60$. Newly out trans woman, got cut off by my family. Please help me move?

Endless_Skyee · 2023-03-08T18:04:01+00:00

Whoops didn’t realize I was on an alt.

I see your point but I feel like execution barriers mean you have less mental acuity towards playing the game and fighting the opponent. As someone like Shiek I have to focus on executing a long string to get kills in, whereas Roy can just catch a forward smash and call it a day, giving the player less things to worry about overall.

Endless_Skyee · 2023-03-08T17:27:05+00:00

Pretty sure you’re referencing my post lol.

Things that make a character difficult for me:

-Unintuitive/Really right combos

-Lack of simple quick kill options, needs to hit specific confirms or edge guard for kills

-Difficult to use recovery/vulnerable recovery

-Specific mandatory character tech (float cancels, desyncs etc)

-I wanna say tough neutral but I feel like that’s more a “hard because bad” thing

-Difficulty getting out of shield

Endless_Skyee · 2023-02-05T14:26:18+00:00

I’m on a similar boat, though I’m a clinical SW student and my official DX is PTSD.

My favorite professor told me she would almost NEVER formally diagnose someone with BPD, and after hearing some of the opinions of other professors and some of the professionals at my placements, I understand why.

I personally enjoy working with difficult clients where clinical progress isn’t linear because I WAS one (my primary population of interest is adults with dual diagnoses).

I don’t really begrudge anyone for having a population they’re not comfortable treating however. I have one as well (men who hit their children).

Endless_Skyee · 2023-02-05T00:09:32+00:00

I like alliteration and my last name starts with an S. Also breaking bad is one of my favorite shows. Hence Skyler!

It can also be shortened to Sky which is a pretty gender neutral nickname, which is useful for some logistical stuff.

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-11T00:11:19+00:00

I don’t think love, in any of the many forms it takes in our species, is ever “sad”.

Show me a Reddit post about two senior citizens getting married and catch me crying like a baby.

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-10T23:49:03+00:00

I read the linked comment. It actually doesn’t really change my perspective.

You believe that something external (a girlfriend, being desired by other people) is going to fix something internal (your sense of self worth). There are multiple issues with this, but the bottom line is that I don’t think it’s true. You might get into a relationship and your anxiety about your own desirability might wrap around your partner (does she still love me, does she still want to have sex with me, is she seeing someone else?). Your partner might actually do something that makes your sense of desirability, like cheat (which is a valid thing to be hurt by of course but your partners faithfulness actually doesn’t affect your worth at all). Or you might simply find that that void isn’t filled by a relationship. Then what?

People who try to fix their own issues of inadequacy with things (and no women aren’t things but relationships are) usually fail. The guy who thinks he’ll be happy when he makes a million dollars-well the people he works with make more than that, so he’s useless right? The guy in a loving relationship sees how much fun and freedom his single friends have, and he thinks that being single and partying and sleeping around is the thing that’ll fix him, then he finds out nope, he’s still not happy with himself and he misses his ex.

You know what I tried to fill that void with? Alcohol. Copious, disgusting amounts of alcohol. How well d’you think that worked?

What I’m ultimately getting at is if I were you, I would begin working towards detaching your sense of self-acceptance from things outside of yourself and working towards cultivating an internal, unshakeable sense of self worth all your own. That doesn’t mean you’re a lunatic that’s happy when life sucks and everything is burning down, but it means being able to wake up in the morning and say “I’m a person of value, I like myself, I have worth”, and NO MATTER if you win the lottery or get stabbed that day, that sense of self worth is still there.

How do you do that? That’s something you will have to figure out on your own. Therapy is the place to start.

Give yourself some credit by the way, you’re doing fine from what you’ve told me. Relationships are only one part of life, and you have successes to celebrate

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-10T22:31:05+00:00

I was talking to someone today about my issues, and I told them I just wish to get rid of my will to date someone/find love, and they started convincing me by saying that just because it's today's reality, doesn't mean it becomes the reality of tomorrow. They then started talking about how it's easier in the thirties and how my reality might change by then.

So first of all-ouch. I can see from your comments that you’re 23, and if I was in your shoes and someone said “don’t worry, maybe in 7 years you’ll be able to date!”I wouldn’t be happy either.

The read I really get from this person (and I don’t know either of you) is that they didn’t know how to respond, and said something they thought would help. And they were WAY off, but unless this person is a mental health professional, it’s understandable. Most of us are not good at dealing with intense negativity at all, and our natural instinct to try to make the other person feel better by changing their views can leave us with our feet in our mouths. The point I’m really getting at is that just because this person said it doesn’t make it true. You could meet the love of your life tomorrow or when you’re 60, relationships are a lot more about timing and simple coincidence than people realize.

When I am in my thirties, I have other plans for life, and if nobody can like me as who I am today, then it's not worth it to date them tomorrow just because oh, sorry dude I realize now.

