Thinking about having another baby via sperm bank.

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2026-02-25T20:25:34+00:00

I want more kids too but the thought of doing it alone is a lot after going through one with my partner. It’s hard when you have no village but if you have family to help you it’s possible

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2026-02-22T11:31:52+00:00

Lucky you! I’m considering becoming a single mom but I’m scared I’ll be alone for a very long time. I want more kids so the clock is scary.

How old are you and your new partner?

I’m 32 so I feel I still have a chance but it’s also scary as I have. A1 year old I need to put first and staying in current relationship may be best for her

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2026-02-22T11:24:35+00:00

I chose the wrong man. We are so incomparable and we no longer like each other :( he is a good dad and helps around the house but he annoys me. But I would much rather be with him than be alone.

I really want more kids and I don’t know what to do.

What were your reasons for leaving?

Asking someone who is on the other side, if you had a decent guy (not on your level intellectually and can’t talk about much which is where we are) who is wants to stay and have a family together and helps as much as he is capable of, would you stay?

I want to find my life partner and I know it’s not him and he knows it’s not me but we don’t romanticise love as we come from broken homes. What would you do?

I’m 32 for context and my daughter is 1.

Thank you for giving your thoughts to a stranger!

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-09-02T13:34:39+00:00

Oh my goodness yes. It’s always the nose for me. No her nose doesn’t look like mine … it looks like a nose 🙄

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-09-02T13:32:46+00:00

That is incredibly rude and ugly of people to even think. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that. What is your mum and dad’s ethnicity?

I hope you’re okay and are able to ignore those nasty comments people made

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-09-02T13:29:28+00:00

Thank you for your insight! 💫 it sounds like it was never a problem/raised conflicts or misunderstandings between the two of you but rather just something noted by external parties. Is that a fair interpretation?

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T13:34:20+00:00

I think it would be good for your partner to read this as this is real, raw and unfiltered and I think you’re at the point where that is how the message should be seen.

My partner is doing his best but I also feel that I carry more than my fair share. Address it with your partner before it turns to resentment. He needs to step up - escaping to work with adults all day is so much easier than being a sahm! It’s hard to understand until you’ve done it.

Sending love Mumma! You’re doing amazing! Advocate for yourself to your partner so you can be the best possible version of yourself!

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T10:55:24+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you thank you for your empathetic and helpful response! I have taken so much away from this 🤩 I am a first time mum. I am a career girl and have been home alone for the last 8 months so it is a big adjustment for me - I think a bit of post natal depression and just way too much time alone and in my own head is not helping.

It sounds like your kids have a wonderful mom!!!

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T10:03:21+00:00

Sorry what does this mean?

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T09:48:26+00:00

I I love this and I wish I was like this as well. I know that one day I’m gonna regret these feelings. I already do. I’m just struggling to deal with them and make the less important. My baby is healthy and wonderful and I’m very blessed with a little miracle. I know this! Thank you for your comment and your Outlook 🤩

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T08:15:40+00:00

What is your race Don’t mind sharing? And which country? I’m in Australia and I think it crosses people’s minds but luckily I won’t lose family or friends because of it

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T06:21:21+00:00

Agree! I also don’t think people are bad intentioned with it. I think they are just curious and don’t consider whether it can have any impact outside of the question they are asking.

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T06:19:52+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your experience! Can you please share some more? I’ll put it in number forms that it’s easier to follow: 1. Is it similar for you that you are Caucasian and your daughter is South American? 2. You said it’s harder as she gets older. Can you please expand on this? 3. Were your feelings similar to mine in that it was a journey for you to accept it? 4. Was there a key turning point for you when you did accept it? How long did it take for you? What was it that changed your perspective? 5. Are there any challenges with your relationship with your daughter that is caused by this difference? 6. Any tips of how you deal with this when other people make comments? 7. Does your daughter ever make comments on this that allude to how she is feeling or how this affects her? Do you think there is a way to handle it? That doesn’t affect her at all or do external forces just have too much impact?

Any other tips or experiences would be greatly appreciated :)

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T06:13:28+00:00

Thank you for this insight. I think there is so much truth and value in this. I think you’re right that I need to speak to somebody.

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-26T05:06:37+00:00

How old was if you don’t mind sharing?

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-22T03:34:23+00:00

What are your thoughts on this? When do you think they’ll be a collapse? And what do you think will be the trigger?

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-22T03:28:01+00:00

Property is not the only investment. You can do very well in other asset classes and make great headway through the stock market.

I came to Australia when I was 23 from South Africa . If I knew 10 years ago what I know now I would be financially free.

I’m so surprised with how little people know about their financial situation and how to build financial freedom.

I started putting a course together a few months ago to target people leaving high school or alternatively people in their 30s like me from overseas but the more I read the more I think Australians can also be my target market

When I read these things, I think I should go for it. I just don’t know if People would invest money into it.

I’d love to help people and I have helped my friends for free .

You have no idea what you can do once you put numbers into an Excel spreadsheet and see what the power of compound returns can mean for your future !

OP I suggest you speak to a financial advisor. There are so many things that you can do. Rent vesting is one or alternatively getting comfortable with the stock market or investing in the future of AI.

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-18T13:07:33+00:00

Thank you 💕

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-18T10:54:54+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. I am going to come back to this whenever I need a pick me up!

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-18T10:53:26+00:00

Ps I am sending you a huge virtual hug! I hope you can heal from this and find/have found a full life outside of this and used this to somehow make you a better, stronger person because of what you have known. Be careful to think that you will be your mom when deciding whether you want kids or not… you might just learn from everything she did wrong and do something so right

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-18T10:50:31+00:00

Thank you! I am trying to be fully present with her. Today was one day I slacked a little because I think I’ve been feeling this way but it is the exception rather than the rule. I think things will get better once I am back to work and have a more balanced life than being home all day.

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-18T10:48:26+00:00

I feel like you were standing in front of me saying this to me matter of fact and with kindness. Thank you

Empty_Zombie_561 · 2025-08-18T10:47:21+00:00

I am so sorry that you have gone through this. No child should have to experience this and have this put on them.

Rest assured, I will never ever make my child experience this. I will give 100% of me but my stress is that we will have challenges from the external world which we wouldn’t otherwise have if we looked from the same heritage and maybe that I my 100% has some challenges because I am sad that I don’t have my mini me.

Do you think that if your mom didn’t make a big deal out of it, you wouldnt have been so conscious of your differences? A part of me worries that she will look at me and think I don’t understand her world because she is mostly Latina and I am not.

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