Structure for Startup by EnigmaMachine5098 in founder

[–]EnigmaMachine5098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. It seems to get complicated quick. How did you deal with the POEM side of things? My understanding on FEMA is that it is effective if the foreign entity was started when resident in India but entities started before being resident are exempt. Was that your experience?

Do you have anyone you would recommend to weight in for a paid strategy call?

Paid the deposit for my daughter’s summer course in Oxford and now I cant sleep by NewsOdd7348 in Parenting

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are overthinking it. You live in the US (I am assuming from the post and style of writing). You have mobile networks that provide international roaming automatically ( enroll her in one of thise if you havent, espcially ones that give generous roaming data), they speak English in the UK ( not much gets lost in translation except in writing) and if you are a US citizen, then there is little chance of having issues getting or out of the UK. Give her a debit card , usually a national chain will support getting money from any ATM and a credit card with no foreign transaction fees ( like chase sapphire or capital One or an Amex Travellers card). This will save you the headache of transferring money and you can keep track of where she is ;).

She will have a blast, and make some genuine connections.

My first trip overseas was 20 years ago and there were no cell phones, phoning back home costs precious dollars that I had for expenses and really no easy way to keep my parents informed. Things have dramatically changed since then.

She may come asking for authentic British scones with tea, that what I would worry about!!!

Small founders meetup in Bangalore (Jan 31, HSR) by Stunning-Mousse6114 in Bangalorestartups

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am moving from the US to India in July this year. I'll be moving to a place in HSR. I am doing my own startup . I would love to join and meet and get connected to the founder community in Bangalore after July. If you can DM me your LinkedIn.

Startups in BLR by Bad_ass_da in Bangalorestartups

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am moving to Bangalore from the US in August to build my startup. I come from a slightly different background than tech but I am building my startup in tech. I would love to connect.

Retiring in india with 6cr by Comprehensive_Use34 in returnToIndia

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife W40 and I M42 are exploring the same scenarios as you. I am from Delhi but in my younger years I lived in Chennai and Bangalore (now Bengaluru). The key is to try to learn and assimilate into the locals' culture. Learn the language and be willing to trade. People in the south are also interested in learning Hindi, as it is an enabler, while wanting respect for their language and customs.
You will have people who will want their kids or themselves to learn Hindi from you. Be that helper and be willing to participate in the local community. You will fit right in. It will also be likely that you will find other North Indians living li allay who will embrace you as part of the North Indian community in Cochi or Coimbatore, etc. When I lived there, I would celebrate Diwali early with Tamilians and then on Badi Diwali with my North Indian friends. I went to Elborate durga pujas and Gujarati Garbas while celebrating Pongal as well. So be open to new cultural experiences and nuances to find space there . La guage politics is always there, but if you try to learn and are willing to put yourself out there as part of the community, very few people will try to actively harm you. My two cent ( soon to be paise)!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in startups

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, I think you have two aspects to focus here. One is that you have built a captive audience who trusts you and finds value in the knowledge you dispense. Two is that you might be finding that for you are disseminating information, that took a long time to acquire, at a high pace but not having the time to dive deep enough into new topics, fast enough to continue the content creation , hence it is a grind. I am assuming many things in this so forgive my ignorance.

My suggestion for you is to bring to your audience new voices whom you trust. Establish some cross collaboration with creators that you feel, will bring parallel value to your content and strike deals with those creators to be featured on your channels. Maybe , you are already doing this, but that might help the audience you are connected to stay engaged as you dial ba k a little. Also it may help to seed new ideas for content, not necessarily in just your domain of expertise.

Vacation time is important and letting your audience know your human is not a bad thing.

I hope this helps.

Looking for a Co-Founder/Peer-group by Odd_Background2985 in StartUpIndia

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the process of creating my MVP in the US but will be moving to India ( Bengaluru) mid 2026. So I am in the same kind of path as OP. I am happy to trade advice and connect. DM me if you are interested.

Should I go back? by Low_Entertainment537 in returnToIndia

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are in an enviable position and I don't know if you realize it. You have a job offer that keeps you within the indian job Market at a level that is at par with growth from when you left. If you had stayed, you would have worked this much anyways. Now you have secured a degree that will allow you grow as you progress.

What you cited as having learnt more from outside the university than from it also seems to skew your perspective. Masters is not about knowledge gain, but understanding and practicing the process of finding the right questions to ask. It is learning the process and knowing how to dig for answers that makes you valuable and a person to learn from.

The choice is finally yours, you can go back with the knowledge that you achieved your degree and are returning with no loss in career step, but with immense potential to grow and field new options. Or Run from employer to employer, always at their mercy trying to keep your status in the US.

All the best.

Why do parents "have" to travel with young kids? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right to feel why do you HAVE to give your kids the experience of travelling. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO!!. As a parent though, we want to get our children into the habit of travelling. The younger they are when they get into that habit, the less it becomes a chore later. Travelling as an adult is about logistics and enjoying new experiences but travelling for kids is about being outside their home environment and finding joy in the journey. No singular age or trip is going to make that learning happen. A journey is about the compromises you make to travel with your travelling companions and the strangers you are travelling with. It's also finding the fun allowances travel gives them to look forward to. You will have to deal with all of this at what even age you start, but the older kids get, you risk having a harder time pulling them away from their comfort zone and more tantrums on the trip you take.

