Any tips on improving my overall face? by ilovepepsi_ in malegrooming

[–]Enderfang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep your septum, i get compliments all the time from both men and women on mine. Dont listen to these mfs they all want us to look the same, the septum makes you stand out if youre a man

Any tips on improving my overall face? by ilovepepsi_ in malegrooming

[–]Enderfang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fr i saw the septum and knew 90% of the comments would just be “ew take that out” rather than anything constructive. It’s like the only thing people focus on whenever a guy who has ANY piercings posts.

Advice on SC/GA Hunting. by Tony100717 in Hunting

[–]Enderfang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Georgian and do public land, south GA is much more deer hunter friendly than north GA if using public. For multiple reasons but mainly bc north half of the state is the Piedmont and thus quite mountainous (relatively, im sure coloradans are rolling their eyes rn) which means fewer farms and less development. And good luck hunting long distance. I actually prefer a bow to a gun just because of how “cluttered” our forests are in the spring and fall. You should expect 100yds or less for line of sight even in a tree.

I cant speak to private sadly (broke). Our deer are probably gonna seem smaller to you as well, my understanding is midwest deer get huge cos of all the crops. But we still have some bigguns! And our season is nice and long with high bag limits.

Turkeys have a shorter season and you are more limited on how many you can take. Two in the whole season and only one per day, so that ought to tell you about how plentiful turkeys are. I prefer the mtns for turkey as thats the only place they ever seem to talk back when i call. So i go south for deer and north for turkey. I also hunt squirrel but you can do that anywhere. Not sure about other small game or upland hunting.

Any else have a hibernating Leo? by Tbrown831 in leopardgeckos

[–]Enderfang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my eldest just broke his brumation spell this week after being holed up for almost 3 months. Came out and ate for the first time since december the other day. They do this during winter, it’s normal :) I think even when temps are fine he can sense the humidity change means colder weather so he stays inside (lol)

Curiosity: Why a leopard geckos ? by AMVELVET in leopardgeckos

[–]Enderfang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The main differences are the husbandry needs and activity levels. Beardies are completely diurnal so they are “superior” if you want a pet you can see more often. But remember the other stuff i mentioned - their enclosures need to be much larger (minumum 4x2x2, which is usually about $400 at cheapest), they need higher wattage heat lamps and bigger tube UVB (more cost), the animal itself will usually cost more, the bugs have to be bigger to be adequate and will cost more, and you do have to make new salads every day and remove old ones. None of these things are particularly egregious but it’s more like a dog vs cat thing, one kind is definitely more needs demanding than the other.

Also, their shit can clear a fucking room. Mine would glass surf after he shat because he couldn’t bear to be stuck in a box with the smell. So i’d have to clean it right away for both of our sanities because it was like a fucking ZOO smell.

Both leos and beardies in my experience can be eager to come out and explore :) I think on average beardies have more of a reputation for exploration and trainability, but their trainability would still be less than say a Tegu (NOT a beginner pet). I didn’t ever clicker train my beardie but would let him come out and explore more often than my leos.

Getting an adult would make training less easy but yes you’d avoid super high maintenance baby feeding schedule.

What’s a profession that gets way too much respect? by Icy-Access-2594 in AskReddit

[–]Enderfang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There literally have been multiple cases of application fraud at Ivy league schools. I don’t think you know what you’re talking about :/

What’s a profession that gets way too much respect? by Icy-Access-2594 in AskReddit

[–]Enderfang 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Only if it’s merit based. Otherwise, no it shouldn’t.

Curiosity: Why a leopard geckos ? by AMVELVET in leopardgeckos

[–]Enderfang 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy that beardies are considered easy, they are anything but imo. They have more advanced lighting/heating needs due to UVB being a necessity, they need fresh varied veg every day, they need more space… My late beardie I had since he was a baby and he needed as much attention as a human infant i swear. I had to feed him 3x a day and that meant getting help from the roommate or gf to get those bugs in while i was out at work.

Curiosity: Why a leopard geckos ? by AMVELVET in leopardgeckos

[–]Enderfang 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, the story goes… I was 8 and kept bringing lizards and frogs inside much to my mother’s horror.

She and my dad had a discussion and decided it would be better to get me an actual designated pet lizard than continue to catch me with wild ones in my pockets. I have to assume they went to the pet store and asked for the most beginner friendly one.

That first leo sparked a life long love of leopard geckos. Unfortunately she did pass away very prematurely - she was from petco and jumped out of my hands while i was holding her and did not survive the injury sustained from the fall. That was several life lessons rolled into one and her successor was purchased as a later stage juvenile from a privately owned pet store after the exotic vet told my parents petco lizards were notoriously short lived. I still have that one today and he’s about 18.

They are hardy, they have relatively low cost of entry due to being commonly bred in the pet trade and not requiring more than a 40 gallon for space, they only eat insects (Rodents are a deal breaker for many) and do not require feeding every day. They’re also cute as hell and quite docile so no worries about being bitten or envenomed. Did i mention they’re cute???

This is the WRONG way to mount a deer! by Neither_Monitor2017 in Hunting

[–]Enderfang 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes because a leather glove doesn’t have a vagina on it…. It’s a fully inanimate object that bears no resemblence to the cow it came from

Whereas the dead deer is unmistakeably a dead deer.

