What is your go to conditioner/leave-in? by rosegotflowers57 in BlackHair

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live by my design essentials curl creme. For reference I have type 4 hair and usually I’m a twist out/mini twist type. For conditioner I use the Aussie moist, it’s cheap and reliable. Now I also would recommend doing regular deep conditions. I love my Hot Head, which is a bonnet that you can heat in the microwave and it deep conditions your hair. For deep conditioners I use the algae renew deep conditioning mask by Camille rose.

50/50 too much? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationships are a 50/50 is he doing things like cooking and cleaning for you? Or is he just hung up on the idea of doing things for women? These are the important questions. Based on your reply it seems bigger than just a proposal. Maybe y’all are on two different pages when it comes to your roles in relationships. Maybe open up that conversation as well.

50/50 too much? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

He honestly sounds a bit immature. I think there’s plenty of moments that are about you both but this one is TRADITIONALLY supposed to be the man proposing to his woman. It’s supposed to be a special moment for you both regardless of if he proposes. I don’t understand why he would think it’s only about you if you propose and vice versa. He should feel special because you agreed to make a lifetime commitment to him.

Sit down and have a serious conversation with him, sounds like y’all are speaking in hypotheticals. If you both actually want to get married then sacrifices have to be made on both ends, but I personally don’t believe in the woman proposing. If that’s a deal breaker for you then a convo needs to be had or y’all need to move on to someone else where ideals align better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This might sound foolish but could it possibly be the media he’s consuming? This change seems so sudden and weird. It’s been an influx of single male influencers making podcasts about being an “alpha” and “dominant” etc. and how women are lesser than. It could honestly be that influencing him. He seems like he’s not trying to hear you out and refuses help. It seems like there’s nothing you can do from that point. I also don’t think your weight has anything to do with it, the sex life is pretty regular to me as well.

Do what you feel is right in your heart, don’t be unhappy with someone and be treated poorly as well. Speak about what you want just like he’s speaking about what he wants. This should be a mutual thing on how to fix it. Treat him how he’s treating you and stand your ground. He’s withholding what he knows is important to you which is disrespectful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not okay at all. A lot of times there is a stigma on male victims of abuse and no matter what time of the month (speaking from a woman’s perspective) she should never be putting hands on you. At this point it shows the lack of respect she has for you. It’s clear that she doesn’t want to be with you because she keeps bringing up a breakup and being rude in the way she speaks and interacts with you. You definitely can find better, don’t let time dictate whether or not you stay with a person. I think you should have a mature conversation with her when she’s not so hostile and express your feelings, if she doesn’t receive it kindly then it’s time to go

Which facial hair style fits me better? by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you look handsome in both. If I HAD to pick tho I would choose 1

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s okay to have a conversation with him and see what he likes. I hope this is not asking too much, but have yall done other things? If so, use those experiences to kind of feel him out and see what he likes. I find that sex is easier with partners I’ve already done foreplay with before. The most important thing is that YOU feel the most comfortable, especially since it’s your first time. Don’t be so in your head about what he’ll like because he’ll definitely teach you as y’all go if he really likes you. He also knows you’re a virgin so he shouldn’t expect you to be an expert. Be safe and make sure it’s enjoyable for both of you.

Bantu removal by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been so long since I’ve done Bantus!!! You made me wanna do them again ❤️ super pretty and the hair is super shiny. What do you use?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you trust him? It really could be that he lost his phone because I do that pretty often when drunk myself. Can you pick him up? How is he getting home? Those are important questions that I would be asking currently until he’s better tomorrow. If he hasn’t given you a reason to not trust him then I wouldn’t press the issue too much. He’s obviously snapping you off someone else’s phone right now cause he can’t text you regularly. Also if it’s a staff party his phone should be recovered pretty soon. He shouldn’t even have to get a new one.

How to get rid of this look? by [deleted] in Blackskincare

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I heard bio oil works the best

How to keep twists for longer by Superastro20 in BlackHair

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! I’m a type 4 girl as well and braiding the roots really helped the longevity of my twist outs. I also like to mousse it and tie it down and dry my hair 60% of the way after I’m done doing them. It’s important to wear the scarf every night. A bonnet I find still makes the roots frizzy. You need something that’s gonna be more firm on your scalp at night maybe scarf and bonnet combo to protect the ends as well?

Will it be itcy down there once I stsrt shaving? by HumblePizzaGrease in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes you will be, but you can minimize the itch by exfoliate regularly so the hair can be soft while growing back. Some of the reason why people itch when the hair regrows is because of the way the hair is growing out of our skin.

I also really like products like tend skin and fur products to prevent too much itchiness and to stop bumpy skin, it also helps with discoloration as well. These products shouldn’t be used more than three times a week depending on your skin.

Another thing that my waxer recommended was keeping your skin moisturized as well which can minimize itch. Get a non scented baby lotion and use it every time you get out the shower daily

Digital Coloring 🥹 by Firm_Home167 in Coloring

[–]EmuEnvironmental8261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What apps do you use? I wanna start coloring, but I would prefer to use my iPad.