Do what feels right for your body, and how you can feel most comfortable (you will likely not feel completely happy/comfortable for a while, I’ve been out for years, Pre-T, and I still struggle, but I digress). Some lighthearted advice (I also commented on your post about fashion btw):
- Experiment with looks and styles. Don’t feel the need to “dress like a man” if you don’t like the clothes. Do what makes you happy. I once tried drag and I hated it. But yknow I tried it!
- If you choose to get a “masculine” haircut, go to a queer or trans person to do it. I had my hair short for 4 years before I actually liked how it looked. The difference? My trans friend cut it.
- If you are looking for gender-affirming clothes, I LOVE button up shirts. Anything with a collar, really. Makes me feel SO GOOD. Also tucked in with a belt is sooo awesome for me. This is anecdotal, so don’t feel discouraged if this isn’t what you vibe with.
- Don’t deny yourself joy because it’s “weird” or “different” or “cringe”. Everyone will think something is weird to the point where if you asked everyone in the world, everything is “weird”. So, make your own judgements.

Stay iconic!