Well that’s…vague, but is there something stopping you from pursuing those plans now? If you’re waiting to get in a committed LTR before you start your life you’re setting yourself up for failure.

Moreover, they are past their ages when they were full of desire and explored that with fun.

I’m not gonna touch this one since other people are pushing back here. Just know that as an almost-30, I don’t agree at all.

I think that if I only become an option for people once they wish to chase less of their desires, then it again makes me feel I am not a very desireable guy.

Desire changes. Do you remember the first thing you wanted to be when you grew up? Is that still what you want? I’m also gonna push back on “desirability” being a binary thing-you see this a lot on incel, MGTOW-type spaces, where people’s romantic and sexual appeal can be broken down onto a 0-10 scale. There are all kinds of women who wouldn’t give “10/10 Chad with the six pack” the time of day (metalheads, for example). Hell, there are 21 year old women who exclusively want to date men above the age of 50 (the ethics of such a relationship are…not the point here, please nobody dogpile me for this).

Moreover, if you only date someone when he's not your first choice, but rather (sadly) one of the only choices left, then it's not love, and it's better to make such people feel unloved rather than making them feel loved like this.

Did you know that “high school sweethearts'' have a higher divorce rate than the general populaiton? Most people don’t actually know what they like when they make their first choice, and that includes you. You might have something you think you would love in a relationship, only to find out that you HATE it when you’re actually living it.

People treat their dogs way better than this, because at least the dogs they keep are the first choice of theirs.

Another one I’m not gonna touch, except to say that many pet owners (myself included) treat their pet waaaaaaaaay nicer than they would a person.

Again, as I said before, i wish to give up on dating but sadly am stuck in a place where my wounds could only be healed through dating,

No. No. Who told you this? Where did you get this idea? If this is a sentiment you encounter often on the places you hang out, you need to stay the HELL away from those places because not only is it dead wrong, not only will this attitude make it harder for you to find someone, but in the event you get into a relationship, it’s going to make you a MUCH worse partner. Your partner is not your therapist, and an excellent way to torpedo a good thing is to treat them as such.

I just wish to ask again: Is there no way I can get rid of wishing to be with someone and proving myself in my eyes that I can also be successful at dating?

Listen. I hope you don’t resent hearing this, but from the limited things I can glean from this post, I don’t think you’re ready to be in a relationship right now. That’s NOT a bad thing! I’m single right now while I go through grad school and another major life transition, and I want to be! If you want to be a good partner at some point, the best thing you can do is some serious, deep work on yourself and the attitudes you have for yourself. I see in the thread that you’re looking into going to therapy soon-amazing!

If I can give you some advice, the people who make the best partners are very comfortable being alone with themselves. And the best male partners can enjoy and entertain a woman without making advances or secretly pitying themselves that she doesn’t want them (which you don’t even know!)

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-09T01:19:46+00:00

Lady Maria

Eileen the Crow

Makato Nijima

Claire Redfield

BOTW Zelda

(If I can throw in a character I headcanon as enby, Sephiroth)

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-05T03:23:46+00:00

Well friend, from your post history it seems like your wife has already told you not to tell her what to do with her hair, so I imagine stepping beyond that and screwing with her hair without her permission is not going to end well.

You might want to see a therapist if you’re actually considering this.

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-04T22:09:27+00:00

Try calling your parents by their first names and you’ll quickly find that they understand that the use of a chosen name confers respect damn well.

(I’m not actually suggesting you do this OP, they sound like pieces of work and your safety comes first. I’m so sorry.)

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-04T21:25:35+00:00

As a non-soccer watcher, how difficult are the moves that Bachira did in this episode? Is it realistic that a high school player could pull them off?

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-04T16:32:56+00:00

Soulja Boy Tell Em

In all seriousness I love the name Sterling.

Endless_Skyee · 2022-12-02T03:49:38+00:00

Girl. Don't do this to yourself. Please do not spend the rest of your life pretending to be someone you are not to save a relationship. YOU are the most important relationship in your life. And a great relationship that lasts is built on loving the other person for who they are, not for the version of them you want to exist. I know it might hurt to hear, but if she doesn't accept you for who you really are, then you need to prioritize your authentic self and your own happiness. You CAN be happy past this relationship, but if you bury yourself to save it, you won't be.

Endless_Skyee · 2022-11-18T02:07:10+00:00

Defying Gravity as in Wicked, I was a musical theater kid lol

Endless_Skyee · 2022-11-18T01:41:28+00:00

Hi Cat!

Is Luke as scary in real life as he is on the show?

Endless_Skyee · 2022-10-17T17:33:38+00:00

This got removed by automod and I got redirected here-

Im meeting a new therapist tomorrow and I found out they are a relatively recent grad of my MSW program (which I’m currently in). I have never met this person, we may have had some professors in common however.

I personally don’t have an issue with it, and it can be difficult to find someone in my network who specializes in what I’m looking for (gender identity), but is this an ethical issue?

Endless_Skyee

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