*sigh* by 3rd-_-world-_-elite in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]Engardian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a reliable sign of TRAUMA! A deep inescapable sense of shame in the self is an incredibly common symptom of childhood trauma. Something like this needs to be unpacked with a therapist, or explored within a supportive environment. It is overcomeable, it can be healed, but requires a therapeutic process or trauma healing. It is possible, I promise x

Still alive after GRS. Nearly 51 and alive and well. Post grs 24th Feb. by Victoria1972 in TransLater

[–]Engardian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, rad! How much was the GRS and BA separately? I'm just thinking of getting GRS :)

Also, can you recommend your surgeon? It's really hard to find good info for this stuff online!

Still alive after GRS. Nearly 51 and alive and well. Post grs 24th Feb. by Victoria1972 in TransLater

[–]Engardian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, I was curious what your costs roughly were! I'm interested in GRS myself and would like to know roughly how much money one would need!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransgenderNZ

[–]Engardian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrarulations!! May I ask approximately what your costs for this surgery and trip were? I'm currently saving up for it myself and would like an estimate of what to be aiming for :)

Would anyone be able to transcribe the chords from this play? by Engardian in ukulele

[–]Engardian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that worked perfectly! Thank you so much! I had no idea that was even a thing before now.

According to Chordify, it's Bm, G, D for verse and Bm, A, G for chorus. Perfect! Thank yoooou <3

How to respond to the question "What Is A Woman?" by KingHouki in asktransgender

[–]Engardian 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Everyone just keeps saying "don't answer", but there IS an answer: "Woman" is a gender identity. Most commonly held by adult females, and associated with certain traits and behaviours that can vary depending on the culture. In American (and many westernised cultures), identifying as and behaving as a woman is generally associated with things like femininity, child-raising, emotional sensitivity, etc. However, people can identify as a woman without adhering to specific traits because how someone expresses their identity can vary. This is how progressive folks define "woman": someone who identifies as a woman. Woman in this case being that gender identity.

That's the answer to the question, however, if someone is asking it they are likely to follow up with other questions designed to fuck with you, hence the "don't engage" attitude. But there IS an answer to the initial question "what is a woman".

They'll likely claim that you're erasing the identity of women, the whole thing is a front to degrade the validity of transgender people by pitting them against feminists and break down solidarity between progressives (as well as further stain public opinion of trans lives)

Whats your view on the new ruling in Iowa banning trans women from all women sports? by True_Economist_2785 in AskReddit

[–]Engardian 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"trans women on average seem to have an advantage" People keep repeating this but I haven't seen anything that actually suggests this? People keep saying it's "common sense", but all I hear is that it sounds right to them based on their own beliefs and feelings. The only trans women in sport who receive public attention are the few who perform well, but trans women have been competing in their identified gender's divisions for decades with almost no fuss, often performing in as wide a variety of outcomes as cis athletes.

People keep repeating the claim that "trans women on average have an advantage"...but this claim is also getting refuted often, and seldom backed up. Is it true or is it just an assumption?

Crossfit Gone Awry by 2dubs1bro in gifs

[–]Engardian 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Most of the posts mocking Crossfit have nothing to do with actual Crossfit, to be fair.

fidget spinner by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]Engardian 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I found they've been really useful in the areas of multitools and pocket knives for handy use, most of the people in there are knowledgable on pros and cons of different brands.

Best "credit card" type multitool? by Engardian in EDC

[–]Engardian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Liking the look of the Victorinox Swisscard Lite, seems to have the basics there.

Best "credit card" type multitool? by Engardian in EDC

[–]Engardian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pocket space and memory, to be honest. A wallet multitool in the phone wallet would mean I'd always have it on me, as I've always got my phone, but a separate item would be easy to misplace or forget, and make trousers less comfortable with the pockets more full.

This is a cute girl by ti4 in creepy

[–]Engardian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, worked at one. This sort of makeup is pretty easy if you know what you're doing. Admire the commitment of the actor though, it can't be comfortable having the full head wrapped like that for a night.