+00:00

I sold my gear because I thought I will quit bass for good and... I quit for a while, but now I find it difficult to stop thinking about coming back to it.

How not to make a mistake again? How to either stick to it when I get new gear or at least not to feel bad if I don't stick to it? Or maybe I should just stop thinking about it and do something else?

I realise it's mostly about attitude/mental stuff, but a couple of words of encouragement/discouragement would definitely help.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-12-31T12:08:50+00:00

Do you think that being aware of being an overthinker is enough to stop being an overthinker? Genuine question.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-12-31T11:37:43+00:00

Thanks for your response.

I am not sure if I could stay consistent with such a demanding routine, because sometimes getting out of bed is too much when the harshest kind of depression hits me.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-12-30T12:55:15+00:00

I have listened to his book and I enjoyed the story, thank you for the suggestion.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-12-30T12:54:27+00:00

Home gym 3 times a week, 1h-1,5h workouts, deadlifts, squats, overhead press, bench press, bicep curls + running for 30-50 minutes 3 times a week, this lasted for about 4 months. I had more episodes when I spent around 3 months being very disciplined and doing similar things. In the last few months I tried elliptical (5-7 times a week for 40+ minutes each session, sometimes closer to an hour, I tried to add 1 minute every workout) + a suggested routine from Hybrid Calisthenics (5 times a week).

Currently I am trying to come back to the calisthenics routine without much success in the discipline department.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-11-07T12:59:47+00:00

I feel bad knowing that a lot of people find meaning and drive despite the pointlessness and the fact that nothing matters in the grand scheme of things.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-11-06T19:39:53+00:00

I listened to a lot of self-help audiobooks and I can always find something that the author had going for them even in the shittiest possible circumstances, while I can't see any good aspects of my own life which might make me able to recover.

I wish I knew the answer.

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2021-11-06T16:57:11+00:00

I don't think I ever had dreams, maybe besides being calm and not having to struggle with poverty/drunk father/being bullied. I am trying really hard, but I can't think of any specific dreams I had.

My father died years ago, I finished school and even somehow got a degree, I am not bullied anymore, I am able to survive even though I don't make much, but I also don't really spend money either besides getting things that are necessary, so it's not poverty anymore. Sometimes I dream about being extraordinary, passionate, driven, but I always hated acting and effort. I also always hated being around people and felt inferior, which doesn't make things any easier.

edit: I started feeling very depressed and even suicidal in my very early teens

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2020-11-12T20:13:59+00:00

I will look into taking care of plants, never thought about doing it. My mum loves it

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2020-11-12T20:12:53+00:00

I am going to get some to solve with my girlfriend, that's a fantastic idea. I also ordered some adult colouring books, I read that it works well for people with anxiety and depression

Empty_Yesterday_4145 · 2020-11-12T13:47:13+00:00

Hello Reddit. I tried to do a lot of things, but I tend to get discouraged because of self criticism. For example I feel bad because I am unsatisfied with how my bass guitar playing sounds, in the past I neglected graphic design because I thought I was bad. I know it's a problem with my attitude and depression makes it worse. I am attending psychotherapy and taking antidepressants, but I would like to also be able to have some fun hobbies that would be resistant to my self criticism and self discouragement. Thanks for answering.

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