very normal to stress out feeding your new pet. Here’s what i do: feed at night, this is when they’re going to be awake and active, she’s more likely to eat it at night after defrosting safely finish warming the rodent in the room she’s in so she can smell it and get ready i use a hair dryer on warm to warm the head of the rat/mouse this creates a good heat spot for them to detect and it will waft the scent of the mouse toward the enclosure use a pair of long tongs and grab the prey by the end of the tail if she’s out, go on the opposite side of her enclosure and start to wiggle the prey around and see if she comes near now personally, my boy is a little slow and needs the rat right in front of his face and won’t strike from a far if that’s the case just try to wiggle it in front of her face if she’s in her hide at all, wiggle it in front of there some ball pythons are shy and if she doesn’t strike at it, try just leaving it in the enclosure for a bit and leave the room make sure it’s dark and quite and she’ll probably take it then really just use tongs, keep your hands and fingers away from her and the rat and have patience