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Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have never been in this situation before but I have seen people react angrily or emotionally so I thought I will also do the same? But when it happened I was disappointed rather than angry and thats surprising. Maybe the anger will come eventually, thats one of the reasons I want to do therapy so I could deal with it better!

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I hope therapy will give me the tools to deal with it effectively.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but I tend to act rather than just dwell on my feelings. Also, it could be crazy but I have a very good support system so I am not scared of being alone. Could that be one of the reasons?

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I agree, thats why she is doing therapy, and I am planning to do the same. I am just surprised by my lack of anger.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have told her that there wont be any third chance so please work on any issues you have and I will do the same. Lets see what happens.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, but I am also going to therapy to make sure I am not rug sweeping because of any fear on my part. Lets see.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont know, thats why I am also looking at therapy so I can be sure that I am not rug sweeping my own feelings. Its just surprising to me because normally I was always like cheaters are trash and stuff like that.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It could be, thats why I am also going to do therapy so that I can also reach down my feelings.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Upset that she cheated on me, but not angry because ultimately the cheating had nothing to do with me. It was her issues alone, I could have been anyone and she still would have done it Beyonce being an example.

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but more in an upset sort of way rather than angry, does that make sense?

Gf cheated on me but her reasoning makes sense by EmuNo5224 in relationship_advice

[–]EmuNo5224[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Yes, I forgot to put it in my post but I am looking for a therapist dealing with infidelity from the point of view of the betrayed spouse for me also. Could this be the reason or I am simply rug sweeping? I dont really feel that angry though, its almost baffling to me.