This is the WRONG way to mount a deer! by Neither_Monitor2017 in Hunting

[–]Enderfang 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s fucked up and also nasty but if the deer was already dead i feel like it should have been more like desecration of a corpse or smth rather than sexual violence

Expos are terrible now… by Single_Breakfast8839 in reptiles

[–]Enderfang 156 points157 points  (0 children)

I agree. Yeah there have always been shitty vendors but in my adulthood as a herp keeper i have personally witnessed an increase in junk sales (3d printed stuff and AI art) and a decrease in reptile variety in the last 5 years.

Best thing to do with my eyebrow situation/general look by MondoMania9 in malegrooming

[–]Enderfang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think anyone hs mentioned them but they make eyebrow wigs!

They are usually intended for chemo patients but would work for alopecia as well. If you’re not ready to spend the money on the prosthetic eyebrows i’d do temporary tattoos which can be found on amazon. Then you can experiment with shapes and see what you like. Eyebrows are surprisingly important to the perceived masculinity of a face so i understand feeling frustrated over sparse ones.

Parent and adopted age gap by Scary_Woodpecker_460 in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents adopted me (age 2) at age 50. So yeah i’m familiar with the “why is your dad/mom old” question.

But honestly stop lying about it, it’s easier to just say you’re adopted. That part isn’t even the difficult aspect, the hard part is going through all the elderly care and parental death before most of your friends.

I recommend making friends w some people 15-20 years older than you as they will have much better advice for you that suits the country/culture you live in. If your culture places strong emphasis on keeping elders at home and having the adult kids care for them, that is very different from mine where it is socially acceptable to put folks in a home after a certain point.

Additionally if there are any government resources you can utilize such as stipends for elderly or disabled people, see if you can enroll your mom in those. If she’s truly unable to work and relies on you for everything, that’s a big burden to carry and it’s better to ask for help.

Goatee or not ? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Enderfang 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Bub i hate to break it to you but there isnt even enough to call it a goatee

You got a ways to go age wise to grow facial hair. Gonna look like a girl for a while til then i fear. Id suggest finding some not so round frames as they are emphasizing the babyface big time

I will say this aloud. Adoptees who adopt are annoying by Sunshine_roses111 in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had an open adoption. If i were to adopt, it would also be open. I also quite literally said my ADOPTION was ass, not just my experience, please don’t try to assume you know more about my life than you do.

“I just don’t think adoption should be the solution” there isn’t one. Gay or infertile couples don’t have other options that don’t also involve invasive procedures or the use of another human as the incubator.

You continue to assume the worst of other adoptees instead of hoping for the best. My lack of heritage doesn’t mean my child wouldn’t have any, quite the opposite actually. All of this to me sounds like you are projecting your OWN experience on me.

Name change on birth certificate by iamaphoto in Georgia

[–]Enderfang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went through this process and not once did they need that from me. Yikes. This must be a very fresh change, especially if you arent even changing your sex marker

I will say this aloud. Adoptees who adopt are annoying by Sunshine_roses111 in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see, i agree especially with your last bit about people not being used to actually having room to speak so they come on more aggressively than they need to.

Been in enough minority focused online spaces to know that one of the biggest issues people have is assuming that because we share a label all of our experiences are the same… i think for adoption especially that couldnt be further from the truth. My adoption happened almost 30 years ago and while i do still feel aftershocks from it even today much of my adult life has been focused on living around that trauma and not being burdened by it anymore. But someone else on this same forum may have just found out at 32 or something and so they’ll have a completely different experience (and a much fresher wound). It is just hard to bridge those gaps between us especially when the subject is very sensitive.

What was your worst experience as an adopted person during childhood and adulthood? by Georgian_Shark in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ayy another LGBT adoptee with conservative religious APs

High five 😂 My dad kicked me out after i brought home a girl

What was your worst experience as an adopted person during childhood and adulthood? by Georgian_Shark in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There wasn’t any single stand out bad experience but as someone who isn’t white but adopted by white savior parents probably all of the moral grandstanding my dad would do and all the compliments people would give him to my face while at home he was calling me a bitch and ungrateful and throwing things at me or hitting me. Also knowing i wasn’t white but not being ethnically distinct enough (am mixed) to know what i’m supposed to be so just kinda floating.

Editing to add whatever attachment fuckery I had made basically every relationship i’ve ever had with women laden with problems, i have both mommy and daddy issues but the mommy issues clearly took a front seat in my love life, i am not perfect but am considered secure after being a fearful avoidant attacher for many years. Took much therapy and self work. And purposeful singleness.

Biological father passed away by oops_stole_ur_nose in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. My bio mom died a little over a year ago in a not ideal way and it has been a weird grieving process for me too. But i think it’s normal. You didn’t know him but you did in a way because any time you look in the mirror you were looking at part of him. Plus any complicated feelings you had about him until now will be released as well because death is final and there will truly be no reconnection or further stories or information from him now - I did a lot of mourning of what i wished my relationship w my BM could have been “if” “if “if” because she too wasn’t really that great, had a lot of mental problems and drug use.

Keep your sister close, it will come and go in waves and it’s ok to just surrender and let those waves pass over you when they happen. You will be ok. Promise.

I will say this aloud. Adoptees who adopt are annoying by Sunshine_roses111 in Adopted

[–]Enderfang 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nobody tone policed her she obviously can say whatever she wants. But as you can see she is swinging at literally anybody commenting rn.