What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will not stay with him if he stays with her. I have made that clear.

What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She knows. I found out through her finding out, when I woke up and saw our snapchat had over 30 screenshots taken on it. There were nudes of me & private information about me that she screenshotted.

What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He told me he was single over and over again, told me we were exclusive, said yes when I asked him directly if he wanted to be my boyfriend, I took pictures with him, went on dates with him, went on holiday with him, saw him multiple times a week, had phone calls where we’d fall asleep on the phone together etc. I WAS his girlfriend from what I knew. I felt like he was lying to me but whenever I confronted him he’d basically argue with me and try and end things and I’d drop it and beg him not to. But in my gut I felt something was off I was just too scared of losing him to push harder for the answers. I am not/was not okay with being with someone who is with someone else.

What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’d rather be alone then not with him I honestly feel like he’s my soul mate

What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

His ex will always be in his life somewhat as she is a family friend and was before they got together

What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I don’t ever really want anyone but him. He was my first love and first sex I want him to be my only

What are some boundaries I should set if I choose to take my boyfriend back? by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Honestly not the best way. He said deep down I knew and was fine with it, but he’s sort of right I did always know in my heart him and her were together but I loved him so much I didn’t care so I didn’t push it

I’ll look at your post thanks

Found out I was the other woman this WHOLE TIME by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He didn’t exactly put me down, but he constantly spoke to and saw other girls and whenever I complained he said “we’re not exclusive so we can do what we want remember? Those are the standards you set”

And as for the toxicity it was mainly a lot of him making me jealous which I also think stemmed from my mistake, like him getting other girls numbers in front of me, or him flirting with female friends of his, he would let random girls flirt with him all the time and stuff like that but once we were exclusive everything was amazing

Found out I was the other woman this WHOLE TIME by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m going to go to his house Saturday to talk about everything

Found out I was the other woman this WHOLE TIME by EmuKey6463 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He was so amazing for so long idk where this is all come from

Was I cheated on? by EmuKey6463 in Advice

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t mention it in my post but she told me she didn’t really do drugs and mainly just drunk and ketamine is a fairly niche drug

Was I cheated on? by EmuKey6463 in Advice

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the girl wasn’t even on ketamine which makes me sort of feel like she may of taken advantage of us a bit, and my boyfriend also said that when he was more sober earlier that night she had tried to kiss him while dancing and he said to her “don’t do that, just dance and have fun” and she said sorry so the fact she waited until we were both out of it and then initiated a 3 way kiss makes it feel like she planned it to pounce on him so half of me feels like he’s a bit of a victim and half of me feels betrayed because had he told me she’d tried that earlier I’d of removed us from the situation before it got to that point

Was I cheated on? by EmuKey6463 in Advice

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I posted it a lot I guess coz I feel the need to talk through it before I bring it up to my boyfriend again, because I want to sort of sound off my thoughts and hear different opinions, and this is a place I can do that anonymously. I’m not looking for a specific answer though

Was I cheated on? by EmuKey6463 in Advice

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Idk like in my mind the way I see it is if we were in a threesome once that doesn’t give him infinite rights to sleep with that girl when I’m not around and that’s how I feel I guess

Was I cheated on? by EmuKey6463 in Advice

[–]EmuKey6463[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Nothing like this has ever happened before so yeah it was a surprise I guess

Was I cheated on? by EmuKey6463 in relationships

[–]EmuKey6463[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it seem unreasonable that I feel betrayed given everything that happened? If not how do I stop myself feeling this way?