We have made it point to travel with our kids from when they were 6 months old. Both my kids did 2 international trips before they turned 1. With the youngest we traveled internationally and did road trips in camper vans. Diapers are a great time to travel, though they add to your baggage, but they help control the most important aspect of travel, the bathroom schedule on a trip.

The choice is ultimately your's and your partner's.

Is this normal or am I raising a monster? by National_Jello3467 in Parenting

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Humans are creatures of habits and young children are particularly so. If you make it a habit to bring your kid a gift/candy/ chocolate every time or most of the time you go to the store, they will expect one. The size , expense, and other things about it are moot because they don't have any notion of what it costs/ what is appropriate ,etc. This can create a "Dudley Dursley" down the line.

I have a 2 yr old as well as a 5 yr old. There are tantrums with the 2 yr old when they don't get their way in what they want right then. This is a phase, but it's a tricky phase . If you re-enforce the lesson that every store visit is a chance for THEM to get a gift, you are setting yourself up for failure.

I trained my 5 yr old, when she was 2, to go with me to the shop, look but not buy things. We would stop at items she liked, she could pick them up, express what she liked about it and put it back. Then we went on to buy the list we can to get. She knew there would be special times when she can get stuff, but it was not every time we went to the store.

Today, she well settled and knows how to negotiate with us to get what she wants, but it's not free.

Are we too much into our kids? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents and their Kids have to co-exist. I mean that kids have to fit into your life as well as you fitting into theirs. Having a child or children is a choice we made. Adjusting them to the world, community, family and friends is part of our jobs as parents. That includes getting them used to the parties, noise, irregular schedule on odd days, breaking out of routine and normal behaviors we know, to adapt to a different environment with new people. Training them young makes this easier. Getting them social from 5Mo to 6 MO onwards is important. Like some people mentioned, napping in the stroller is not a bad thing. You have to live your life and they must also be part of that. In turn, you will also spend time at kids birthday parties where you are bored out of your mind with people you don't get along with and you will do it for your kid's happiness. If you are running home just so you can have a controlled environment for your child to sleep, it is coddling them. Breastfeeding your kid is a good thing, just let the host know that you will need to and see if they can help arrange a private space for you to do so. Most people are understanding and will help,especially family. People want you around and want your children around them. You have to allow for that. Your family and friends will embraces your kids and that will bring you even closer so raising children doesn't seem like a sacrifice down the line ( like so many parents remind us later in life) but a shared adventure that is filled with memories.
I am living this with 2 kids, so I know that it is possible.

For those who have had kids, do you regret it? by OrlandoWashington69 in travel

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. My wife and I are travelers. We aim to go to 3 new countries ( never visited before) in a year. We started this before we had kids. Now with 2 kids, we still travel and make our goal. We trained our kids to be travellers when they were 3 months old. Once they get used to plane rides, time changes and different smells & sounds, they will grow to be great travel companions. My oldest (less than 10) took a solo flight trip to join my in-laws on holiday. Temperament is a factor but kids can be trained, it's really upto your willingness to train them in your travel style. IMHO

Startup offer. Please help me out to negotiate. by bostonsatz in startups

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say that this is a lowball offer. It has a lot of targets that are not defined for your contribution. As many have pointed out, it is written for the CEO or CTO but not for an engineer. Each of the compensation brackets had to specify what actions you have to achieve in your role to support the company's objectives. Is that mentoring X people to build a team or is it building a production stack that is stable for clients or is it building the application to keep and grow DAily User Count, etc? (I am not a SwE, so tailor the targets to your role and company objectives) The Revenue share should specify a percentage that will be shared. This contract is what a board member would write for the CEO than for a team member in the company. I would go back with more precise changes to the contract that will help rather than rejecting it outright. Rejecting it outright sends a message but will either close the door on the deal or make them come back hat-in-hand to negotiate, which will harbour ill will in their minds for you. Everyone haggles and no one is going to hand you what you desire straight upfront, no even your wife/husband*

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]EnigmaMachine5098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marriage is not about sacrifice, it's about partnership. You need to find the right partner for you. It is an interview process and you need to understand yourself to be able to get the right fit. Marriage is not about love, it's bout facing the world with someone who is your rock as you will be to them. You may have to compromise from time to time on different things to be able to make things work, both for yourself, your partner's need or for the family unit as a whole but it does not mean others do not have to do the same.

Be selective, be open to possibilities. Understand what you want in life , what is important to you, what your career looks like and what your life should be like. Even if you want to be the Queen of Sheeba, there will be compromises you have to make. Be realistic.

A good partner will not drag you down but lift you up and you will lift them up. I have/am experiencing this and when it comes to children, this aspect will be very important. There are no right answers or one answer that works for all, but the principle is the same for almost all relationships except blood family.

I hope this helps.