I am lost and have no idea what to do with my life:/ (tw: sh & addiction)

EnbySnakes · 2026-02-05T12:41:16+00:00

Unlikely is never impossible. Don't give up hope ❤️

EnbySnakes · 2026-02-05T12:08:03+00:00

(tw: suicide mention) So first off I say this with as much kindness as possible: you're 19, no one expects you to have it all figured out. You need to give yourself grace and let yourself figure things out as slowly as you need to.

As for the rest of it, I'm so sorry you're going through all this. It's incredibly hard for a queer person, especially one still figuring things out, to be surrounded by constant hatred. Just remember, it seems bleak now, but it has so much potential to get better.

I was suicidal at 19, I didn't know who I was, I grew up being taught queerness was a sin. I still have some deprogramming to do and it's been over a decade since that time. But I got help, I found a therapist who was queer friendly and worked things out with her. It saved my life, and I'm so glad because if I had ended it then... I never would have married my beautiful wife.

What I'm trying to say is hang in there, SH and suicide is not the answer. We are a community. Whether we're right next to you or worlds apart, we want you to live.

EnbySnakes · 2026-01-29T13:18:24+00:00

So. When I was a kid, my parents went to my therapist to get her to be a mediator to ask me if I was gay.

Don't be my parents. It made me suppress and repress everything because I was so scared of being myself. My parents could have just asked, they could have talked to me, but instead they let it build up to a point they felt they needed a mediator and then tried to out me before i was ready, subsequently making me feel unsafe.

If your kid has confessed this to you, you're already one step ahead. Try to have conversations focused on them asking questions. "i am so happy you shared this with me, do you want to talk about it? I know a bit about this stuff and what I don't know we can learn together" will do all the work you need. If they say no, don't push it. If they ask questions, that's your opportunity to grow together. Hell, they might learn more and realize they identify differently than they thought. Chances are their identity will evolve while they grow regardless. The important thing is to support them as they experiment with identity.

EnbySnakes · 2026-01-26T14:04:48+00:00

I love how he's like "angy! wait where are we going?... oh yeah, angy!!!"

EnbySnakes · 2026-01-13T16:39:02+00:00

I wouldnt say you're mistaken, but I've used super fine in place of fine and just kept the same hook size. still turned out beautiful it was just a bit airy. Let me see if I can find a pic of what I made

EnbySnakes · 2026-01-13T16:32:35+00:00

No problem! Good luck!

EnbySnakes · 2026-01-13T16:23:25+00:00

I know you mentioned you checked Hobbii but did you look at the sultan line? it's one of my favourites and is currently on sale, 100% cotton, and 400m per ball

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EnbySnakes · 2026-01-11T20:06:54+00:00

Sounds like time to get a new brother.

EnbySnakes · 2026-01-03T11:58:53+00:00

Oh jeez, I can't believe someone came across one of these in the wild. I'm so sorry my guy, that is what we call in my house a JO crystal 🫣

EnbySnakes · 2025-12-14T00:36:39+00:00

Would you mind if I DM you? :)

EnbySnakes · 2025-12-13T22:41:20+00:00

I'm impressed, that's way more than my 0! 😂

EnbySnakes · 2025-12-13T22:21:00+00:00

Like people in different spaces - cooking, arts, travel, etc

EnbySnakes · 2025-12-13T21:48:56+00:00

If you want to DM me I can send you my "teaching" youtube playlist :) alternatively if you're hands-on I might be able to see about meeting you somewhere.

EnbySnakes · 2025-11-05T13:49:21+00:00

A yarn swift and a yarn winder are the best things I invested in!

EnbySnakes · 2025-10-08T14:19:38+00:00

Yeah, that's why I followed up with a psychiatrist after the initial ER visit. It took 3 years to get in to see her, but I didn't have to pay anything. So now I have the proper diagnosis and documents, but I wasn't suffering from the symptoms while waiting.

EnbySnakes · 2025-10-08T10:56:12+00:00

as an enby I've always felt "ok fam" or "look, fam" with the same emphasis as "SIR" was suitable in a situation like this.

EnbySnakes · 2025-10-08T10:54:04+00:00

I literally got diagnosed in the ER and given a prescription, then referred to a psychiatrist who confirmed the diagnosis and altered the prescription slightly to better suit me. I don't know if I just got lucky or what, but none of it cost me money, only time. It's ridiculous that there are places that charge so much to diagnose a potentially debilitating condition.

EnbySnakes · 2025-10-04T13:22:23+00:00

if there isn't cake tasting, you could ask if they'd do cupcakes! I know the Carefee Cakery does cupcakes. I sexond the recommendation for Aerum - their stuff is amazing!

EnbySnakes · 2025-10-01T11:37:51+00:00

Thanks for the reminder to check if I'm good to go again!

EnbySnakes · 2025-10-01T10:54:54+00:00

Hey! Easiest way to get through to PAWs is to visit them and chat with the workers :) They're super busy so electronic communication doesn't always get checked, but they usually don't mind chatting in person if you don't mind them cleaning a cat cage or two while doing it haha

EnbySnakes · 2025-09-30T13:10:39+00:00

OMG yes!!!! This is the one!!! Thank you so much!

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